Always being the one to apologize?

[Anonymous]

I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for two years. We have amazing chemistry and have many similar interests. Things are generally good between the both of us when it comes to these areas.

However, whenever we have an argument or something goes wrong, it always turns out that I'm the first (and most of the times, the only one) to apologize for what went on. It's my nature to see my fault in a situation and man-up and take the first step to apologize, but in this relationship, it feels as if that she's never wrong about things seeing as how she has never apologized for her actions in our previous major arguments.

Is this healthy? It's come to the point where I'm already sick of being the one always apologizing for things. Normally, I forgive others without hearing their apologies, but this whole situation just reached a different light after I spent some time thinking about it.

Any insight would be appreciated. My circle of friends are pretty biased and generally rule in my favor, so I'd like something unbiased and true for once.

[TheDarkNoodle]

I'm pretty much the same. I always jst apologize when the arguement gets to a certain point because I'm not invested enough to keep it going. I think in most relationships you'll get one person who's more stubborn and arguementative, and the other just has to compromise..

Often once he's cooled down he'll apologize, but he will never ever admit fault during the heat of battle :P

I'm not sure if it's neccissarily healthy and sometimes you need to stand your ground, but pick your battles.

[Asker]

It's a good thing you guy apologizes in the end, I think. Usually when I apologize and she's in the mood, she'll just go "It's okay", and things will go back to normal. Sometimes I'm fine with that but it really seems like she doesn't see her own fault. I get the silent treatment most of the times which lasts for days. Then again, I'd rather not create another issue by pointing out her fault in the argument/whatever happened.

Do you think I'm setting myself up for trouble in the future?

[TheDarkNoodle]

Girls and silent treatment...well your just never going to escape that. I guess in our relationship it's a bit better that he's the confrontational one beause while he is stubborn, unreasonable, and ealisy angered it never really lasts for all that long...never more than a day really. I do get how annoying it is to get the insincere ?t's okay" that means they want to bear a grudge but not to argue more. I think eventually you may have to tell her how uncompromising she is being...

[anastasia6785]

I don't know you but,I think your friends are giving you good advice. A person who can't see or admit their faults can't grow as a person. That means she can't grow in your relationship as well.

[Asker]

True enough. I'm not exactly sure if she doesn't see her fault, but she never apologizes for her own mistakes so it leads me to think that.

[Anonymous]

Women apparently always think its the guys fault. My dad has no balls and lets my mom do that to him too and they've been married for like a hundred years

[Asker]

That's the sort of situation I'd prefer not to be in, lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I bought him a pink shirt for fathers day since he has no balls