Would you dump someone for these reasons?

[Anonymous]

I had been ditched twice for different reasons:
- One was because he couldn't attend I was an atheist and didn't want to live a super traditional life. He kept thinking that just because my parents were born elsewhere, that I was still going to copy my mother's culture, ideas and lifestyle. I'm not her, don't talk like her and will never cook for a whole family on social gatherings. She has patience to cook for 10 guests (relatives and mutual friends)... I DON'T.

- Another time it was because I wasn't 100% anti-abortion. I had my exceptions to the rule such as rape (even worse if it's a young 10-12 year-old girl), you're told the baby will be deformed and have a short lifespan or the mother's life is at risk of death. Even in the rape case of a young girl, he still thought the child should proceed with the pregnancy. A fanatic...

Yes

No

[WindAtMyBack]

I would not date someone for religious reasons. I don't care about their religion myself as long as they don't push it on me. BUT most religious people DO care even if they say they don't. In your case you are the atheist. However the family's religion can make a difference. With some religions the family can cause a LOT of problems. I've been involved in this sort of thing that was potentially deadly - like literally.

As for abortion, I wouldn't really care myself. But a lot of people do care and they care a lot. I can totally see someone dumping you for that reason.

[Asker]

What bothered me is that guy was insensitive to the case of a poor 10-12 year-old girl getting raped by a child molester. He still thought that poor child should still proceed with the pregnancy. So basically a girl's life is already ruin and her going through a painful ordeal will be adding more trauma.

[WindAtMyBack]

He obviously didn't agree. He's a zero abortion type. Not for any reason.

Forget the guy and move on. You won't get along. Don't rationalize about it, just accept it.

[Asker]

Yeah I hate extremists. Their mentality of forcing a kid (a girl's organs pelvis isn't fully developed and it can she can die) to carry a full pregnancy regardless of whether it causes her death or not.. I find that cruel.

[WindAtMyBack]

I don't want to get into the abortion debate. I've been hearing that debate for over 50 years.

But you are missing one very important thing from his point of view. There are TWO people involved. You mentioned one of them who MIGHT die, but he is concerned about the other one who WILL die. You call him cruel, but he probably looks at you in the same way.

[Asker]

Yeah he was focusing on a new life not dying regardless of how horrible the circumstances was. My empathy was towards that poor kid whoose innocence was destroyed, her childhood is forever gone. By logic no kid should be having another kid. A girl that age should be playing with her toys, hanging out with friends and enjoy her childhood.
You're right. There is no way of getting through those people. It seems endless.

[Goforit1010]

I've been dumped by girls for far less! What's the problem? You were dating. The WHOLE point of dating is getting to know someone well enough to know if you'd want to marry them and grow old with them.

Guys have their "value system" just like girls! So you're upset about what - that you didn't meet HIS ideals? Big deal. Grow up, move on, and find someone else.

[Anonymous]

I would never dump someone for these reasons. Like you said you're not your mother so you won't behave like her. Also just because you're an atheist it doesn't mean you have no morals or that you suck as a person. Unfortunately not many people understand that.
As for abortion I absolutely agree with you. That's how I feel about it.
Just think that it's their loss, not yours.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Marshymallow]

Did you really wanna date those kinda guys? I mean you should be grateful you dodged 2 bullets there. And they probably didn’t like you enough to make exceptions.

[Asker]

Yes. I'm glad to not waste time with them.

[Blackcosmo]

I mean the religion thing would be a problem for me but I am also not 100% anti-abortion. The only time I think abortion is acceptable is if it will completely damage or kill you.

[Asker]

I tried explaining that about abortion but he was an extremist that didn't believe in abortion not even in the case of a rape. He still believe a 10 year-old kid should proceed with the pregnancy even if it meant her dying in the process.

[Blackcosmo]

I definitely don't agree with giving birth if it risks your life. He shouldn't expect women to choose dying because I'm sure he wouldn't be able to understand since he can't give birth. You're better of without someone of that mindset.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't dump a girl for having your views on abortion as I myself have similar views. But I would for not wanting to cook. I am a good cook myself but I don't want to be the only one. I find it very attractive when a woman shows her love for her husband and family through things like cooking and I think it's sad that so many women today have turned their backs on that.

[SaartjieJane]

I’d date someone if they were religious but not if they’d force things onto me and all that.
So if the person is forcing their views and opinions on you then yeah I’d break up with them

[LazerBean]

Absolutely, immediately and without hesitation on each one.

[Asker]

So a 10-12 year-old innocent girl that got raped by her uncle or some child molester should still continue with the pregnancy and risk dying?

[LazerBean]

So a child inherently doesn't deserve life because of something that happened to/was done by their parents? Yeah not interested in associating with someone who like to pick and choose which children deserve life and which ones don't.

[Asker]

Right so just let the poor 10 year-old girl (a kid; not a woman... a kid) go throught a painful ordeal, adding more trauma to her already horrible experience? Isn't it enough that her childhood got taken away?

[888theGreat]

Believers can't marry non believers. He wouldn't want his kids sent to Hell

[Asker]

Then I dodged a bullet. That means I didn't have to waste my time.

[Lunatic1]

People have their biases. The second one I would never do because I agree with you on abortion.

[In_Trance]

I would dumb someone for all kinds of reasons like this