Why does it seem like people try to shame people more for doing the right thing and not the people doing the wrong things?

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TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

The answer to your question lies in TWO fundamentals...
#1 "WHOM" have YOU empowered to determine what the 'right' behavior IS?
#2 What criteria did YOU assess about this entity, to entrust TO THEM empowerment TO make judgements as to what IS 'right'?

Humans learn in only TWO ways...
firsthand observation of 'cause & benefit effect' in large part determined by contextual insight of the energies invested to gain THAT benefit vs. risks involved. And second, the 'filter' of an event's embellished retelling by someone allegedly 'more life-experienced' ('wiser') as a cautionary educational telling.

Humans are endlessly fascinated to allay boredom by wrapt story-telling 'parables'. "You REALLY HAD TO 'be there'..." And so, the Re-teller uses their skills to 'fire the Listener's imagination' ... to seek a common 'sorta like a...' or 'when you...' or 'if you EVER saw/did/felt like...' In part, to assume the mantle of 'peer prestige' of BEING 'wizened'. . In ALL human cultures lack of life experience = ignorance, masquerading as promoted 'innocence'. For THEIR OWN subjective 'benefit' parents seek to promulgate their offspring's 'innocence'. To have their progeny to obediently NOT 'test', question or explore their culture's 'status quo'... initially, because supposedly they 'know better'. This oft-embellished prestigious 'authority' is a kind of 'priest-hood' replete with 'taboos' and the institution of societal 'sins'. And the assumption of the risks (& subjective rewards) of 'naughtiness' SLOWLY advances the group's perceptions of what behaviors and circumstances becomes 'tolerated' permissible.

Why does it seem like people try to shame people more for doing the right thing and not the people doing the wrong things?

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Jaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

Everyone is on everyone. People will shame athletes for being so good, they will shame a genius for making the world a better place. Why? Because they can't compete with that level of hard work. We have recycling centers all over the country, since day 1 i arrived Sweden, i learned how to recycle, when i do it correct (always, because there is photos, instructions and decriptions all over) i see people just throwing away shit without sorting it out and the look at me with a smug and say (you are an idiot, you pay taxes and you do their job for them) see this level of idiocy is facinating, people are so lazy and have no knowledge of how things work. Same thing in every aspect of lifestyle no matter what it is, and they do it because it's easy, think about it. Do you want, let say work out 5 days a week beside your job, and have district diet for the next 10 years wich benefits your health. OR! Do nothing and shame the ones whom are doing it because they gonna die anyway so what's the point 🤷‍♂️. It's easy to do, and hard work is a lot, not anyone can do hard work, but botching about is as easy as counting from one to three.

desidoll · Accepted Answer

Doing the right thing contributes to positivity. These people are obviously miserable so they won’t like anything that is opposite of negative. That is why you see viral and controversial stuffs being around on social media with million views are mostly utter rubbish.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

BECAUSE THERE ARE NO CONSEQUENCES TO DO THE WRONG THINGS. SO WHY DO THE RIGHT THINGS WHEN DOING THE WRONG THINGS ARE PROMOTED. the downfall of this society.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Because some people does the wrong things but thinks they are right...

Others does it and are aware of it but claims that it's right so they appear as if they are right...

Others enjoys doing the wrong things and do not care about what others thinks...

In the end, what's right is right and what's wrong is wrong...

For example homosexuals does the wrong thing but would not admit it because they can't be straight and claims that it's normal while we all know that it ain't normal at all 😌

Massageman · Answer

I'm not going to step in it either, but in many cases, it's simply cheaper/easier/more expedient to do it that way. An offshoot of that thought are the (numerous) political cartoons, er, excuse me, political ads, where there is no attempt to explain the "good things" about "candidate A" but rather just to keep mentioning- and mentioning- and mentioning, and mentioning- and mentioning- and mentioning, and mentioning- and mentioning- and mentioning (you get the point) a particular topic on which they do not agree with "candidate B".

NamerOfStars · Answer

Many people have a great deal invested in the notion of helplessness- if there's nothing that can be done about a problem, then you don't have to feel bad for not doing it. If you DO defy the inevitable, you'll attract naysayers; if you actually WORK against it, well...

To paraphrase a very wise man, the world that mourns Don Quixote and heaps praise upon him when he fails has nothing but hatred for him when he succeeds.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because people are selfish and only really think of themselves , most people Can’t admit to themselves that they are wrong , it’s easier to point fingers at someone else for their actions instead of pointing fingers at themselves , why so many relationships fail , because people have a hard time Removing selfishness , they think they are Justified for their actions when really they are the piece of shit

Andres77 · Answer

it somehow makes them feel better that there are other screwups out there and they hate it when others do the right thing because it makes them face their own mistakes

TheNameIsRob · Answer

Some people want to see others less integrity because it makes them feel better about themselves. It’s always best to trust your instincts and not let anyone convince you to think differently about something you truly believe in.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Because then they don't have to feel so much shame about thier bad choices (assuming they feel shame). Sometimes it's not shame they feel but just anger over perceived judgement.

loveslongnails · Answer

I haven't had that experience. That said, I don't associate with people who are into that sort of behavior anyway, so I don't see or hear it much.

ZXCwWRQWz · Answer

In my experience, it doesn't seem so true. But it hurts more when the few shame us when we're going out of our way to try to right. So it feels truer than it is to me.

Surely · Answer

Anyone can do the wrong things! It is only a few that can do the right thing!  Maybe they are jealous because they are in the first group!

exitseven · Answer

It is because there are a lot more people that do the wrong thing and there is some kind of perverse majority rule going on.

AdithyaR · Answer

Two reasons
1. They think it's not the right thing and can't see things from another perspective.
2. They do it make themselves feel better cause they'd never be able to do the right thing and try to stop others from doing so as well.

TroyDT2 · Answer

At least in the USA, there is the oddity of evil thinking it is fine because a majority supports it. And if a majority does not, then the defense shifts to the specific wrong being a matter of "personal liberty."

Alex8736 · Answer

people like seeing others fail due to the fact of the ones commiting the shaming have no life and try to drag people down to their level

AviatorTom · Answer

People tend to shame those who disagree with them, where they are right or wrong.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

People think for example a man who beats his kids is doing the right thing but beaten get nowhere, try sitting down and talk to the child instead of beaten and abuse the child

collie22 · Answer

Doing things the right way is always the best choice no matter what people think or say :)

Brokenodometer · Answer

The easiest way to ease your own guilt over never doing good is to harass people that do.

Mark987 · Answer

Difference of opinion. If you're talking online... they're are a lot of " keyboard warriors"... people who just like to troll to have fun and get people upset.. We live in a fragile world now... where everything you say will effect someone...

Guardian45 · Answer

I LOVE your 2nd and last memes! And I couldn't agree more!

humanearth · Answer

because of all the years of the media, public schools, and other forces brain washing the masses

BLP11520 · Answer

It is more and more common for this thinking. The lack of common sense is scary

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Hmmmm... do you have a more specific example?

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Cuz they think there right an others are wrong

serious · Answer

That is a good observation you made there

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Society is full of garbage people

Anonymous · Answer

Some people just need to have an opinion about everything. Modern tech doesn’t really teach the ability to let things come and go.

Hulk30 · Answer

the system we live in is corrupt

1User12345 · Answer

my opinion envy first second one nobody likes to kick a person when down

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Because they Jelious.

Alexalex92 · Answer

just came here to say hi :)

Jennz6 · Answer

So terrible

jimmy2 · Answer

Yes it's odd

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