If you’re doing badly, is it rude to tell people the truth when they ask how you’re doing?

Question

It seems like people only ask this question to be polite, so I’m never sure what they would be okay with hearing as a response.

Andres77 · Accepted Answer

Target audience analysis. Don't throw pearls before swine. Don't air your dirty laundry in public.

driven159 · Accepted Answer

it is no one's business and no one would care anyway so why bother

HighlyVolatile · Answer

I like it. Intimate style... unless I'm in a hurry or something or I don't particularly like the person. But if I like the person and I'm in a hurry, I can come back later and just digest it all and it's like we're connected.

I like moving into people as long as it doesn't make them too uncomfortable. All love begins in clasping hands between two people just trying to make sense of the world as I see it.

Massageman · Answer

If someone can't handle all the possible answers, then they shouldn't ask the question.
But, people ask "how'ya doin'?" so often and robotically that someone could answer , "the world just blew up" and they'd say "that's nice" and continue checking out your groceries, or whatever.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

How are you doing, you say good. How are you doing, you say good. You ask someone how are they doing, they say good. The other day as someone was walking by they asked how I was doing & I said pretty shitty & they automatically said good & kept walking. Down the hallway the person stopped dead, called my name & walked up to me & said wait did you say pretty shitty? I sure did. A lot of people don’t listen but some do however it takes a little time for them to compute what you really said.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

It is just a formality. I think.
I always ask this as a formality to people. Just to be polite.

But the close friends of mine know that I will be listening to them as they listen to me. Will even seriously help them. As much as I can. Because I know that everybody's time comes.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I do it constantly, no matter how I feel. If I'm NOT feeling bad, it just throws them off for a moment.
Hi, how are you?
Awful. How are you?
[most times, they never even notice but, when they do, they'll say,] "Awful?"
Oh! You, too?

ChiTown33 · Answer

I usually go by who it is and the demeanor they say it with. I'd venture to say 90% of the time when somebody asks that question they don't really want to know. Or more accurately, they don't necessarily want to be burdened by your problems. It's generally just a generic greeting.
I don't think it's rude if you know your audience.

clampfan101 · Answer

As long as you’re calm about it.
When I do I take a breath and give the bare minimum amount of information to try not to ruin their good mood. If they want to ask what’s wrong exactly, I’ll go into detail.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

You respond how you want to respond.. Someone who took the time to ask, and asked because they wanted to know that if you needed help they would be there for you? well they would certainly want to know!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It's not their business, it's not rude to tell them the truth, this way they will quit annoying you.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

I think it depends. To close people whom you can confide to, it's not rude to answer truthfully. With people who just ask to be polite, a good answer could be "I can't complain".

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes, it's rude to tell the truth most of time. Most people don't want to hear and can't handle the truth

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, it's not rude. You gave them what they asked for! That'll teach 'em not to ask personal questions lol.

RealMarek · Answer

It’s not rude, but many people will probably avoid you if you do that. If you’re not doing well, it’s much explain what is troubling you to someone who is willing to listen.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's not rude. Learn this. 80% of people don't care about your problems and the other 20% are happy you have them.

I know it sounds bad, but that's the world we live in.

We only truly have God and some family members in our corner.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Depends on the person. "How are you"? Is really a greeting more than a genuine question. No random person wants to hear about any shit in your life.

A close friend asking 'how are you", can be answered truthfully.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It depends how they say it, If they sarcastically it can be rude but if they explain to them like they could use some help they might be able to get help with there bad situation.

Slim57 · Answer

I don't think so, I mean they did ask, and of they don't like it they don't have to listen

TrillXHippy · Answer

No it is not rude cause they asked you a question and you gave them an answer

Djaay · Answer

Tell the truth anyhow. Why lie? Joke'em if they can't take a fuck..

Waldoe · Answer

if they didn't want to know the truth, they wouldn't be asking you

dustybiker · Answer

Not rude if asked. I still prefer not to share.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Depends how close you guys are

exitseven · Answer

It really depends on who you are talking to.

Wise4myage · Answer

I think its fine as long. as you aren't rude.

nawtee_me · Answer

Honesty is always best...

Xtendable · Answer

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