Hahaha. So by now pretty sure I'm known for being a cry baby here, and that's fine I am. I get emotional over everything and over think way too much. And well I'm at that stage again. Even contemplated baker acting myself for 3 days, and made the mistake of asking my boyfriend how he'd feel about me going to a depression clinic for like a week (no contact) and got sad cause he said I can. Sorta wanted him to say no cause he didn't want the time away. (He's been busy for like a month now and we've barely talked since I last saw him). So it has me stressing badly that something is wrong with us, and me being a cry baby and clingy isn't helping. So please does anyone have any advice on how to deal with extreme stress (2 the point I'm literally crying when I wake up n the morning) and randomly during the day. I literally have to hide at work and pray no one sees me when this happens because it's embarrassing. Cause I feel like nothing should be wrong with me and I'm making a big deal out of stupid things, but I'm not sure why I'm very so scared and anxious lately
Meditation.
Your issue is that you can't accept the situation you're in because before you have a chance to think about it logically in a fully fleshed out way, your mind jumps to all these scenarios and probably even makes up reasons why they're accurate.
This comes from a lack of discipline.
Some other symptoms of lacking discipline are:
A short attention span
Sitting still for extended periods of time is physically uncomfortable. (not counting sleeping, watching a movie, working at the office etc.)
Cutting people off
Poor eating/cellphone/communication habits
Meditation can be hard to start, especially if you have these issues. You can start off easy and slowly work your way up.
A good way to start is to find a place you find relaxing or tranquil. Like a bench in a park or a porch in a backyard. Technically, it doesn't even need to necessarily be tranquil, you can do this on the bus.
Close your eyes, fix your posture straight and relax your muscles. Breathe in all the way, hold it for a a few seconds, whatever feels right, just make sure you count. Then in a controlled way, let it out.
Check your posture. Is your back straight? Do you feel like this is a natural position for your body? What muscles on your body are tight and fighting against your good form? Fix your posture, relax your shoulders and do the breathing exercise again, find your rhythm.
You're going to feel your heart beating, focus on that, pay attention to how the speed of your exhale affects it.
Eventually after a few weeks, you'll get to the point where you can slow it down but you're going to get sleepy, the next step is to focus on something in your surroundings, the most insignificant thing you can. The breeze in the trees, a bird singing in the distance, a squirrel jumping across branches, cars whizzing by, the wind coming and going. Pick one and with your eyes closed, trying to maintain a slow heartbeat, try to make an accurate assumption about the sound, namely, where around you it's coming from. It's OK to open your eyes sometimes to confirm, but also try not to check every time.
That is a very powerful exercise for people who struggle with anxiety. The beginning can be very hard, don't get discouraged if at first, you can only keep your eyes closed for 20 seconds at a time. If you get restless, put your figures up to your neck, open your eyes, find your pulse, take slow breaths until you calm down and try again. Try to get 30 seconds 3 times, then a couple minutes one time and so on.
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My wife has had severe mental health issues for many years. A clinic is a safe place. If course I'd rather she be at home, but each time she's been admitted - medical insurance thinks 21 days is long enough to heal a broken mind - let's see that applied to their legs if I get hold of the fucktard that came up with that figure - so it's a stopgap, not a solution, but it can deal with the acute phase.
Each admission has either been immediately after a suicide attempt or to halt the descent towards one. A safe environment where the patient gets a chance to heal. At least enough to not be suicidal.
When I dated a guy years ago, I also got scared and nervous that he would lose his interest in me. The way I think you can deal with this is to create a detachment in your mind. I tell myself if things don’t work out with the guy I talk to now, I have other options that can fill the void. I also remind myself he belongs to God and I am just borrowing him while God allows it to happen so if we separate, it’s only a partial loss because he belongs to God and I belong to God. I don’t own him and he does not own me.
you might not like this advice but i don't think you should date him rn
relationships are exhausting as fuck and i think it's just gonna trigger your fear of being alone till you improve it. im not tryin to be an armchair psychologist btww lol it's just what im thinking atm. intense anxiety isn't always the same and really depends what it is, so i don't think any of us will know what YOU need personally and a therapist will help guide ya
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You should try being mean to someone else, preferably someone you don't know. Especially if it's someone who turns out to also have crippling anxiety. Making someone else feel bad is a great way to make yourself feel better. 🙂
If this is work/burnout related you have to face the fact that you can't endure this long-term. Medication (and counseling) can only help to a certain degree. Sometimes (often) a clear cut is the only thing that helps.
It’s okay. A lot of what you’re feeling is out of your control. Most likely chemical or hormonal imbalances. It’s best to see a doctor to get treatment as soon as you can 💛
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