Has anyone ever tried to order something for you without asking you what you want?

[dustybiker2]

Example character, Q is not gender specific.

[Skinhead-1979]

The ex.

She bought things for me which she wanted to have... Collectors items and all while I don't even collect something. Once she had bought a Pinhead for me while I have never shown a particular strong interested in Hellraiser (sure, it's cool... but that's it). Needless to say she still has it.

And then she claims I am difficult to buy things for. Uhm, I am a gamer... A Steam Voucher would do. She is creative and can draw really well; draw a nice picture for me? Or design a tattoo for me, even better. I gave her a lot of Roses, maybe I love Roses too?

[dustybiker2]

Curious. Did you ever share these thoughts with her when you were together?

[Skinhead-1979]

Yes, it has been brought up a number of times.

The thing is, I suspect she may have 'Narcissistic Personality Disorder'. I am of course no medical specialist, but she does seem to 'tick a lot of boxes'.

Regardless, the 'relationship' was not healthy and has caused a lot of damage; especially in me (I am sure it has affected her too... but she continues business as usual with the next bloke)

[dustybiker2]

Sorry to hear that. Sounds like you learned a lot. Some positive.

[MicahRaine]

A few times. If it's food or something along those lines, I'm excited because I now don't have to think about getting food or some other daily task.
If it's something expensive (for them, so outside their normal budget) though that's not "worth it" (even if I like it), I usually ask for them to return it so they don't waste their money.

[dustybiker2]

Good man. 😎

[TheRealPepperPotts]

In food, no. I wouldn't like that at all. I'd kind of feel like a child or like they were a bit controlling.

In gifts, constantly. I don't like 90% of what people give me, but I appreciate the thought. It's weird because I feel like I'm super easy to buy for. Here's the list:

1. Coffee

2. A book

3. Chocolate

4. A outing or activity

Anything else should be a gift card, honestly, unless I've pointed out a very specific item.

[dustybiker2]

You are easily made happy. Gifts are easy if you pay attention to the people you are giving them to. All in the details.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@dustybiker2 Agreed. A little bit of attention would save people a lot of money, I think! :D

Thank you!

[dustybiker2]

I think so too.

You are welcome 😎

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yup. Was on a date and he went up and ordered how cocoa with shipped cream or something.
And I awkwardly had to tall him that I didn't like cocoa or whipped cream.
He had to drink both for himself.

[dustybiker2]

So awkward.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Very much. I did appreciate the effort and thought into it.

[dustybiker2]

Makes me wonder if he learned though.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I wouldn't know. He was also manipulative and other stuff, pushed boundaries and other stuff. So I don't really care where he is now.

[dustybiker2]

Oh wow. Glad you are out of that then. Be safe (excuse the pun)

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yeah.
But the initial emotion of it was I did appreciate what he did then.

But thank you, so am I ^^

[HawkPerception]

Many times. Friends, family, partners. Whether it's food, clothes, books, or whatever, people always get me whatever lol. Not complaining about it though

[dustybiker2]

That's kind of you.

[itsannalee]

Yes my boyfriend, several time. But he ordered everything on the menu. So i can eat what i want, and the last i can give it my roommates.

[dustybiker2]

Nice save.

[RavVid]

Yes. I was very offended. I think I did say something along the lines of you're the girl and I'm the guy. Wasn't taking her on a second date.

[dustybiker2]

When a woman does this it makes me wonder if she came from a big family or had elderly parents.

[RavVid]

She did have a lot of siblings now I think about it.

Women seem to like agonizing over which dish to have, so taking that option away from them would be mean.

Somewhere I seem to have a memory of a woman saying approvingly "He ordered for me". I suppose some women might like a man being decisive on what she will eat.

[dustybiker2]

That is true too. But asking solves that also. lol

[RavVid]

There is nothing wrong with a woman directly saying what she wants and it is more sensible if there are any questions on the dish. Easier.

[dustybiker2]

Agreed. Woman would have an easier time if more just came out with it directly.

[sirderpsalot123]

Not when I was with them. I've had my mom and order food for me when they were out by themselves and I'm thinking "you could have called and asked if I wanted..."

[dustybiker2]

Does family get a pass? I'm on the fence about that because of the call thing too.

[sirderpsalot123]

Yeah I guess they get a pass. But it would be nice to at least try calling first. If I don't answer then they can just get whatever

I always call my girlfriend and ask what and if she wants anything when I randomly stop to get food. It isn't difficult lol

[dustybiker2]

Agreed.

[Miah04]

They did call you, ignored them

[dustybiker2]

@Miah04 😂😂

[Charliefretz329]

As in food? Occasionally due to extenuating circumstances or just pure kindness. But in person, nope.


As in gifts, of course all the time lol. And they often do a bad job at it, but I thank them anyway

[dustybiker2]

You're always a good guy, Charlie. They are lucky to have you.

[Wiredone]

Yes my daughter and her boyfriend has done it a few times.

[dustybiker2]

How did you react?

[Wiredone]

If it was something that would be good for me I was happy. There were a few duds that I was honest and told them to send it back

[Wiredone]

What did someone order for you?

[dustybiker2]

You're a good guy. 😎
People have brought me hamburger meals before, out of thoughtful kindness. Never just ordered in front of me though. I'm curious how often this has happened to people here.

[Wiredone]

That's a nice gesture

[dustybiker2]

Yes. I agree. I thanked the heck out of them.

[Pretty_Blonde]

Yes but I am pretty easy becauss all I like are fries

[Kingofkings1992]

Hell no. I’d put them in their place very fast

[dustybiker2]

Some people need it.

[Miah04]

No. I wish they would try that😡

[Charliefretz329]

I think I could order you food you’d like… or better yet cook it for you. But only cause I’ve known you for a while

[Miah04]

@Charliefretz329 we fight if you order for me.

[Charliefretz329]

Nah, I’ll just eat the Cajun boil or the poboys or the smoked brisket all myself while you watch and order and wait for your own food if you complain.

The only way I’d order for someone else is if they weren’t actually with me at the time of order. Like if I was on my way over. Sometimes I buy donuts for the shop on my way to work and could care a less if some people don’t want one.

[Charliefretz329]

Occasionally I smoke way too much meat and call a buddy and ask if he wants to come over and gorge with me. If he doesn’t, who cares? I just portion it out and freeze it after eating like a fat happy kid.

[dustybiker2]

@Charliefretz329 Charlie leave Miah alone I'll eat your food. haha

@miah04 I want to watch someone try. 😂

[Charliefretz329]

Happy to share Dusty 🙂

[Miah04]

They gonna find out🤨

[FunkyMonkee]

Probably a couple times when I was a kid.

[dustybiker2]

Oh yeah.

[paledreams]

Uhh, 😅 I'll say no.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I was never gifted anything lol

[DJB72]

Honestly, not twice!

[dustybiker2]

Smart man.