Are you surprised some people like me don't like apologizing?

[Anonymous]

I just don't like apologizing. I tried to avoid placing myself in position of regretting things.

Some people like me just hate saying ''I'm sorry'' are you surprised? It's hard for me to admit being wrong.

[devilish-cutie]

im not surprised, i know people like you, but if you were in the wrong you should say you're sorry at least to people you care about cause you need to make up for it and show them you regret it, otherwise it may seem like you dont care. Noone is perfect and everyone can make a mistake, it takes a strong person to admit they were wrong, its an honest and right thing to do

[Asker]

True it takes a strong person to admit they're wrong. I'm weak. Most of the times, the way I've tried to show I'm sorry about something I did or said was by doing kind actions or even overcompensating the person.

[devilish-cutie]

its probably psychological, you probably also avoid conflicts, point is you should work on it for ysf, apologizing is very important for every relationship, as well as handling conflicts/arguing

[ShesRad80]

we are all wrong sometimes and if im wrong, i say im wrong and acknowledge it. recognizing that and saying sorry is never anything to be embarrassed about.

[ProbablyClueless]

That doesn't surprise me at all. It's just a prime reason that you and I wouldn't associate much beyond an extremely casual level.

[MementoMori777]

yea its called ego, admitting you are wrong takes a deduction on your ego but its good to apologize when you know you are wrong

[Asker]

True. It's an ego/pride thing to me. Apologizing is like admitting defeat.
The irony is I like to appear strong whenever I don't apologize and yet the irony is apologizing is actually strength and refusing to admit you're wrong is really weakness. I'm weak.

[MementoMori777]

indeed but now guess what, you admitted it, thats the first step in getting your ego under control, for example if you dont apologize and you lose a friend or maybe even lover for example, who is really losing then, you admitting to it shows potential and the truth is that them seeing you apologize for something you know was wrong helps see you in a better light because lets be foreal as someone egotistical, i know you yourself see someone else just as egotistical as bad or ugly now think of when someone apologizes to you, you feel that rush of anger just fade away and you are like wow what a good person and it might even lighten your mood, just know youd give the other person the same feeling if you were to apologize, of course it depends on what the problem was but apologizing shows a lot of strength and youd see once you do it and they forgive it strengthens the connection you have with the person and its just positive vibes all around, better then just being cold and have everyone hate you

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I’m surprised. We all make mistakes in life and no one is perfect. So apologizing and admitting you made a mistake only demonstrates humility, shows you are striving to improve, and communicates you may have hurt someone else

[Asker]

Thank you for replying. The last time I felt bad hurting someone's feeling that I was too embarrassed to say sorry. So I tried making it up to the person by actions, as my way of saying sorry.
Yeah I guess I need to work on that issue of feeling embarrassed over apologizing.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. Is embarrassment a big challenge for you? What’s that feel like if it prevents you from saying sorry?

[Asker]

I'm embarrassed about having to admit I'm wrong; admitting defeat basically. It's kind of like a ego/pride thing.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ahh I see. But if you reframe the thought then you can remove your ego. For example I’m proud of myself for many things. Those things are tangible and I can see results over time. Others see them as well and they can be strengths. But if I did make a mistake doing something I am proud of I don’t feel defeated Because I take responsibility and own up to it.

Notice the word responsibility is the ability to respond. We only ever fail in life when we choose to not respond and avoid it. Saying you are sorry and choosing to make it better is never failing and that’s how we improve in life. The most successful people alive (just ask them) have made the most mistakes and they choose to not stop

[thatshydork]

No, lots of people don’t like apologizing but they do it anyway to keep the peace

[Anonymous]

No I’m not surprised.

[LavLavLuv]

I’m not surprised

[jahaims]

No, I meet immature people all the time.