MOST women that match the proper qualifications for marriage are average looking, true or false?

[Anonymous]

Hold up hear me out before y'all poke me with pitchforks, I capitalized MOST because I'm clearly not saying all but for the majority I have noticed that MOST of the women that meet the certain requirements for marriage that make a guy feel comfortable about seeing a future with them are on the average side, they aren't stunning, I'm not saying they aren't beautiful because they might be but they aren't stunning, I've noticed MOST women that carry highly blessed genes in appearance are flawful in personality in one or several aspects, this is what I've personally noticed so I want to see if it's true to anyone else.

Now ladies, this isn't a gender war thing, I would also like to hear about anything you've noticed when it comes to something like this, have y'all noticed something similar like this in men? 🤔

[IslaTheWitch]

The number of women who can be described as overwhelmingly beautiful is quite small, just like those considered outright unattractive (apparently, as I haven't seen one yet). This follows the normal distribution in statistics. At both ends, we have the fewest representatives, and as we get closer to the middle (the broadly defined average), more people fall into that category. The same applies to intelligence. 50% of people fall between 91 and 110 points. 16% between 81-90 and 111-120, making it 82% for the broadly defined norm of 81-120 points. This means that only 9% of people are above average in intelligence.

Now, compare this to the beauty of women. Roughly 0.005% might be considered beauty icons. We know about them because they are captured and shown to us on TV, billboards, etc. Perhaps 2% are classically beautiful women.

What are the chances of encountering one of them? Especially since you set the bar high for them. Wanting a woman who can earn based on her appearance, yet is humble, enjoys cooking, cleaning, taking care of her husband, children, and the garden... the chances only diminish.

You can't have everything. If you want some qualities of personality - give up on appearance. If you want the appearance set her free and let her be herself.

[WhiteSteve]

I mean, most people are average looking, right? And are most people marriage material? Debatable😂

To be real with you, don’t handicap yourself in the love game with all kinds of rules and standards. Obviously maintain decent standards in terms of not dating women who are no good for you in a practical sense of some sort, but don’t get too hung up looking for this perfect-on-paper woman with all the measurables. It’s a huge world with literally billions of women. Don’t wait around til you’re 33 to find someone who meets the criteria just to take on a first date.

You want to throw a fair amount of darts at the board. You hope to only have to throw a couple before you get somewhere close to a bullseye. You gotta go through it to get to it. You don’t have to tear through a hundred women, but just experience different ones and really get a feel of what you want and what you don’t. And you’re gonna be hanging out with her in sweatpants on the couch a lot more than you’re going to be making grand entrances at cool events, so don’t worry about finding a beauty queen. This is supposed to be for life, and half of it you’re gonna be old and wrinkly, so make sure this is someone you really get along well with, that you can be yourself with. The most beautiful woman is the one who love to spend time with and the one who loves you the best, trust that.

Don’t even trip on marriage material standards. People are people, everyone has their bullshit. Find someone who has a manageable amount of it who will also put up with a reasonable amount of yours. I feel like looks kind of handle themselves and we usually end up with people relatively comparable to ourselves. I don’t know quite how it shakes itself out, but just walking around the supermarket, that generally seems to be the way of the world. But that’s all secondary. Pursue connections you feel on a soul level. Find someone you’d love being with even if you went blind. That’s marriage material.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

This answer here💯… wish more people would get it!

[WhiteSteve]

@Brainsbeforebeauty Sometimes it doesn’t dawn on you til you’re older, haha

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

True true… And I’m old older 😅

[Joshydavid25]

Makes sense since most women are average or "normal" looking.. But there's Billions of women and millions of beautiful who were raised the right way all around the world.. But logically most of the women who wannabe wives or would be good wives would be normal..

[Asker]

Why? I don't get it lol

[Joshydavid25]

Just a numbers thing really.. Most women aren't "stunning" but average.. Normal in comparison to the rest of the population.. Standard attractiveness..

[Asker]

Fair enough lol

[bobalife]

Hmmm, am I average looking then? 🤔😶


I disagreed because it’s easy to judge and generalize someone’s appearance as marriage/identity justification when it takes one to know someone and if there’s a deep connection/compatibility to determined it. Some average looking people may not even be dateable and some may be more dateable depending on them as a whole person and who they’re connecting with lol. I just think it’s case specific no matter how someone may look.

[Asker]

Then how come you don't really see model liked women being successful in marriages that often? 🤔

[bobalife]

Are you referring to celebrity models? 😯 there are all types of models who are in relationships / marriages lol. marriage fails for numerous reasons lol.

[Asker]

Nope not actual models I mean women that have appearance at model level, they are usually never married 🤔

[bobalife]

I don't know about that lol. I’ve met and known many beautiful women who are happily married haha.

[Asker]

Must be nice

Refreshing at the least lol

[bobalife]

Maybe you should give pretty girls some chances too :)

[Asker]

Nah they normally have a high body count and stuff, I got a preference for body count so it's just the way it is I guess ha

[bobalife]

Haha do they? Or are you judging? 🤔 An avg girl can still have high body counts too 😂

[Asker]

I'm judging so hard, I have too, you gotta see how women act out here smh, not all but you can't tell the difference unless it's obvious ha

[bobalife]

😂😂😂 dam you should be a dating / casual investigator 🕵🏻‍♂️ oh wdym how women act out there? I wonder if your bad experiences prevents you from being open on meeting other pretty women who can be more “marriage material” where you live? I learned any guy can be a Fboy no matter how they looked too lol. I just decided to just get to know someone for who they are because you just never know and what they could bring.

[Asker]

It's more on seeing what happens to other people, I'm just not a fan of the "party girl" type, I don't want to be a fuckboy tho, also there's many women that don't even seek for relationships here, it's all just somewhat unmotivating but I'm not complaining.

[bobalife]

Not all pretty girls are party girls though. maybe you should explore different places.. mall, arcade, park, concerts, or whatever fits your interest to meet new people. I think modern dating, most of the time both gender feels this way about another unfortunately. I just wonder if it’s happening because we are just meeting or selecting the wrong people to get to know or date? 😅

[Asker]

I just believe society is so shitty that there's no going back, we gotta look for the good people left and cuff one while we can, I know not all pretty girls are party girls but I live in a party city so good luck finding a person with the proper criteria here, at least for me, I believe very little of them do.

[bobalife]

Oh damn.. 🙁 aren’t you 22? It makes me sad that you feel that way at your age… I think it’s modern dating problems in the U. S. unfortunately… have you consider moving to a different city if it will help with the stereotypes and common challenges to properly date or meet good potentials? I’m sure there must be some who are also looking for the same as you there. Yalls just need to find each other :)

[Asker]

I don't know but to be honest if I were to move is most likely move to another country cause it seems other countries have women that are far more respectable, but don't worry no matter how many times I think I'm giving up, I for some reason always find hope but to be fair there's a girl I'm chatting with that gives me hope. 🤣

[bobalife]

You killed me with that unexpecting ending sir ☠️😂 is it someone from where you are or? Lol. Its always good to have be a little open and have a bit of hope. I believe there’s a lot of good women, but it just depends who you decide and select on making time to get to know.

[Asker]

Nope more like India, speaking on traveling huh 😂

But yep gotta be hopeful cause it's what keeps us going, the thing is I forgot to mention I have a sorta difficult set of preferences so that clearly doesn't help lol

[bobalife]

India? Now I know the reason you wanna flee our country 🧐😂 but did you even met her? Looool.

It’s good to have hope especially with the right person who may come along and don’t wanna messed it up :) I’m here for it, let’s hear your long list… 🗒️ ima scroll through the next comment I’m sure with endless qualities lmao

[Asker]

Damn mybad, your message mixed in with the rest and I didn't see your notification, I'm honestly tired of repeating them cause it's usually the same things that are biblically written on marriage, I want pure marriage with God's guidance 😊💯

[bobalife]

Lol you’re too popular, I get it 🫠🙄 aw wow that’s amazing, you’re very pure. If you’re religious, maybe you should connect more in religious community with the same purpose and value ~

[Asker]

Yea I might just have to do that cause it doesn't seem like outside of a church that I'll find someone that matches these biblical things.

[bobalife]

Maybe I just helped you find your future wife 🤭 hehe

[Asker]

Maybe so, that would be quite an accomplishment 😂

[bobalife]

De nada🤭

[serenalovesramen]

Marriage is a deeply personal matter and can't be boiled down to a single generalization. Different people have different preferences when it comes to physical appearance, and one person's "average looking" may be another person's ideal. The criteria for marriage should ultimately be based on compatibility and mutual understanding rather than superficial considerations such as looks

[serenalovesramen]

holy shit im yapping

[Asker]

Wow, you should actually yap more, see I'm still convinced you have a brain on you, very well said, it's true, this is my own personal observation because body count is something one of the criterias I look into, which of course attractive women sleep around more but that's quite a brain you got on you sniffles, you should show it more. 🤣

[serenalovesramen]

no i don’t wanna show my brain around here

[Asker]

You admitting you got a brain is a W, baby steps 😌

No backsies by the way 😶

[NathanDavis]

yep... I always told them... these two got brains

[mandyfire98]

Majority of people are average anyway and we are all flawed. I wouldn't say that "pretty people" are more flawed or less flawed just based off of looks. It's an individual thing.

[Asker]

That's a good point Mandy 🤔

[mandyfire98]

We are all a bit flawed. You just gotta find someone compatible

[Asker]

Which is a minority unfortunately

[7Phoenix7]

So you found a girl that's marriage material but she's average in looks? Is that it?

[Asker]

I've met a handful of women that are marriage material and they all did seem to be in the category of average according to society, my brain is linked to find the woman I fall for to be a 10, it's happened to me plenty of times that when I grow attachement they are stunning to me but it's just an observation I picked up that they weren't model like looking, they were just attractive average girls that you accidentally bump into walking out if a store kind of chick if that makes sense lol

[7Phoenix7]

Those are the perfect ones wdym lol

Average according to society or to you?

[Asker]

Society I guess, I can find beauty in women people consider ugly, it's one of my many talents 😎

[7Phoenix7]

💀 Chico I'm about to throw something at u... 🩴... average is not ugly. We gonna have to talk

[Asker]

I didn't say that wtf, I'm saying I can even see beauty in women society considers ugly 😂

[7Phoenix7]

Well say it right 🩴because it came off like that 😌

Anyway there are average looking women that are marriage material as well as above average but you should be going only by what you consider attractive not everyone else

[Asker]

I like to speak with general point of view too cause it's kinda wack to make shit all about me, I think I've made this question with enough of my point of views lol

[WhiteSteve]

Dang, she hit you with the chancleta😂😂😂

[Asker]

I'm Hispanic, I'll catch her chancla 😎

[midnightmoon05]

I am very average!! Love being average. I have been told many times I’m a marriage material 😜

[Asker]

So my hypothesis seems to he correct Lol 🤔

[Astarlessnightsky]

MOST of everything will be kind of average thats what average means.

[Asker]

No average mean mid, not majority, my city is full of highly attractive women but they aren't marriage material according to the qualifications I seek.

[Nefertity112]

Do you by any chance live in Miami?

[Asker]

Who are you asking?

[Nefertity112]

You since you said your city is full of highly attractive women. I don't know why Miami popped up in my mind lol.

[Asker]

Actually yea I do live in Miami 😂

But to be fair my area code is in my username lol

[Nefertity112]

Didn’t even notice lol I just hear a lot that Miami is full of highly attractive women

[Asker]

Yea I'm now realizing this isn't the normal for everyone 🤔

[Nefertity112]

But again it’s subjective, because does Miami girl attractive equals Botox, surgery chicks, because eventhough they undeniably look hot, it’s not what I would personally define as attractive.

[Asker]

No that's more California lmao there's more natural than plastic here, don't get me wrong, there's plastic here too but the majority of attractive women have natural bodies and I agree that's a big part of what gives them the attractive title, I'm not a fan of plastic surgery and stuff either lol

[rigmarole]

Most women are average... That's what you'd expect from a normal distribution.

[Asker]

Not here they aren't 😂

[rigmarole]

68.2% of any population will be within one standard deviation of the mean in a normal distribution. If it's applied to women''s looks that's were most of them will fall. If it's applied to women's intelligence, that's were most of them will fall. If it's applied to women's height, that's were most of them will fall so on and so forth. Average girls are the majority.

[rigmarole]

www.researchgate.net/.../...standard-deviation.png

[rigmarole]

What average means in real life all depends on the population being examined.

[Asker]

Not here they aren't, I've noticed most are highly attractive and there's a minority of average looking chicks, when it comes to appearance society has a low, mid and high, it's why people rate, but walking around here you'll find women that according to society they are over average looking, there's more of these than women society would consider average, but it's all subjective which complicates things

[rigmarole]

OK laws of mathematics don't apply in fantasy land. Pat yourself on the back and take a couple more hits of acid.

[Asker]

*pat myself on back* yay me

[Nikki1989]

If you think there is somehow “proper qualifications” you have already failed.

[Asker]

Well we all have what we seek for when seeking for marriages and those are our own set qualifications, you can choose to deny it but it's true.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Most people are average looking at best… so yes most women who are married are average looking. Being average looking doesn’t make you a worthy partner though.

[Asker]

Yea I noticed that average looking isn't what makes people a worthy partner but I have noticed worthy partners are usually average looking 🤔

[KittygosMeoWW]

I’m sure really attractive people can be too but from my experience uglies, mids, and really attractive people can be shitty lol just depends on morals and their perspective on life.

[Asker]

Well yea I don't doubt that but most? 🤔

Speaking majority wise what would your guess be? That the majority of average people are the better quality no? 🤣🤔

[KittygosMeoWW]

I don't know lol you tell me

[Asker]

I don't know what to tell you 🤷🏽‍♂️😂

[Anonymous]

Avg. To slightly above avg.

I mean you probably find her really attractive. But then you get to know her.😆

She exasperates the F*** out of you. But deep down she's a good person. That's why you want to marry her. Because women who are legitimately good people are rare.

[JordanianNumetal]

Actually for the most part your right, the really pretty ones know they can most of the time have any guy they want so they won’t sacrifice for anything else than lavish riches.

[LazerBean]

I mean, most women are average looking period. So yeah I would think the math checks out

[NathanDavis]

not in my experience, no...

[Asker]

Fair enough, thanks for sharing bro 🙂💯

[douride2]

Most men & women in general are only average in looks. There are a few above average & most like an equal number below average.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I think you need to go out more.

[Asker]

I do go out, bruh a lot of the time I talk to your ass I'm outside, what you mean 😂

[PrettyCrumblBb]

That's just another way of saying you need to interact with new people outside of your bubble. Change of scenery, new perspective. So you won't generalize.

[Asker]

Yea nice save, just admit you thought I was some basement dweller or something 😂😂

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Not really you could go out and be doing the same thing, hanging out with the same people and not learning or gaining experience.

[Asker]

To be fair i observe, it's all I do, I don't involve myself, I observe from a distance, you get one huge advantage when you observe and people don't have a clue you are observing, what's better than experiencing it, knowing the experience and someone else taking the blow.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

So you're essentially a stalker?

[NathanDavis]

@prettycrumblbb

[Asker]

No cause there's no specific prey, I'm just always aware of my surroundings and listen to what people tell me, people most people choose to talk a lot more than listen, I listen more than I talk, you'd be surprised on the knowledge youd pickup by using just these two senses, hearing and seeing, although I will admit I have lurked on people and if you are my enemy I will know where you live, it's facts, cause I always think of worst cases and I prepare for them, worst case this person does a rational decision that effect me or the people I care about I know where they live and in extreme cases I'll swiss their crib, people can call it what they like but I'm always one step ahead, it is what it is.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@NathanDavis haha Ness is Soo cute 🥺

[PrettyCrumblBb]

You swiss cheese their crib?

[Asker]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

That's true of both women and men.

[Anonymous]

What a shallow question...

[sheikalana]

False.