When someone insults you and/or calls you out on something and what they say is actually CORRECT, what should you do?

[EzraIsShy76028]

Whenever this happens I'm clueless. I WANT to insult them back but if what they said is actually true then I can't really say anything. So I just stay quiet.

A more or less recent example that happened to me went something like:

Person: "So you don't put effort into anything at all, anything you're not immediately good at you abandon, you never practice, you just wanna be good right away, and yet you have the audacity to wonder and complain why you're not good at anything, and also resent and hate anyone better than you?"

And I couldn't even come up with a proper response, so I just stayed quiet. I secretly knew that everything they said was 100% true, even though I absolutely hated it.

[Vevv123]

You’re in the right track by recognizing this. Your response can go something like “ok, you might be right, that might be because (if you feel comfortable you can explain why you feel you might be this way), but I truly didn’t realize, so thanks for bringing it up.”

[EzraIsShy76028]

Yeah, you're probably 100% spot on. Denying something that's objectively true would only make myself look even worse. So probably best to say I didn't realize and thank them, and if possible/necessary give an explanation.

[Vevv123]

Yea, and I think that will also helps you feel more comfortable with these kinds of situations. It’s definitely hard especially if it’s something you struggle with. Not many people can take feedback easily, so your response of silence is also perfectly ok and genuine. It’s also great that you are self aware and you recognize these are your vulnerabilities, which will help you grow.

[OneViewpoint]

Say thank you. And shake their hand.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Yeah... you're probably right. Probably the most mature thing I can do. Besides insulting them back or anything like that would only make myself look worse and even more stupid.

[OneViewpoint]

Correct. Take that feedback and do something to improve yourself. People who will tell you the truth are valuable, not your enemy. People who only tell you what you want to hear are useless.