As a 17-year-old young girl, life does not give me any pleasure. What would you suggest?

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You know, everyone makes plans to go to university, etc., but I really don't want to and I don't have any dreams. In fact, things like university don't excite me at all and I don't have any dream jobs.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

Sometimes people don't find out what they'd love to do as a job until later. I personally never went to college due to a certain disability that I have that would impact on what careers I could do. But to help you get your personal development, I'd say to do things like volunteering, as that can kind of help you figure out what jobs you may or may not want to do. Making a list of jobs you would be interested in trying is also a good thing. And listing things you don't want to do at all. For example: I can't work around or with kids at all, in places that are loud, and anything that's way too fast paced. Any job that requires this I can say no to. And these can be plain old simple jobs, nothing fancy. You could also look at vocational school & see if there is any jobs you'd like. If there is a job that you can get a certificate for and you're 100% sure you want to do it (and can do it), go for it! Anything else and I can only say is get hobbies and just enjoy life in general. And remember this: You don't need a college degree to be considered successful in life. There is so much you can do in this world that is valuable to yourself and the people around you.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

Yeah you sound just like me. College was nagging me to apply university. I didn't want university and I had no career plans. I half heartedly had interests in different things. But nothing ever grabbed my attention.

I did A levels. Then a year foundation diploma at college. Then went into working. Supermarket. I met guy there at 19 who became my husband.

We worked and travelled. It was great.

Haha I won't tell u the ups and downs of life after that because your not me and your life hopefully will follow a different path but here are the useful things to take away (I hope).

You don't have to go university or work on a career.

You can do that later in life (I'm 45 and doing a degree with open university and only just now working on my first career). So you have time. Don't pressure yourself.

Maybe look at apprenticeships. My daughter plans to finish education at 16 and maybe do hairdressing. My older daughter has a clear career in mind and doing uni. Both paths are fine.

Work can be empowering. Earning. Making friends. Travelling. Your young. Live your life. Once you have kids in future your never be this "free" again. Enjoy it.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

University can be an excellent experience because you will be introduced to all sorts of new people and experiences that, right now, you are not.

Here's a quote from Mark Twain:

https://www.travelandleisure.com/travel-tips/celebrity-travel/mark-twain-quotes-about-travel-life

“It liberates the vandal to travel — you never saw a bigoted, opinionated, stubborn, narrow-minded, self-conceited, almighty mean man in your life but he had stuck in one place since he was born and thought God made the world and dyspepsia and bile for his especial comfort and satisfaction.”

Well, university is like this because people from far-and-wide travel to university and meet each other and learn so much about each other and their cultures and ideas and ways of life.

TheWombRaider · Accepted Answer

You want some advice that I wish someone gave me when I was your age. Get a house immediately as soon as you can get a loan from the bank. But rent it out don't live in it. Live in a RV let the house get some equity over the next 5 to 10 years and sell it and flip it. Keep doing that till you can buy a land and build a bunch of storage units to rent out to people. Storage units are money generating monsters that have little overhead. And if people don't pay you just keep their shit and sell it on eBay or have auctions. Eventually by time your 35 or 40. All you will do is collect checks from people. Owning land and property is the way to go.

Garud · Answer

When I was a kid, I asked every adult around me the same question. They told me you will figure it out on your own.
I didn't even know why I was studying. But I kept on studying.
Then after school, it was time for college, so I did nothing, but my family got me enrolled in a cheap distant (where you go only for exams) college.
I just roamed around and spent my time, participated in volunteer programs, gained life experiences and read books.
By searching on the net, I got information about gadgets or things related to manufacturing.
Then I got information about politics and other social activities and formed my own mind.
Then slowly I started doing a little bit of everything and then started leaving it.
To support myself financially well. Eventually, I thought of trying to learn illustration, so I am doing it.

I say, if you don't have any ambition, just keep moving and do whatever comes your way. Keep your room clean, wake up and sleep take a bath on time, eat good and exercise

KBird · Answer

Thats normal. I still find that I dont have dreams, and Im just kinda riding the wave of life. But, especailly after graduating high school, I found some meaning in and excitement in things. I didn't know what I wanted to be/go into until I was 24. Something may peak your interest over the next few years, but I would just me open minded to it. I wouldn't commit to university, or some big decision you dont want to do just yet.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

That’s normal. The expectation for you to have a life plan by 20 is kind of impossible. You don’t have to go to university, but I would recommend at least some kind of advanced education for any jobs you take in the future. A trade school is a solid way to find steady work, and I don’t imagine you want to work customer service for longer than 10 years unless you plan to own a franchise or something.

Berethor · Answer

You can play road to valor, you can start with female character if you choose india. :)

exitseven · Answer

I was at odds with the world when I was 17. I had no money for college. I had a dead end job. I was not talking to any of my friends and my parents just got divorced/ I figured out a way to go to college and I had a near death experience that sort of changed my perspective on life.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

You aren't losing much by not having a dream job, but it's never too late to start your own thing, it's also never too late to find things you like or enjoy, explore hobbies, you've got purpose like anyone else, you are just not aware of it, big difference.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Seriously nothing? I can understand not being excited for college and all that since it’s bullshit and a scam. They waste your time and brain cells teaching you shit you don’t care about, and whatever time you have left you actually use it to be productive. My mom is assuming I’m going to Sacramento or something to do dog knows what, but I still have plenty of research to do before I can convince her it’s fake news (for me). Anyways enough about me, do you have a sense of purpose?

Unit1 · Answer

Your time will come

IslaTheWitch · Answer

there is always a reason why you are not interested in your life... talk to your parents and ask for a counselor...

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

You're 17, it make take a while for you to formulate a life plan, but as I'm old enough to be your grandfather, I'd say take stock of your strengths and weaknesses and converse with an older relative or friend about their opinion of your future endeavours.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Sometimes life is boring, and that's okay. The most important thing is that you continue to get up and choose the best decision for your future.

MemeSupreme · Answer

go out and work so you see people struggling to make ends meet in shitty jobs lol that might help

try new things and especially with friends

get rid of toxic shit

can't really suggest more besides wait it out bc idkk your life

lightbulb27 · Answer

that's fine, go find something to do that makes enough $ to be ok.

I'd spend time going to church so you work on yourself and your heart, network with people. See where your passions and compassion lies.

avery58 · Answer

Try out new hobbies and go from there. Get a normal beginner's job such as sales so you can make and save some money in the meantime and it gives you time to figure out what you really want to do with your life.

Levin · Answer

I would say what is the matter? Do you feel obliged to do something that inwardly is not right for you? Really, you need someone to actually listen to you.

AviatorTom · Answer

Be patient. You're only 17 and learning about life. Try different things and figure out which ones you enjoy, and which ones you don't. Then come back in about 5 years and answer this question for yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Focus on getting your shit together. Go to bed at the same time every night and get up at the same time. Aim for 8-9 hours of sleep. Work out when you wake up. Eat clean. Read a book. Make a friend. Learn a skill. Do whatever jobs you have to the best of your ability. Just focus on that for the time being.

Pupweb · Answer

I say explore some hobbies and give it a try then see how you can connect you hobbies to a job or career to get an income

Tamera952 · Answer

Volunteer your time and efforts (to something that benefits the greater good) until you figure it out.

Fireguy17 · Answer

as you get older you will find things that you will like. Right now you are caught in that age where you aren't an adult, but you really aren't a kid. It gets better, don't give up hope.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I guess Walmart is where you will wind up then. Better find some ways to dream big, and pronto!

ProbablyClueless · Answer

You should just start trying different things and see what you like. You don't need answers right away; almost no one your age has answers, and the ones who do will most likely change.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No offense, maybe you are experiencing depression?

Twalli · Answer

Take general education classes and any other ones that sound interesting to you. You might find something that piques your interest. Plus, even getting some college education looks good for employers. It shows dedication.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Give yourself time to figure out what you want. Maybe take a gap year, try travelling, then community colleges or working.

Kelley1 · Answer

Get married at ages 18 to 20 and have a baby two years later.

DJB72 · Answer

Save some money and travel. See Europe while it's still there. Get your life into a perspective and you'll find something that gives you joy

gatixek710 · Answer

You need to get off social media and go find hobbies and ways to give your energy to other people.

noohair · Answer

Live is supposed to be hard. That brings out the best in humans. If you don't feel anything, this could be a problem. You will wake up one day and fell like you have wasted 10 years of your life.

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

I'm not sure, I'm in the same situation, I'm trying to find things that interest me too, life doesn't have much that interests me/makes me content

Anonymous · Answer

Have you ever tried playing with yourself? Take up a hobby or an interest that you can invest time in.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Life didn't do it for me either than, I threw myself into business

Anonymous · Answer

You say you love fashion, right? Maybe pick up sewing as a hobby. Get a meager job and make a meager income to fund your sewing journey. You don't need to have a flashy life.

zombiewoof · Answer

College is not for everyone, would you consider a branch of the military, i would suggest the air force

swettannie · Answer

no passion outside of uni and work?

the29thhuman · Answer

Get a dog or go to a retreat

jjj101010 · Answer

Do u have hobbies u enjoy?

CubaPirate · Answer

Get out more and meet people

slatyb · Answer

Counseling.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Get older.

As a 17-year-old young girl, life does not give me any pleasure. What would you suggest?

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No offense, maybe you are experiencing depression?

I’m not an ambitious person/woman and I’m okay with a simple life and simple things that excite me, is that a bad thing?

As a 17-year-old young girl, life does not give me any pleasure. What would you suggest?

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No offense, maybe you are experiencing depression?

I’m not an ambitious person/woman and I’m okay with a simple life and simple things that excite me, is that a bad thing?

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