What would you do if you were falsely accused of stalking someone?

[petitedollbabee]

My lesbian friend flirted with a fast food worker last year, and the girl she flirted with took it the wrong way because she’s not gay and accused my friend of harassing her. My friend made sure to stay away from that fast food place after that out of fear of being harassed or shamed for her sexuality. Today my friend went into another fast food place for lunch, and that same girl was working there (she’d obviously changed jobs) and now that girl is going around on Facebook calling my friend out by her name and giving out her address and her car model/number plate and labelling her as a stalker. My friend didn’t know that girl worked there, otherwise she would’ve stayed away. My friend would never stalk someone. What can my friend do about this? Her name being slandered online and her private information being given out could ruin her current career and social life.

Updates

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She went to the police and they forced the girl to take her post down, and they’re going to keep watch over her social media for the next month to make sure she doesn’t post more about it since she has no evidence. Thanks everyone for the advice!

[Anonymous]

been there. I would actually get the police involved in your case. Giving out personal info like that is not cool. Your friend might be able to file harassment charges or something. Besides, going to a fast food place can't be considered stalking unless it becomes over the top, like going there every day specifically trying to see someone, waiting around for that person to get off shift, and crazy crap like that.

[SamIam96]

Your friend should go to the police. Tell them that it was an unfortunate coincidence that she stumbled upon the fast food worker at her new job. Tell them that the worker's actions are making her feel unsafe. That she's afraid of what might happen. Have your friend ask them what they recommend so she can be safe. With a good clear description, the police would investigate.

[petitedollbabee]

That’s good advice. Thank you.

[SamIam96]

You're welcome. I hope everything works out well.

Thank you for the MHO.

[SamIam96]

I saw your update. Are you happy with the outcome?

[petitedollbabee]

I was hoping that they could actually charge this girl with something for slandering my friends name and revealing her private information to the public, but this outcome is better than nothing.

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

wow that sucks. I have yet to be accused of stalking someone as of yet, to my knowledge, thank goodness. Since I can imagine how humiliating that false accusation can be. I try my best to avoid those situations by:
- Not going to the same stores on a repeated basis. The real reason behind this one though is not wanting the staff to get too friendly with me and remember my name or what I order ( i hate that shit ).
- dont ever flirt with staff, or anyplace i normally patron.

On the off chance of me being accused of stalking I would ask where the proof is and who is accusing me of it. I know for a fact once I see the person who is accusing me of it, I would go wide-eyed and look disgusted. Because there would be no one on this planet attractive enough to be worth that time of neurotic investment.

For the situation, your friend is in, as others shared I would go to the police with screenshots of this. As they are putting your friend in danger by exposing their information like that. I would also call their place of employment to let them know as well. You dont mess with peoples privacy like that. People are acting unhinged as it is given our current climate.

[Anonymous]

i'm going through this myself. my landlords are stalking me. it got so bad i had to buy a security alarm system in my apartment and a security camera. they would try entering my apartment uninvited and without the federally required 48 hour notice just to harrass. they would mow the lawn but while doing so try to peep in my living room window. they would even stare at my apartment while talking to other tenants and gardening and i even caught them walking by my bathroom window and running to their own backyard (they live next door unfortunately). unfortunately even if i were to get photographic evidence it would do me no good because they would simply have an aliby to cover their stalkerish shit.
the best your friend can do is go online and explain on her facebook account the real truth about what took place and block her on facebook and other social media and go to the police with print outs of the facebook posts to show them that she's harrassing your friend and stalking your friend since she would have physical evidence with the print outs from the facebook posts. she can legally turn the situation around to make her accountable with the printouts of her address and license plate and make and model of her car from the facebook account

[RJJ33666]

It's definitely slandering of name. Yes, meeting someone two times might be considered stalking if an incident like what you described happened beforehand. But it doesn't give her the right to slander her name on social media. And not to mention that fact that she revealed actual information about your friend when she was never harmed mentally or physically or socially. Yes we get it, she flirted with you that one time and you see her again at a place you work at, does not mean that they are stalking you. She did all this with no clarity of the situation and without of the fact that it's a coincidence. You have grounds to sue her for harrasment, insult of character and non-consensual revealing of personal information on social media.

[JSmuve]

Aren't women great though? Falsely accusing someone of stalking and harrassment, or calling them a creep, even though all they did was innocently flirt with her. I guess it gives you a glimpse of what a lot of guys fear and why they won't approach women. Some of y'all are just out of your minds with the victim mindset and think you can treat people however you want. I sympathize with your friend. I might screenshot everything and take it to the cops if I was her. That's really unfair what's happening to her, and you're right, it can ruin her career and social life because, sadly, people these days are too impressionable and believe anything about anyone just because someone on the internet says so. It's ridiculous.

[Sour-rose]

Betta' have evidence of that. Otherwise, i ain't hearin' that shi. I got better things to do than watch anyone on this planet

[Kaneki05]

It's all hearsay unless they can prove it. I wouldn't be bothered because there is no proof of something I haven't done.

[Wise4myage]

That's harassment and she can be reported for that. She should also start blocking that person.

[petitedollbabee]

We didn’t know the girls name until now when this girl posted on Facebook exposing my friends information, so she is blocked now. But it doesn’t change the fact that the post is still up for hundreds of people in our small town to see.

[Wise4myage]

Her employer needs to know too and she should reported to FB.

[Agape93]

Deny it and move on. There's no evidence because I did nothing wrong and I'm not bothering to waste my time trying to convince people.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would get law enforcement involved to clear my name.

[EnglishEuropean]

I wouldn't do anything. Let them provide some evidence. If I'm actually stalking them that's another matter.

[EnglishEuropean]

Of course if they were defaming me on social media I would have to sue them.

[athlete_7]

I ll say yes mive on and tell i didn't like u was stalking for trolls and move on.

[RuthlessAggression]

I'm not sure, i would do my best to clear my name though

[TallAnon]

Slander, I would look into legal action

[vald9inches]

I would start stalking them

[Jerseygirl1987]

I’d start then if accused of it I’d might as well.

[Anonymous]

Stalk them and be their Baby's daddy

[jimmy2]

Start then