Why am I feeling uneasy?

[Anonymous]

It's a silly question but I don't know what to do... It's as if I need to do something, I need to change something... There's something wrong.

And I just don't know why I'm feeling this way...

I just wish 3 years would pass by in a blink of eyes..

[WonderBell99]

Not a silly question at all. It happens to the best of us. Don’t sweat it too much. I’ve had it happening a couple of times and it passes in a few hours to few days. Have you tried talking to someone about it? I usually talk to my friends whenever I get anxious and it calms me down a bit. Talking can be quite therapeutic, you do not always have to deal everything by yourself.

Have you been feeling overwhelmed or stressed lately? Anything that made you upset?

[Asker]

Well, recently I had to broke up with my boyfriend cos my parents said a relationship would disrupt my studies... Maybe that's it.

I didn't talk to anyone about this cos I don't have friends and I'm feeling way too ashamed of myself to talk about this with my parents. I don't want them to see me this way..

[WonderBell99]

Aww, having a boyfriend is not wrong.. but at the same time, if it disrupts your studies, maybe it’s best to put that relationship on hold.

My parents told me the same when I first got my boyfriend, but they came around eventually. Getting into a relationship can be quite stressful. Yes, it could be fun.. but plenty of drama can also occur. Boys will always be there, but studies? You can only study now.

You shouldn’t feel ashamed. Having crushes, boyfriend etc is normal. Don’t feel ashamed for something you’re naturally programmed to do. It’s a biological urge to have crushes/find someone attractive.

[Asker]

Yeahh, actually we had barely got into to a relationship (this was my first time dating), so it had a too short duration for me to know whether it'd disrupt my studies or not, but according to my parents it actually always does. They told me relationships take a lot of time and effort and there will be times where they'll invite me to go on dates when I have assignments due, and a lot of people let their college work for later on cos of their partner. They want me to wait until I get in uni (some more 3 years).

I actually really liked the guy, so I guess that's why I'm still sad. But I need to get over this soon. Thanks for your reply ^^

[WonderBell99]

I’ve got to agree with your parents on this one. I might sound annoying, but I strongly believe that they have got your best interests at heart.

When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was devastated and my friends did not know how to help me. I was crying for days. Relationships do require a lot of time, patience, effort and understanding. Teenage relationships almost always do not last solely due to us growing up and figuring out who we are.. sometimes, the person we fell for do not always turn out to be the person we expected them to be and it can cause a weird sense of disappointment. Your parents are ok with you dating when you go to uni, right? That’s quite amazing! I do believe that you and the guys you’ll be interested in will mature more and handle relationships better. Good luck! :)

[Asker]

No, not at all xD If you agree with my parents it just means you're wise xD
I agree with them too, that's why I broke up but ofc... it doesn't make things easier.

I wasn't interested in dating and still am not really, it's just that he made me change my mind. I don't know how or when but I started liking him back xD So that's how we got together. I just accepted to get into a relationship cos I really liked him, not really for the sake of dating xD

But that's right, not the right timing I guess. It probably just wasn't meant to be, so I'll just focus on my studies and will try to distract my mind from him.

by the way, I'm really sorry u also went through this. Hope you're feeling better now :)), and thanks once again for your help!

[WonderBell99]

I hope you feel better soon! It will get better. You can DM me if you ever feel like talking, ok? Sending hugs! :)

[Asker]

Aww thanks! Sending hugs too! ^^

[TheCleverOne]

I know exactly how you're feeling, when I'd talk to my friends and feel like that I would tell them " I feel like going home but I'm already home" whenever I feel like that I try to hang out with a person that I like or do something that makes me feel good

[Asker]

I don't have any friends tbh

[TheCleverOne]

Well you don't need a lot, I have like 3 lol. Try to do something that you like

[Sofimalite]

Compulsorily and certainly, that feeling wants to tell you something. Just listen to it more carefully, ok? Then maybe we can catch a clue.

[Asker]

How can I listen to it more carefully?

[Sofimalite]

What exactly do you feel? Can you describe it by a couple of words?

[Asker]

Feeling sad, lost, overwhelmed, uneasy and confused

[Sofimalite]

You did it great. I think you have something you don't like about yourself.

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

Did you make sure all your homework is done?

[Asker]

Yeah, I have no assignments left to work on xD