How do you handle the humiliation of rock bottom?

[Anonymous]

I have hit rock bottom.

My life was turned upside down by a mental illness that has touched every aspect of my life. Financially I am incapable of supporting myself, so I am forced to move in with my mother (Who can barely support herself). I had several manic episodes that led to arrests, jail time, and even a restraining order. Medically my body and mind seem to be collapsing and I am not even capable of being employed in my current status. I have no income so my bank accounts are overdrawn, and my credit card maxed out.

My life has truly collapsed, and I have no idea what to do anymore?

[Altheavas]

I offer my sincere sympathy,
I don’t know your faith, but pray…! Surrender to your GOD, don’t fight it anymore, don’t even fight your mental health and mental struggles. Hardship of life is relentless it won’t stop to give you a break to rest, or breathe. No one will actually be able to walk in your shoes, some will inflicted more pain, not knowing you’re holding on to a thread of hope, and positivities.
Pray everyday, every-time the negativities creep in, pray again. You don’t have to get down to your knee, just pray in your thoughts. Take small steps everyday to your betterments your goals.
If one goal and its path doesn’t work, re-route it.
I found out writing down the thoughts, the struggles help. You get to read it and understand yourself, even challenging your thoughts, your pain and perspective of the shape you perceive them made a big difference written down. Abandoned your ego, accept your situation, be shameless conservatively.


As you get better, pray and come back and read your notes again. You may choose to let life weigh you down, or find a different path, and abandoned what’s not for you.

[DishLady]

I acknowledge that I'm here, look around to see what resources are around me, look around to identify the learning moments and silver linings of this incredibly intense moment, then get off my ass and start moving forward. I've had to do it at least three times in my life, so I've gotten used to the process.

[Purpleronnie]

There is NO humiliation in the self proclaimed rock bottom position you find yourself in. Mental illness touches at least 1/3 of us during our life time , the cause and or severity of which can mean he diagnosis is at least challenging and the prognosis therefore unknown.
For me having supported members of my family and colleagues through similar and in particular hypermania which you seem to be eluding to I offer my sincere sympathy.
I think what really helps you path forward is your apparent acceptance and willingness to seek advice.
I would counter though that there aren’t many , if any on here that could offer more than sympathy or generic or general advice and quick suggest that reaching out through the web or locally to specific charities or medically through a private provider would likely be your better options.
I wish you every success in putting your life back on track and perhaps a little fortune along the way

[ForevrLonely29]

Holy shit man! Your issues you are dealing with sound a lot like mine! I have severe mental illness. I have been in and out of hospitals, have a stalking conviction from 9 years ago thay resulted in the loss of my professional license, and had trouble becoming financially independent. I lost my most recent software engineering job back in mid-July last year, and I am having to move back home to my mom's house with bitch/abusive tenants that rent the bottom floor of her house. Trust me man, I am at rock bottom there with you.

[Asker]

It actually feels good to realize I am not the only one suffering in this way. Sometime it feels like no one really understands this situation. Sure, some people might have financial struggles, or others might have a fight with their significant other... However, it seems like very few have multiple disasters impacting their life at the same time. I am beyond exhausted with everything, and its all happened within a years time.

The most positive thing I can think of is that this crisis is so severe that its forced me to do things I would have never considered before. Prior to this, I was content living an uninspired life. Things were never good for me, but I was comfortable living that way. Now im so uncomfortable with my situation that I realize the only choice is to start fresh, by moving far away. Just have to figure out my legal issues, and create some financial stability, and im moving and starting a new life.

[ForevrLonely29]

It has been a horrid environment, amplified even worse for those with mental illness or social/developmental disabilities like Autistic Spectrum disorders. I know the feeling just trying to maintain stability seems like an exhaustive journey. I have risen out of despair just to be knocked back to square one again, over and over again it seems. It is like building a castle for it to be torn down unrecognizable rubble. I am 30, and just as of age 29, I got my first real girlfriend whom I am now engaged to. But disaster has struck again, and I am trying to figure out how I am going to hold a marriage and a family together. I have held 25+ jobs since the age of 15. The left has flaunted all this DEI bullshit, but have mostly left the mentally ill and disabled essentially ignored. I have gotten to that point where I am bitter and angry and lash out against those who stand in the way of my stability. I have never been a violent person, but I informed my parents when I return home and those awful bitches renting downstairs stir anything up with me, I will snap. The very last place I want to be corrupted is my home. This is the one place where I should be able to return to in peace.

[Asker]

For my specific issue, I spiraled completely out of control. Many years I served a caretaker for family, and worked with special needs children. I was never able to live my own life, and felt like I was serving others endlessly, just draining myself. My life was just work, and I didn't have any social connections... Then when a neighbor reached out (a girl that ended up just using me) I eventually had a complete breakdown (truthfully, I recognized mentally I was falling apart years before this.. just never did anything about it)... The breakdown involved damaging my neighbors car.. and then it just got worse. I felt so bad about it, started to want to harm myself, was put into a mental facility... Then all of a sudden was being attacked by others (her friends calling me out for my actions).. Then I tried to instigate conflicts myself, start fights, more damages.. etc. There was plenty of police involvement, and an arrest (for the first time, instead of trying to work with me through my issues, she decided to press charges during my first breakdown).. I found myself in a really dark place, wanted to hurt myself, hurt others... She put a restraining order on me... kicked out of my apartment... I ended up breaking the restraining order the first day and put in jail for it, and then on an ankle monitor after release. The humiliation was severe... I am slowly getting out of it... but its all so fresh and recent (over the past year). It was just one disaster after another.. I suffered through more things in a short period.. than I think most people do in decades.

[ForevrLonely29]

I am sorry to hear about your situation man. A lot of women these days are flat out dangerous. They can ruin you in a heartbeat. They can just simply cry "unwanted communication" or "harassment" and boom! Many of these women complain "misogyny", but they don't realize the harm they cause men. It is disgusting how the injustice system is two-tiered and corrupt. Even a misdemeanor and its collateral damages feels like a felony and a long-term struggle. It set me back almost a decade, and I am still angry and bitter about all the bullshit. I was even denied leasing an apartment at one point, where they took a non-refundable fee just to tell me I cannot rent. I lost my EMT license and had to change careers entirely, just to see my industry collapse. I feel like I am having to uncover the past I buried a long time ago and fight to return to a profession I left. You are not alone man.

[Asker]

I agree, the entire system is downright pathetic. The judge that oversaw the restraining order case didn't even care to listen to our side. It was a pathetic scene, and my outbursts later that night (I was off my meds) didn't help. Without a doubt she used me.. She recognized I was lonely, and was very sweet and inviting. Then we started sleeping together, she gave me the cold shoulder, only contacted if she wanted a quick screw. On top of that, he friends were all connected to the bar scene, and she started spreading gossip around about me. We had a fight one night, and all of a sudden the next day im having her male friends threatening to hurt me. That set me off, I was already going through a severe mental collapse (I recognize it now, but didn't at the time) and that ended up leading to my first breakdown. It was really bad, I felt uncomfortable everywhere, couldnt even connect with my loved ones.. I should have recognized it, but decided not to do anything about it... and eventually all of that culminated in my first breakdown and arrest.

It is good to know that I am not alone.
The positive thing about this whole situation...
I was so content and comfortable with living a terrible life that I would have NEVER considered moving, or starting fresh...
Now that all of this has happened... the only way out seems to be starting fresh..
So I have a plan... which involves resolving my legal issues, finding financial stability, and then moving FAR FAR FAR from here.. and starting over.
So taht is a positive.

[nawtee_me]

Rock bottom is not a place of humiliation. It is a place of hope. Hope for a better day tomorrow. Look for support groups around you. Look for benefits that you may qualify for and draw upon. Hope comes from knowing there are things that you can do to change your situation. Not from thinking that there is nothing left for you. The journey of a thousand miles start with a single step. A new journey is ahead of you and not behind you. Step forward and not backwards into what awaits you. Seek out others that know what you are going through. They can help and guide you into your future.

[lightbulb27]

Id have to ask what the mental illness is about and address that… like stsrting over from scratch w your mom. Once get healed then can rebuild and repay.


Life hits turning points and that age is one. Injury, allergies to foods, suffer a loss? The illness is a sign something needs exposed and changed so can be healthy.

[lightbulb27]

Handle: slow down, breathe, meditate and rest to heal brain. Build upon small successes and do document progress. Set realistic goals to achoece. Practice disciplines to remove junk energies, go towards good, practice gratitude, thanks, prayer, faith. Christ can help w that in my view.

[Anonymous]

Knowing that there's no humiliation in rock bottom.
Things change, people change, situations get difficult, decisions become troubled. It happens.

You realise you're at rock bottom now, so the only way is upward. Make something beautiful out of it.

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

There is no humiliation at rock bottom because thats where some of us belong, sure someone might say something but at that point both individuals are aware that its a waste of breath

[Anonymous]

You need to sort out your meds and/or therapy, and stabilise yourself before you can stabilise your life. The old life crashed and burned but you're not beyond salvaging.
Let go of the old life and don't look back. Start again in a new setting with new people when you are able.

[PrincessC16]

You need to learn everything about your mental illness. You need counseling.

[DrPepper12]

Do you have a therapist or counselor that you were seeing? If not I highly recommend that as I too have suffered incredible reversals that shattered my health and career

[Asker]

I have been going to therapy for about 9 months now.
It is one of the few positives of this past year.

[exitseven]

I have never really bottomed out but I have faced adversity. Just remember, if you quit, they win.

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

Internalize it, It sucks but this the way God made me otherwise I wouldn't be treated so horribly

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

Oh were speaking in 'general' umm okay how about maybe nobody likes you and wish you would just kill yourself already, I had a manager at Red Robin tell me that. Hell they wanted me gone by the 3rd day

[Massageman]

Pray. Once your life is stabilized, start over. I've done it- it works.

[noohair]

Are you ready to start your mental wellness journey?

[Anonymous]

Just think the only way for you to go now is up.

[SleepingHazard]

You've met the lowest. It can only get better now.

[Crazzyyworld]

Think of God who is watching over you.

[anmari2001]

Rock and roll

[ienjoylookingatgreen]

Suck it up