Safe ways to deal with intense stress and anxiety?

[Koneko911]

Hahaha. So by now pretty sure I'm known for being a cry baby here, and that's fine I am. I get emotional over everything and over think way too much. And well I'm at that stage again. Even contemplated baker acting myself for 3 days, and made the mistake of asking my boyfriend how he'd feel about me going to a depression clinic for like a week (no contact) and got sad cause he said I can. Sorta wanted him to say no cause he didn't want the time away. (He's been busy for like a month now and we've barely talked since I last saw him). So it has me stressing badly that something is wrong with us, and me being a cry baby and clingy isn't helping. So please does anyone have any advice on how to deal with extreme stress (2 the point I'm literally crying when I wake up n the morning) and randomly during the day. I literally have to hide at work and pray no one sees me when this happens because it's embarrassing. Cause I feel like nothing should be wrong with me and I'm making a big deal out of stupid things, but I'm not sure why I'm very so scared and anxious lately

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Meditation.

Your issue is that you can't accept the situation you're in because before you have a chance to think about it logically in a fully fleshed out way, your mind jumps to all these scenarios and probably even makes up reasons why they're accurate.

This comes from a lack of discipline.

Some other symptoms of lacking discipline are:

A short attention span

Sitting still for extended periods of time is physically uncomfortable. (not counting sleeping, watching a movie, working at the office etc.)

Cutting people off

Poor eating/cellphone/communication habits

Meditation can be hard to start, especially if you have these issues. You can start off easy and slowly work your way up.

A good way to start is to find a place you find relaxing or tranquil. Like a bench in a park or a porch in a backyard. Technically, it doesn't even need to necessarily be tranquil, you can do this on the bus.

Close your eyes, fix your posture straight and relax your muscles. Breathe in all the way, hold it for a a few seconds, whatever feels right, just make sure you count. Then in a controlled way, let it out.

Check your posture. Is your back straight? Do you feel like this is a natural position for your body? What muscles on your body are tight and fighting against your good form? Fix your posture, relax your shoulders and do the breathing exercise again, find your rhythm.

You're going to feel your heart beating, focus on that, pay attention to how the speed of your exhale affects it.

Eventually after a few weeks, you'll get to the point where you can slow it down but you're going to get sleepy, the next step is to focus on something in your surroundings, the most insignificant thing you can. The breeze in the trees, a bird singing in the distance, a squirrel jumping across branches, cars whizzing by, the wind coming and going. Pick one and with your eyes closed, trying to maintain a slow heartbeat, try to make an accurate assumption about the sound, namely, where around you it's coming from. It's OK to open your eyes sometimes to confirm, but also try not to check every time.

That is a very powerful exercise for people who struggle with anxiety. The beginning can be very hard, don't get discouraged if at first, you can only keep your eyes closed for 20 seconds at a time. If you get restless, put your figures up to your neck, open your eyes, find your pulse, take slow breaths until you calm down and try again. Try to get 30 seconds 3 times, then a couple minutes one time and so on.

[Anonymous]

My wife has had severe mental health issues for many years. A clinic is a safe place. If course I'd rather she be at home, but each time she's been admitted - medical insurance thinks 21 days is long enough to heal a broken mind - let's see that applied to their legs if I get hold of the fucktard that came up with that figure - so it's a stopgap, not a solution, but it can deal with the acute phase.

Each admission has either been immediately after a suicide attempt or to halt the descent towards one. A safe environment where the patient gets a chance to heal. At least enough to not be suicidal.

[jennifer_bloom]

When I dated a guy years ago, I also got scared and nervous that he would lose his interest in me. The way I think you can deal with this is to create a detachment in your mind. I tell myself if things don’t work out with the guy I talk to now, I have other options that can fill the void. I also remind myself he belongs to God and I am just borrowing him while God allows it to happen so if we separate, it’s only a partial loss because he belongs to God and I belong to God. I don’t own him and he does not own me.

[Koneko911]

I'm not religious at all, and I've been with this man 11 years so it's no creating a detachment for me

[MemeSupreme]

you might not like this advice but i don't think you should date him rn

relationships are exhausting as fuck and i think it's just gonna trigger your fear of being alone till you improve it. im not tryin to be an armchair psychologist btww lol it's just what im thinking atm. intense anxiety isn't always the same and really depends what it is, so i don't think any of us will know what YOU need personally and a therapist will help guide ya

[milknhoneyy]

You should try being mean to someone else, preferably someone you don't know. Especially if it's someone who turns out to also have crippling anxiety. Making someone else feel bad is a great way to make yourself feel better. 🙂

[Koneko911]

Yeah people with crippling anxiety don't post their tits On the internet for attention. So try again sweete

[milknhoneyy]

Weird because my psychiatrist didn't ask me about that as part of the diagnostic process. I guess he forgot that anxiety disorders only present one way and being bold online under a blanket of anonymity means you can't possibly have any.

[milknhoneyy]

In any case, you win. You succeeded. I hope that gives you the sense of superiority you were looking for. I mean that genuinely.

[Koneko911]

You're trying way too hard at this point

[milknhoneyy]

To do what? All I'm trying to do is tell you that you win and you're better than me. Is that not what you were after? For me to say the quiet part out loud? To "admit" that I wanted positive feedback to help me mitigate the nagging feeling of not being good enough or worthy of existence? I sort of thought that was just a given, I didn't realize I had to add it as a disclaimer. But there it is anyway. Lmk if I forgot anything.

[Koneko911]

Again u r trying way way 2 hard. Cause at this point I'm just laughing at how hard you're attempting to guilt trip me. This is just laughable how hard u wanna go with this

[milknhoneyy]

I'm not guilt tripping you and I'm not understanding why you think that. You said "admit you wanted attention" and I literally just did. I wanted positive attention because I'm feeling very negative about myself.

I don't expect you to admit the real reason you responded to my question the way you did, but I really don't understand why you think this is a guilt trip.

[Koneko911]

Because that's what your working for. U literally tried on your question then had 2 come find mine question about stress to attempt. Cause of course you picked the one question I had about anything mental health wise

[milknhoneyy]

I just thought it was ironic that we had so much in common given that you assume I'm just some brainless trollop with nothing to offer society. In any case, I'm genuinely not trying to attack or guilt trip you at all. I wish you luck with your anxiety management.

[Koneko911]

Did I ever once say u have nothing to contribute to society? Because pretty sure I never did

[milknhoneyy]

I didn't say you said that explicitly, but the spirit of your comments didn't exactly leave room for me to have redeeming qualities. Which is fine, there's no law against putting people down and you were right anyway.

[Koneko911]

Again you're attempting really hard to play up what I said. All I said was you were attention seeking and to just admit you want attention on your tits instead of using a lame fake question to get it. Just post hey look at my boobs what do you think. At least be open about attention seeking. Sweetie that's all I said. If you wanna attempt again to try so damn hard to be a victim of me pointing out you attention seeking then by all means try. But you're failing miserable

[milknhoneyy]

I never said I was a victim, I said you were right. I really don't know how many other ways I can say it. I just thought it was a given, so I genuinely didn't realize I was supposed to spell it out and be like "Hi, I'm mentally exhausted and I don't want to live anymore, please distract me by complimenting me on the only thing I'm currently confident about." So that's my bad, but also I think phrasing it that way might have been a bit of a buzzkill for everyone.

[Billlewis]

Please don't be so rude to this person, simply because you disagree with their opinion. It reflects badly on you, in my opinion.

[Koneko911]

Well you're back 2 the dumb pic for attention so basically just proved you're a lost cause on this matter so girl bye

[Koneko911]

And everything u attenuated 2 say fir sympathy was just pure bs

[milknhoneyy]

I'm sorry you mistook anything I said as agreement with your belief that it is morally reprehensible to seek attention. Everyone displays attention-seeking behaviors at least occasionally and for a variety of reasons: boredom, grief, loneliness, insecurity, etc. Regardless of the reason, it doesn't interfere with your life at all.
Funny how I am required to disclose my motives for having a risqué avatar or for the questions I post, but you don't have to disclose your motives for attacking me (unprovoked) over those things. All you did by attacking me was give me *even more* attention anyway, so that was a bit counterintuitive if you ask me.

Was I primarily seeking attention? Yes. Was that a secret? No. Did anybody ask you to weigh in on my innocuous life choices? Also no. You were upset because I didn't include "hi I am attention-seeking" in my question, but why tf am I required to? Because YOU said so? And you're delusional if you think my pfp has anything to do with you, and even more so if you think you're getting any kind of point across to someone by opening with an insult. Oh no I don't adhere to your flawed moral compass, guess I'm a lost cause lol get a grip.

[Koneko911]

Says the one who whined, got rid of her pic earlier then did this fake ass attempt at whining to me how I'm right or whatever to try and make me feel bad. Then the minute I stopped giving u said attention u put the pic back. Yeah girl you clearly need to figure out why u need attention so bad you're willing to act like you do. Especially the fake ass whining u did earlier

[milknhoneyy]

I wasn't whining, I was saying you were right (about the seeking attention thing, anyway). You were also unnecessarily mean. Both things can be true.

I can't imagine the level of inflated self-ego and main character syndrome it takes to genuinely just believe everything is all about you. 🙃 I promise I did not have the random angry lady who lectured me about modesty on one of my questions in mind when I changed my pfp—any of the 5 or 6 times I've changed it today. But if you really need to believe I did to help you feel important, then be my guest.

[milknhoneyy]

Weed is a really great anxiolytic, by the way (re: your actual question). But sometimes it makes you use made-up words like I did above when I said "self-ego" lol.

Anyway, my original point here was the irony in the fact that we both have what sounds like severe, sometimes poorly-managed anxiety, and I've seen plenty of examples of attention-seeking behaviors from your activity here also. It's too bad you're not as open-minded as you claim—we probably would have gotten along fine if you were. I'm a girl's girl through and through and a big fan of uplifting other women. Catch me not judging you for seeking attention for literally any reason, ever. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Anyway, I hope you have a good night despite the fact that you're clearly committed to hating me no matter what.

[Koneko911]

Girl u changed it only twice yesterday. So don't even try that crap claiming u changed it more

[milknhoneyy]

Sorry I didn't realize you had your eyes glued to my profile all day lol

[Koneko911]

You literally argued with me for awhile. And I've seen your profile before. So yeah I knew what pic u had prior. And it was the same one as yesterday. So no u only changed it twice. But again way to b dramatic

[milknhoneyy]

It was cookies, eggs, a burger and fries, 'Eliminated', avocados, and then eggs again. Are you even a real fan smh

[Koneko911]

Yeah sure it was

[milknhoneyy]

Go eat a snickers already damn lol it's so early and you're already so angry 🫠 is that not exhausting

[Koneko911]

Lmao not even remotely angry

[milknhoneyy]

"Lmao 😠 not even remotely 😡 angry 😤" —You

[Koneko911]

Lmao nothing I've said was angry. Apparently you can't distinguish between angry and pointing out you being dramatic. But again ok

[milknhoneyy]

I actually genuinely can't distinguish between a lot of expressions of emotion in all honesty, but in my experience angry people are the only ones willing to engage with someone they supposedly dislike for this long.

[Koneko911]

Have I ever stated I dislike you? For someone trying to act like she's not being dramatic or whining you sure assume a shit ton and act like I've said way more than I have

[milknhoneyy]

I mean obviously you didn't say it in those exact words but context clues are a thing and I'm fairly certain you do not like me lol unless you have a very bizarre way of flirting

[Koneko911]

Yes because the only two possible human emotions but be I hate you or wanna fuck you? Yeah you wish

[milknhoneyy]

See there's that aggression again.
And dw you're not really my type lol

[Koneko911]

Yeah cause that comment was just downright stupid so yeah you got finally an annoyed reaction. Yay good for you 🙄 wow. You finally learned there's more than 2 emotions congrats. And baby girl you definitely ain't my type so we're good on that front

[milknhoneyy]

If you think that's the first time you've produced an "annoyed" response that's on a lack of self awareness ig. And since anger is a secondary emotion obviously it can't also be one of two primary emotions. Duh.

[Koneko911]

Considering most my responses have been to point out your attempts at whining and being over dramatic on stuff no this was my first real annoyed response. The others have been pointing out stuff. None of which was me being annoyed. More making fun of how hard youve been trying to b a victim over me saying you're attention seeking. Then for whatever reason u felt the need to come to my question. The only one I have on my mental health. When u easily could have picked my latest question 2 now claim u have mental illness. So no one's annoyed baby girl, just calling u on your bullshit

[Koneko911]

But again whatever u and your desperation for male attention on your titties need to feel better go for it. Cause at this point you're like talking to a rock. Shits boring asf and now I really see why that's your profile pic

[DryGermanGuy]

If this is work/burnout related you have to face the fact that you can't endure this long-term. Medication (and counseling) can only help to a certain degree. Sometimes (often) a clear cut is the only thing that helps.

[Koneko911]

Problem is I can't afford to quit my job. I don't have a way to another place currently

[DryGermanGuy]

I get it, but you want to put things in motion, so that you have at least the options.

[Koneko911]

I've been trying to

[Anonymous]

It’s okay. A lot of what you’re feeling is out of your control. Most likely chemical or hormonal imbalances. It’s best to see a doctor to get treatment as soon as you can 💛

[Koneko911]

I plan to go to my therapist again Monday (my next visit) and see about my meds. I got them changed months ago and was fine. Then all of a sudden this is happening and I feel crazy. And I'm so worried now I pissed my boyfriend off because we've barely talked and he keeps saying he's busy, which I know sometimes he is. But he's not even talking to me on his days off or before he goes into work. And I wake up everyday he works at 4:30 to try and talk and he never answers lately. And it's driving me crazy and I've been a brat about it but it's getting to me badly and has me worried we aren't ok

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah any challenges you’re having in your relationships or daily life will be amplified if your meds are no longer helping you. Possible another adjustment is needed. I’m sorry you’re going through it… back to your therapist for adjustments is a good plan.

[Ironco]

Take a good long masterbation session...

Then go to bed, you'll be back to normal in the morning.

[OtterMan68]

prayer

meditation

exercise

counseling

[AngryCarl]

Vigourous exercise, mindfulness, therapy.

[Jmmmfi4]

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