Do you find it difficult to admit when you’re wrong? Why or why not?

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[RangerBlue22]

People really go to both extremes on this. They either admit they’re “wrong” to avoid conflict (that’s weak don’t do that). Or their ego won’t let them admit fault because they think admitting fault means “admitted defeat” even though deep down they know they’re wrong.

The question is can you admit you are wrong (when you know you are) when there is no immediate or future benefit of doing so?

A year and half ago I almost got in an accident on a snowy/icy road because I decided to hit the gas instead of the brakes in low visibility while making a left hand turn in an intersection. The oncoming car in the opposite lane almost hit me. We were both going to a fitness gym.

Anyway I ran into the guy (much older gentleman) in the gym lobby. I gave quasi apology at first but he got real argumentative. I then got pissed off and started yelling back. A staff member had to get between us.

Anyway I went and did my workout and he did his. After I blew off some steam and calmed down I realized he really was right. We almost got in a bad accident because of my poor driving decision.

I could have left the gym and just forgot about it. But it bothered me. So I found him on an exercise machine and I said “hey sir just let you know you were right. Sorry about that.” He visibly calmed down (it was a respect issue). He then said “alright be careful on the roads”. I replied that I would be and wished him a Merry Christmas”. He wished me the same. I didn’t feel “defeated” or weak or some crap for admitting fault. My ego didn’t feel bruised. I actually felt better for owning up to.

Now most people nowadays wouldn’t probably give a shit about apologizing even if they knew they were in the wrong. Especially if there was no benefit in doing so.

But as a man I understand the respect issue and that guy did too. I imagine he sees less and less respect with the new younger self centered generation. I didn’t want to be another selfish punk young man he has to deal with.

But disrespect can have a insidious way of being “paid forward”. Someone gets jaded from disrespect and some point they start being rude to other people. Our society needs to quit that crap. But I believe it’s only getting worse.

So can you apologize to someone when you know you can get away with being wrong?

That’s the question you need to ask yourself.

[Sparkie460]

No. If I'm wrong I'll stand up and say I'm wrong. I don't make up excuses, I'll just admit it and apologize

[Sparkie460]

Thank you for the mho

[Anonymous]

Nope not at all.
I know perfectly when I’m wrong.

And sometimes I feel bad. I cry. I regret. I apologize. I even buy the victim a gift. I even tell them how bad I felt, I give them a hug. And I tell them how STUPID and an Imbecile I was. I even cry in front of them sometimes because I feel remorse.

Other times I dont. When I don’t feel bad. Obviously my bad behavior and actions were deliberate. And I KNOWW I was an a-hole. I KNOW I was evil. I KNOWW I was a piece of 💩. I know it and I don’t regret it. The other person is obviously doing something for me to be “bad” to them. I don’t just be a bad person out of the blue.

[FreyaRed]

No. I'm mostly honest with people I care and my ego can cope with admitting being wrong. I do a small mistake sometimes intentionally to show my confidence doesn't suffer when say I was wrong. Of course I do it to see reaction of people who point out my mistake, because this reaction says a lot.

[Guccigabbana18]

Not anymore. I used to struggle with it sometimes, and it was because of shame. And low self esteem in general. That’s where this behaviour comes from, the ego is too fragile to admit mistakes and creates a self-defence mechanism where you’re never in the wrong.

[Blueeyes81]

No. But its never that simple with humans. A person can be in the wrong but for whatever reason feel justified so therefore they are right even though they are wrong. Two people can feel that the other one was wrong but they were in the right. So what I'm getting at is when I feel I'm wrong I have no problem admitting it but I'm sure the above has applied for me as well.

[dynamicyandere]

No. It’s called taking responsibility. And taking responsibility is an important part of leadership. And you can’t expect other people to behave well around you if you aren’t willing to lead by example.

[sheenagwapa]

no... i feel like i have to recognize because if not i may displease God so even if i'm bitter and don't want to admit i'm wrong the least i can do is share what happen in an honest way of course that way it's a form of admittance

[mobiusforniner]

Life is seldom that black and white. Most people would kindly think of themselves as open minded but if you're operating under the premise that you can walk out of an argument or conflict either being right or wrong, you are not open minded.

[nolabels]

Nah.

If someone supplies facts previously unknown to me or can show me where my logic is faulty, I'll immediately change my tune. I'd be a fool not to do so.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't mind admitting if I'm wrong but I won't let people disrespect me just because I'm wrong. I still deserve respect and basic human rights, even if I made an error in judgment.

[CaptainOverthink]

Generally no.
But I guess it depends on my mood and how they say I'm wrong. If they get me annoyed I might be prideful, it's a bad habit, I know. Always a work in progress.

[RavVid]

Not a whole lot as I'm not a girl. Women for some reason claim they are always right and will not accept they were wrong not withstanding all the evidence that they are wrong.

[ArrowheadSW]

No I don't find it to be difficult. Sometimes you get more information and you have to change your mind about what you previously said.

[whereismyjohnny]

No. I have no problem admitting when I’m wrong and apologizing for it.

[Quackthulu2]

I don’t know. I will let you know if I am ever wrong about anything.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Last week rather than admit I was wrong and apologise to my husband for being a complete bitch when he proved I was wrong I took off my top and gave him a blowjob.

[Pinay_ako]

No. If I’m wrong, I’ll admit it and apologize. If I’m not, I won’t admit defeat.

[spartan55]

What if you don't THINK you are, but actually are?

[RangerBlue22]

@Pinay_ako Admitting fault is NOT the same thing as admitting defeat.

Funny I planned to post that exact line above before I even read your comment. The truth is usually in the middle.

[Pinay_ako]

@spartan55 if I love the person, I’d suck it up to make peace … and to heal the relationship. But if it someone idgaf about, idgaf.

[Pinay_ako]

@RangerBlue22 ok 👌

[Lliam]

No. If I'm wrong, I have no problem admitting it an apologizing.

[exitseven]

I never have that problem because I am never wrong.

[Ehjoh1]

No, I don't have any problems as long as the other party does the same and doesn't act hypocritical about it. Or doesn't shame me for being honest.

[Anonymous]

^^^^^

[runnerboy]

It is not fun But I will admit it 99% of the time.

[AdithyaR]

I'm a pro at it. Heck I even admit I'm wrong when others mess up 😄

[lorenzomichael]

No. I'll have no problem admitting when I'm wrong, only thing is I'm always right.

[Anonymous]

No. If im wrong i will admit it. We should be humble enough to accept our mistakes.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Nope. I been wrong many times before and I will be wrong in the future as well.

[CuriousMufuxka]

No. I've actually admitted wrongdoings amiss others close to me believing I didn't.

[msc545]

Not at all difficult. When I am wrong, I am wrong, and I have no trouble saying so.

[BlancoP]

It depends if I believe I’m wrong I’ll admit it and apologize, but if the individual brings up the same situation repeatedly I’ll just sit in silence.

[lilyanony1]

Sometimes.
I think because I'm wrong so often.

[Surely]

Not at all. I am my biggest critic.

[Jltakk]

I assume I'm wrong most of the time.

[GeceMuhafızı06]

No. I already admit my mistake.

[LiamJHayden]

Nope.