Do you believe that you lose the things you give to previous partners that you otherwise could have saved for the one you will eventually marry?

[Heartache0405]

Things like trust for example? Do you consider things like that to be something that can be used up if given too easily/hastily?

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+1 y

The pic wasn't the one I meant to use. The one I meant to use said something like this: "At a wedding you are at the alter with your SO and as the vows are being said one of your SO's exes come up and hold his/her hand. He/she says these people are those he/she had given part of their heart to and that they could never fully give their entire heart to you. Even though they no longer mean anything anymore to him/her

[VanillaSalt]

I’ve lost trust… I see what women (and men) are doing these days and I know I can’t trust anyone until I’ve vetted them. I was much happier believing people were naturally good but that was just me basing everyone off myself and what I am and try to be. After your betrayed and have your heart ripped out by someone you care about enough times you lose not only trust but the desire to care…


For instance all the times you’ve seen women being hurt in public these days and nobody steps up to help them. If they won’t help women they definitely won’t help me… I have to care for myself because nobody else will. Now these days marriage won’t happen I refuse. People arnt good enough to measure up to my idea of marriage so I’ll stick with LTR. As for kids… if I have any she’s doing a paternity test or I’m not signing the birth certificate. I can’t stop to help with a flat because I might get blamed for something I didn’t do in the worst case in a best case I wasted my precious time for someone else that more then likely cannot appreciate that sacrifice.

[Preston_Tatum]

Short answer-yes. That doesn’t mean you won’t give some of those better qualities to your future spouse but it seems like if one didn’t give themselves to so many people, theyd have a more “fuller” person to give out. You are what you choose to be, not what you’ve done

[PhoenixAl]

Life is a circle. You lose something and you gain something. For example you lose trust but you gain experience. You don't look at people the same way you get more careful around people and become more picky, which results positive for you in longterm. Trust the process.
Nothing good comes without a bad thing and no bad thing comes without a good one.

[Desconhecida]

No. The more we share love, the more we have to give away. With the right person, things will always feel like a first since all the past times weren't as special.

[Jamie05rhs]

Absolutely. And I will give you an example. I used to write poems for girls that I was in love with, but I don't do that anymore. Because there are negative feelings associated with it. Once a beautiful thing is spoiled, it is never the same.

This is the same reason why a lot of women won't give blow jobs to their husbands.

[Flower7]

Yes, especially TIME as the number one thing!!!
ming other things, that includes looks that have faded and childbearing years that have been wasted.

[Flower7]

Among other things*

[DonkeyDan]

That really depends on if the things that you give are abused, if they are used kindly then they can always be reused.

[JustiReno]

LOL that’s so random that Taco Bell story was more captivating though

[Anonymous]

No. One person betraying your trust does not mean another has or will. You cannot punish someone for something someone else has done to you.

[melanieeeB]

The fuck... no!

[Iron_Man]

Yes indeed

[Babygirl_S]

Yes..