What makes a good girl/ guy go bad?

Question

In your opinion, what do you think causes it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is me to a certain extent. I was always a “nice guy” with a few rough edges. But I was thoughtful.

Then at 32 a woman who I (thought) loved and respected me ended up delivering one of the most damaging insults I’ve ever taken in my life from a woman. It happened after broke up with me. Like most people I was heartbroken about being dumped but I wasn’t angry at her about that decision as painful as it was. It was from my first rodeo in that experience. But what she literally told me I was less than human afterwards and meant it.

She wasn’t angry when she said it either. It was said in complete sincerity and disgust. She truly believed what she was saving about me and most incredulous probably wasn’t (in her mind) intentionally meant to hurt me. That actually was made it the worst.

Never in my life been talked to like that by anyone. Ever people who hated me couldn’t find an angle like that. Less than human. I also still had a “young and energetic” spirit at the time but that was the true beginning of middle age for me. It crushed something deep inside me.

After that happened I went off on the deep end with a lot of bad vices for 8 years. Did stuff I thought I would never do. I did have two other relationships but those didn’t end well either.

I am now in recovery for the past 2 years from the vices I developed. Also go EDM treatment for that experience. I drenched my face with tears during the recall session. Maybe that’s good because I couldn’t ever get myself to cry back when it happened.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

hmm, not sure... because I am not sure what "good girl/good guy" implies, same for "going bad"

how good is good, and how bad it is bad? lol... it depends on how people see these things

but, generalizing... I do believe it is most likely to happen when some people go through one or few bad experiences with TERRIBLE people who are very selfish and careless both, and then this might leave the other person not able to process these situations and it creates a resentment

resentment is one of the things I see a lot on this site... and people really struggle with it "they were not that bad, they were done wrong, very wrong... so they just unleash some of that back at others"

of course, it doesn't happen to everyone and it doesn't always happen this way

RoseySarah · Accepted Answer

Usually trama

Something at home or a very toxic relationship and not recovering from it well.

This usually happens like 18 to 22. Her focus goes from good healthy relationships to quick bad and toxic living in the moment is a terrible thing!

Often she loves the attention and looks the bad attention!

Giving up on real love just finding useless guy after pointless and lifeless relationships.

So having love with sex goes away and it just boring what ever sex...

Mostly till they get pregnant and whole other drama happens.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

I think there could be as many reasons as people going in that direction.

One of them is ego. I will show them, I can do it, etc.

Another can be a traumatic event. Something that shakes the moral base.

A loss (I deliberately put it as a separate category), the closest to insanity state

Betrayal, because it very often causes revenge

Fear can cause fake courage and clouded judgement.

Finchie40 · Answer

I would say it's caused from having their heart betrayed or backstabbed by someone they lthought loved and trusted, them the same way , usually when someone has their heart shit on it changes their whole Outlook on relationships,. It makes it harder for them. to trust again and to give themselves completely to someone else again. They usually build walls around their heart. They are still a good person they are just lost on what direction to turn. , so they take their frustrations out on everyone else around them and think everyone is a lying backstabbing person. Being cheated on messes people up big time, but sadly people still cheat left and right , still to this day. I was cheated on by girls" that I thought loved me , it fucked me up and changed my whole Outlook on relationships , I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl mainly because of this reason , for me to fully commit to a girl she has some walls to climb or break down. For. me to fully trust in her , I had my fair share of selfish girls' that only cared about themselves that only wanted things to go their way that could. never admit they were wrong , that pointed fingers at me before pointing fingers at themselves first. I still believe true love exists , it's just harder to find especially these days

Kaneki05 · Answer

Abuse, mainly sexual abuse if it be a sudden change. If it's more gradual thing I think that's more just a person changing normally, and noting interests of wanting to live another life.
We all wish to be doing something we can't or shouldn't, some decide to take that jump and do it.
It's why I love the show The Midnight Club, it perfectly captures that with the 2nd episode The Two Danas. In which a story is told about a girl who's a talented upcoming ballerina she makes a deal with the devil to have a clone who can go out take drugs and get sexual etc while she stays and focuses on her career and to please her family. The clone and her are linked so she can experience what the clone is having.

Naturally it leads to tons of consequences, because that's life and a deal even with a powerful entity can't solve that.
Point is you can only pick one, and people will pick it before it gets too late or won't and regret it.

Unit1 · Answer

It takes being fucked over to become bad.

Watching the rich men and the bad boys stealing the girls from us. Or watching the girls running after the rich men and the bad boys.

Getting cheated on.

Examples like Andrew Tate and his motivations and his record of going through women like he changes his underwear.

Being treated terrible by the opposite sex. What do you think why "passport bros" is not just an internet fad with 2 words? Men go, where women treat them nicely and with respect. Men don't go to the bad women in order to be kicked, abused, insulted, whatever.

Do you get the idea yet?

virtue2332 · Answer

Bad how and to who's standards. I consider myself a good guy that has good intentions but things sometimes go bad. All we could ever do is live life on our terms doing the best we can without bad intentions. What kind of Bad are you referring too. It could be good to someone.

normalice · Answer

Self absorption. A constant reckoning with the perspectives of others is how we keep ourselves healthy and alert. But once someone starts to focus on maximizing their own self pleasure this trends them away from the opinions and judgements of others until they eventually can justify bad behavior on the premise that they need it to feel better and everyone telling them to stop doesn't understand or is out to get them.

Anonymous · Answer

I helped so many people/animals in my life so far. Picked and carried people in accidents to hospitals/gave primary care, and taught people stuff math, science, history, and politics. Helped people with mental or physical illness, rescued countless animals and helped them get adopted, sleepless nights for sick animals, and clean all of their blood, and stool that others would not even dare to touch.

Nowadays, I am not evil and never will be, but I don't care much anymore. I still care about some animals but will not help a single human even if they are dying in front of me.

HawkPerception · Answer

A lack of willpower and integrity to remain good. I believe that people never change at their core, unless it's through a traumatic experience like a loved one dying or something along those lines. People can pretend to be good people to draw in attention and be likeable by others. But once their patience wears thin, they go back to their true self. Those people were never good to begin with. They were just playing a facade.

Anonymous · Answer

You mean like say Jenny McCarthy? She was raised Catholic supposedly a good girl. But then she went to college and BOOM next thing you know she's doing Playboy.

Odds are she was ALWAYS that person. She just didn't have the opportunities. She said she was an outcast in high-school. She got a little attention in college for her body and she took the ball and ran with it free from her family and hometown friends judgement.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I think it just boils down to repeated negative experiences, honestly. You get one or two notches on your belt of doing your best and then getting royally fucked over by someone you trusted for the reasons of "just because."

Eventually your jovial and trusting nature will fade.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Usually a goody 2 shoes gone bad is them acting up.. Maybe for them the grass seemed greener on the other side, and it seemed like a little taste of freedom from the world of restrictions they lived in.. Maybe they never really truly believed in the principles they lived or their belief had a weak foundation full of cracks that could collapse easily..

Yannae · Answer

The picture had me confused but it could be a traumatic experience in their life that made them look at life differently. A friend of mine will not take crap from anyone, but she used to be the person who always said yes. She's still a good person, she just has a spine now.

Andres77 · Answer

Traumatic events. That’s what happened to me. It might be different for others but…

MikeyObrien · Answer

Reality. Only people who are sheltered are optimistic. As you get older you realize how little people care about you or your problems so unless you're a pushover there's no reason to care about theirs. So just stick to your closest friends and don't care about anyone else.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Never went bad, but became more aware and hard to get and hard to trust others anymore...
I don't even know is real love still exists or how others see it cause each person have his/her own views about real love, back in the past i thought that real love is unified by everyone, later i discovered that it differs between a person and another, etc

Tessafowler03 · Answer

I know what made me go bad …was the people I hung out with …when I was really young …so I went to the school of hard knocks. Did a stint locked up it was so horrible and scary …I never wanted that again…been a so so good girl since

BadApple69 · Answer

I don't believe there are good girls... Just bad girls in training lol.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I believe there’s a bad guy living in every good guy, and a good guy living in every bad guy.

I don’t think someone is inherently good or bad. We are both and we are who we choose to be out if these two.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

Unfulfilled expectations. Expectations can be real or a fantasy. They can be realistic or not, but in any case when they are unfulfilled. we rethink the situation and fild a way to reach our goal. Not always good.

rosemilk · Answer

probably years of rejection or just never fitting in. the parents who expect perfection and they just crack. no independence. being too controlled

Still-alive · Answer

Hanging with the wrong crowd and allowing them to influence you. being a bit weak-willed or gullible too

mobiusforniner · Answer

Regardless of gender, a person goes sour when they begin to prioritize self interest over common good, refuse to accept accountability and blame others for their shortcomings.

Paul09 · Answer

Weak minds. Laziness. To be evil is super easy. Too be a good person is a ton of work.

JacobJordan · Answer

heart break. a good guy was used and thrown aside by a woman and so he promised to never be the victim again and he returned the favor a thousand fold

clampfan101 · Answer

The first possible cause that comes to mind is feeling their kindness is taken for granted.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Drugs, influenced by the wrong people, perhaps a relationship gone bad.

mohannad5 · Answer

The experiences he goes through in his life and the people around him can greatly influence him, and his previous experiences can also cause him to lose trust in everyone and become a bad thinker.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Toxicity in the "air" (entourage), brainwashing, the High Standards Wall that comes from others.

MissStrawberry912 · Answer

Bad relationships and tired of not being treated right.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Many difficulties that lead to change, that goes for any reason, you get enough of a bad result and you'll change and try something else.

leahzrc · Answer

It takes a lot of willpower to actually be a good girl and good guy in this society

rienna888 · Answer

Life experiences. It’s like they experience unkindness from other people and get their heart broken from somebody they love.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nothing, as tney were never good to begin with, just faking. Evil was always inside of them and the right situation just brought it out of them.

Raaj4you · Answer

When you have bad and worst experiences. I have deleted all stupid, negative, bad, cheaters, backstabbers, hooligans type of people from my life.

RingOfFire · Answer

"What makes a good girl/ guy go bad?" Relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Learning you've been lied to about everything and seeing bad people get everything while you get nothing.

mandyfire98 · Answer

For me its tequila

Anonymous · Answer

If I lose money on my bets then I go bad.. Otherwise nothing

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Lack of hope and discipline

bananathunder · Answer

that devil pussy lol

fuddly · Answer

I think you mean bad in the sense of being naughty? That's just hormones

soulOnDisplay · Answer

Two pints of lager.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

Being alone too long can twist people.

alexiah · Answer

Everyone has good and bad side.

siseñor · Answer

getting cheated on is one reason

Lisia · Answer

Heartbreak 😅

Sparkie460 · Answer

I think peer pressure changes people

smahala1991 · Answer

Unresolved trauma

imfreeze95 · Answer

Maybe just snapping from the way they’re treated.

Jupiter1 · Answer

Dishonesty, envy, greed, hate

Vasiliki2003 · Answer

Probably bad experiences or problem with parents.

Anonymous · Answer

Bad influence from friends, people

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Temptation

pethouse · Answer

Trauma

HouseMoat · Answer

Corruption

FenixG45 · Answer

Desire

Teabaggin · Answer

Bad influences

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