What are your reasons for choosing to be single?

[Anonymous]

After much thought I’ve decided to stay single forever because no men has ever shown interest in me after getting to know me. Why? Because I’ve Asperger’s, it’s a type of high functioning autism which unfortunately can be a turn off to men. I know there are men accepting of body hair but even when they know I’ve body hair they still talked to me but after a month later they only considered me as a friend. Even one of my male friends told me ‘it’s because you give off unusual vibes that’s why no man is interested in you. It’s not your body hair.’ So that’s it since no men wants me as their girlfriend or as a wife I’ve accepted it. I’ve found being single is way easier because I don’t have to squeeze in my schedule just to cater to a man. I hate it when I’ve to change my schedule constantly just for one person. I’m happier being single and that’s a choice I’ll never regret.

[aceleon]

2 person relationships are not my thing.

i don't want 50/50. i don't want all responsibility on my shoulders i don't want routine.

there are not many girls that can give me the life i want.

my ideal type of relationship is a ffm throuple with 2 girls who are also together with me and each other.

every problem that makes me disgusted about relationships is pretty much vanishes.

house chores and work: i neither wanna be the breadwinner or do 50/50, with 1 partner you have to choose between 2 if you are not able to find someone who will do all the labor and won't complain, with 2 one will work with you and the other will be a housewife.

money: same bills but more people to work and bring money

sex: i don't have to worry about an unsatisfied wife when i'm not really in the mood to be reciprocating or cooperative, i can AFFORD being selfish without facing concequances later. not just me, they can to be selfish when they want, as long as we have the other lover we will always get what we want (at least most of the time) without harboring ill blood between us.

pregnancy or periods: i won't have to be the one who will be dealing with a pregnant or pmsing girl, hell the other girl will likely deal it better than me so i can just step aside.

kids: 2 heads are better than 1 but 3 is even better.

kids with 2 mother and a father is likely easier to raise also no need for a babysitter.

well now most can bring jealousy into this but i don't really think i will be that jealous in this scenario because we are not the same, let say

i am person A

there is person B and C, what i am to person B is not the same as person C

i am person B's man, my place in the relationship is different than the person C who is person B's woman. and also we are also together with the person C, someone else doesn't get my lover, the one who is with my lover is also my lover too.

also i like crowded families. i want a unit not a partnership.

but there is not much of a chance that i find a relationship like this, so no need to get myself into a life i don't want to have.

[genericname85]

lack of compelling options.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@genericname85 and it's good to see you're almost 40 and with no regrets, you're an inspiring human sir

[genericname85]

@mysteriousNicholas i mean i can only regret my own deeds and decisisions. there sure were girls that i wanted and that i approached but them wanting me or not was not a thing i can actively influence so yeah. not up to me.

[Simslover92]

At first, I didn't choose to be single. I had a wonderful boyfriend but he broke up with me. Although we still have sex from time to time, we are no longer together. And now I kind of like it that way.

I like my freedom and not having to worry about another person on that level. It's a lot of work to be in a relationship.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Not to mention the two other elephants 🐘 money and time lol

[mysteriousNicholas]

And I do mean genuine relationships, it's no euphemism - dates, living expenses, hell even deciding to go "halfies" on any sorts of big purchases from vehicles to property to hell even starting a business

[loveyouoak]

I chose to be single because men are dangerous and greedy.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@loveyouoak it's like what they say , men only want one thing. And it's terrible how often men are also the more violent in the human species. Sometimes humans are as bad as the animals

[Sonorous]

I didn't choose to be single lol. I was sent my own way so many times that I eventually lost interest in dating. Now I could look at a naked woman & feel nothing most of the time. I'd rather look at my spreadsheets.

[Anonymous]

I get to travel with my friends, and no not the go to clubs and party kinda friends lol. I’m not into that kinda scene, I just don’t want to be held back in a sense or feel like my every move is being watched. It’s one thing when it’s my parents doing the watching and another being a man I’m dating.

Tho this can’t be applied to every man, but there’s really only two men I trust in my life which are my father and brother other than them? No one, I just can’t find it in me to trust a man enough to be with him. Also the men who want sex every given second draw me away from them, like can’t a girl just want to relax?
if men would stop acting as there dicks are what they make them “men” and stop itching a scratching like a damn crack addict for sex all the time and actually viewed me as a human and as a woman. Then maybe just maybe would I even entertain the thought of a relationship. But then again most of the men out there have more than 2 bodies on them and I won’t be with a man who’re

[Opinion Owner]

Also I came back to say that, sometimes I get disgusted by men. Especially when they talk about there dick size or they jerk off. Like it’s just annoying and gross.

[Opinion Owner]

Especially when they claim it’s “in a man’s nature” or “it’s my needs”, when in fact jerking off isn’t a need just as sex isn’t a need. It’s a want/desire, did there parents have sex with them as a kid, since it’s a so called “need” for them? No, they didn’t. So where they get this whole “need” thing is irrelevant and false.
B it obviously I’m in my disgusted men era yet again

[Finchie40]

For the most part I am choosing to be single only until I meet an amazing girl , but being single these days isn’t necessarily a bad thing considering how selfish people have become. I blame a lot of the reasons that it’s this way is because of social media brainwashing us to believe in nonsense. Not every person is a cheater , not every person is completely selfish. But finding that person is harder
To come by these days. I was married to my ex for 20 years , and I thought her and I would be together until we died , but unfortunately she changed on me and became very selfish once our kids’ got older , and I saw a side of her that I never experienced before , It was like this immature child unleashing from an adult body and decided she no longer wanted to be in a marriage anymore and wanted to be single and free , I was hurt and devastated but I realized I can’t force her to stay with me and love me , so I accepted the fact that she no longer wanted to be my loyal partner , so I threw in the towel and started focusing more on myself , entering back into the dating world after all these years was a shock to me as to how much people have changed , and hiw selfish people have become. But I am not giving up , just trying to play my cards right this time around

[OneViewpoint]

I was the support mechanism and physical protection for everyone around me from 15-50. Financially, emotionally, technical answers, career advice, listener of confessions, mentor and advisor of personal and professional growth.

• Mother.
• Sisters, niece and nephews.
• Wife and sons.
• The people I commanded in the Army needed a lot of help.
• In business everyone came to me to solve the serious problems. For some reason they all trusted me.
• Friends leaned on me.

I did my duty until my sons were grown. But I wasn't getting what I needed out of marriage or my career or the other people in my life. So I transformed my life. Divorce, quit my private equity job and started my own consulting firm. And now I'm very selective about who and how many people I keep around me. I wanted some time in life to try and find happiness for myself.

So I'm trying the single life. It's peaceful for the first time in my life. I curate my friend group ruthlessly.

Am I closed off to another relationship? Not really. I'm just being very selective about it and very cautious / slow with any woman 30-55 because they are generally carrying baggage. I need to know what that is before I'll sign up to be their support mechanism. What's in it for me this time? I've given enough.

[msc545]

Perhaps try getting rid of the body hair and see if that makes you feel more confident about yourself. If you have mild autism which it sounds like you do, then it can be very difficult to have relationships with people even to get to know them. I think the two things that you might want to be aware of are the amount of eye contact that you make or don't make and whether or not you can engage in spontaneous conversation. That can be very difficult for people with mild autism, but I think if you put a little bit of effort into it, you can probably have the kind of conversations and relationships that you want, probably at this point. Feel free to respond to this if you wish and also if you don't, I wish you the best.

[Asker]

Hi thank you for the advice but it’s not my body hair that makes me insecure it’s because when I’m being myself I ended up not getting any man interested in me. It doesn’t matter about confidence it’s the very fact they know something’s off about me.

[msc545]

We are not all like that. I interact with people who are somewhat off all the time professionally and I find that I have very interesting conversations with them and sometimes can be helpful to them as well. Anyone who doesn't appreciate your differences is not someone that you want anything to do with to begin with.

[Asker]

Thank you. ☺️ Is that your cat in your profile picture? What’s it’s name? Where did you get that cute cat?

[msc545]

That is my cat Allister who is a Scottish fold. If you're not sure what these cats are, I recommend googling them as they are very cute. I got him from a breeder who is a friend of mine and breeds these cats. It is very difficult to do and not at all obvious. The picture you see of my cat is one that was taken of him on Halloween when he is wearing his super cat costume. I love him dearly and as I type this he is sitting on my lap purring. His cousin Angus also lives with us and is a year younger and somewhat larger than Allister.

[Asker]

I see. I love cats what color fur does Angus have?

[msc545]

Angus and Allister both have cream-colored fur with black flecks in it. It is a very striking effect attractive effect that other cats don't seem to have.

Do you have pets? If so, what kind and what are their names?

[Asker]

I have no pets as I’m allergic to animals with fur unfortunately.

[msc545]

Sorry to hear that.

[Asker]

It’s fine but at least I get to see cats in real life. They can be extremely friendly depending on its experiences with humans.

[msc545]

My cats are quite friendly and love people. They live in the house and are very well cared for and protected. I love them very much.

[Asker]

Seeing other women who are hairier than me like their whole arms or their legs getting boyfriends tells me they are probably normal unlike me. At first it made me felt worthless because I thought if they can why couldn’t I? So many questions but once I turned 21/22, I realised relationships are not what they seemed. They don’t guarantee happiness and I don’t like it when I have to change my schedule just for a man because I couldn’t live without hobbies and I need lots of sleep and rest because my job is tiring. I’m an admin assistant by the way. I’m a career and hobby driven person. One of my ex friend has hairy legs yet she can get a boyfriend with no issue unlike me due to my Asperger’s. Anyways being single is better for my condition in the long run. No worries and drama/problems in relationships…

[Asker]

Cats are indeed friendly as I have experienced friendly cats in my life. I missed my neighbourhood cat Danny as he passed on this June 2025. I hope he’s in a better place now. He has many fans buying flowers after his passing. I bought carnations for him.

[aaron13547]

I choose to be single for reasons simular to you. But I don't think it's reason to limit yourself to being alone forever... I see it more like I hold a lot more energy then most people are capable of holding. I have to try "harder" then most people to be able to love myself. I still love myself but to love someone else and them love me back they have to be able to love themselves as much as I do. I think compatibility has to do with balancing how much we love ourselves and someone else. That's what makes love worth it. We are capable of loving way more then a normal person only we have to find someone able to love on the same level we do. We scare normal people away it's not a bad thing or reason to stop trying it's reason to try harder because we are capable of so much more...

[RavVid]

I've made the same decision but for different reasons. The stats for long term relationships working are appallingly poor.

70-80% of those happy brides are initiating divorce at 8 years. It doesn't matter who is at fault if either gender. What does matter is whether the median man has a reasonable prospect of a long surviving relationship and he just doesn't.

So the best I can do is aim for relationships up to but not exceeding 12 months in duration. I can't afford to go longer than that as I need to avoid being legally in a relationship.

I intend to remain legally single.

[HighValue]

I stay single because I don't want to deal with drama, lies, greed, selfishness, and unfairness, plus I don't want someone that expects all of my free time to be used either trying to make more money or for something only she wants to do. I find MOST women to be morally disgusting and don't want anything to do with them.

[Asker]

The same could be said for my country women too.

[HighValue]

What country is that so I will know to avoid them in the future?

[Anonymous]

That's sad.

I am unemployed, women/girls expect kids here and I believe I'm not a fit for a dad.. barely a husband.

So obviously single, having female friends every now and then and being first to step back and ghost even when they enjoy and love my company,, without manipulation of feelings but rather being a soft pad they feel safe to land at. I even go experimenting it on anonymous apps seeing how much can I approach a girl and some sad/anxious ones and relax them out. Quite enough so far.. certainly would be great if I could approach one or two real girls out there.. yet I'm not quite typical the way I think. I'm the realistic idealist but actually lazy and irresponsible.

So.. may this Funeral Doom album I listen to as I write this fill -or rather increase- void within

[ProbablyClueless]

I’ve had a very difficult time finding anyone who reciprocates the interest I take in their life.


That is to say, I express interest in them and ask about things they have going on, but they don’t ask me the same questions in return. And many times when I’ve told people, the responses have been either underwhelming or the person seems somewhat alienated.


It turns out that people don’t really want to hear about how you’re doing well if they aren’t also doing well! 😅 Which makes sense, but it means my social avenues are somewhat limited at present.

[heruncommonsense]

Males are just plain evil. I don't want my life to hinge on sweet lies. I don't want to be assaulted. I don't want to be cheated on. I don't want to get bitten by a two-headed viper. Most importantly, I don't want brain damage from strangulation.

[HighValue]

Women commit domestic violence more than men. Women are deceptive more than men. Women are unfaithful more than men. Look up statistics for straight couples, then gay couples, then lesbian couples and you will see that what I said had been proven true by statistics.

[heruncommonsense]

@HighValue Males won't even acknowledge the most basic differences between women and males holy fuck y'all are insane. Lesbians are most likely to be the VICTIMS of domestic violence. Domestic means in the house, not between partners.
Nonconsensual strangling is violence but males aren't the victims so they don't fucking care. All males strangle the women they have sex with, even without consent.
You males literally call it "violence" for women to say things you dislike
Also, the vast majority of women are heterosexual.
"Mental health risks of sexual choking. Being frequently choked by your sexual partner may cause mental health issues such as depression, mood disorders, and problems with mental skills, research shows. The highest risk was found in women choked more than five times in the past month. They were more likely to feel sad, lonely, anxious, and depressed, compared to women without a history of being choked as part of sex."

[heruncommonsense]

@HighValue when a male brags about being "high value" you know he's gonna say some bullshit.

[HighValue]

You're obviously a delusional troll. Anyone can look up the statistics I mentioned. Typical liberal dishonest woman.

[heruncommonsense]

@HighValue Males: Men fib to sleep with women. Don’t hold us accountable please!
Also males: Acknowledging the most basic difference between women and males is dishonest!
The concept of individual rights is liberal, so calling me liberal is not exactly a punch to my ego..
Anyway, am I a troll or a typical liberal dishonest woman? Pick one dude 😭😭

[mysteriousNicholas]

A number of reasons yet I'm happy enough.

That said, I have my coping mechanisms, my faith's, religions, hobbies, - and the potential hope for a future reincarnation in the next life 🧬 so I just enjoy my time in this earth like it's all just one big amusement park day in day out 🎡 🎪

[mysteriousNicholas]

Thanks Asker - storms and howling winds heavy rains, sure are spooky phenomenon 😅👀 🌧️☔ 😨

[awfultree]

I didn't choose it. In real life i do not get asked out of considered. I also think i might have aspergers. Im good at math and design and obssesed so i think maybe its cause aspeegers. But i am chronically sad. Do you feel unlovable? I feel like im not accepted in society

[Asker]

I feel you. I never had any men asked me out as they get to know me as a friend. I was bullied for being different since during elementary and high school days. No boys asked me out because they feel I’m weird, hence they don’t want to be seen with me in public. The good news is my current workplace is more accepting of my differences and I have parents who are accepting too.

[Staximus]

I'm a serious guy and most women are just not that serious, at least in Southern California. They just don't give a fuck as much as I do. Some want a guy who can support them or provide some kind of lifestyle for them, or financially keep up with their bourgeois lifestyle if they make a lot of money, take them to Europe for a month and bullshit like that. I just pretend to be a loser, work a shitty job and act like I have no money to filter them out.

[Anonymous]

I think its ok and good to be single. Im not single right now because I've found someone who I love, and who is acceting of me and my "quirks" that other people didn't seem to like. But prior to meeting him, I accepted that I would be ok with living a single life, and surprisingly, that time was really beneficial. I learned to love myself, to figure out my 'quirks' and to love them. I think our society needs to promote single living more.

[Coden7]

All of my friends either are divorced, want to be divorced, or really should get divorced. Hard to want to get married when there seems to be nothing lastingly positive coming from it anymore.

[Kaneki05]

Because I'm not social and ya know girls don't go looking for dudes who aren't putting themselves out there. So reality is that happening is winning a lottery without buying a ticket?

[Anonymous]

I have very high standards and I rarely see men I find good looking. Personality does matter but I don’t want to be in relationship with a man I feel zero physical attraction to

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I’m asexual and aromantic with no desire for sex so that drives a lot of my decisions to be single

[McLlovin]

So what if you got married. Would you still be uninterested in sex

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yes, I would still have zero desire for sex in marriage

[McLlovin]

You dont think its a chemical imbalance? I know women bodies are very complex when it comes to hormones and stuff. Like for example birth control tends to make women desire sex less or even depression can effect sex drive. If none of those things are you its no problem. I just find it fascinating because I've never met anyone that didn’t like sex

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Better question: why do you think marriage would change my sexual orientation?

[leahzrc]

I think I am asexual but I believe in romance and have sex to please the other. seems sad.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe it seems sad to you, but I very obviously disagree.

[leahzrc]

You don't think you could emotionally fall in love with a man or a woman?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Been there, forced myself into it, didn’t work out. I have tried to romantically love people only to have it be the same as a deep platonic love. That wasn’t enough for them.

[leahzrc]

I understand

[dwreborn]

When I become single I will be probably forever because l lost my relationship so I won't be looking for another anytime soon

[art84]

I always been single cause of my social anxiety well now it would be considered Autism if I was tested. Every girl who I have known has seen me as friend nothing more despite me not showing interest in being more than friends.

[LiamJHayden]

I am "choosing" to be single because I have yet to meet a woman who is strong enough to both put me in my place when I am wrong and secure enough to give me space when I am working.

[Zionne]

You’ve accepted yourself and found peace in being single, which is powerful. You realized relationships often felt draining and unreciprocated, so choosing yourself brings more freedom and happiness.

[leahzrc]

because I can see in peoples eyes what they think of me

[PeaceNDonuts]

I prefer my own company. If I find someone that makes me want to break my peace ok, but Im not searching for it.

[AngryCarl2]

I also have high functioning autism and I need my space. I can be around people, but I can't be around people all the time.

[lucas262]

I chose to wait till marriage, so I dont do hook ups, that limits things a lot. And dating is a minefield life is a lot simpler single

[TonyMetal___86]

I never chose to be single and i hate being single but it is what it is, somehow a person must try to adapt...

[stratford]

My tantric work means I need to stay emotionally unattached.

[Anonymous]

Girls I like - Don't like me back.

Girls who like me - Are not my type.

If I can't be with the type of girl I like, I'd rather stay single.

[Pohjolan]

I'm passively single or I'm not pre-emptively rejecting a potential mate.

[captain_voidwalker]

I've decided to stay single because my last girlfriend decided I work to much and slide 6 inches of cold steel between my liver and colon.

[Anonymous]

My lifestyle is too inconsistent and it would be unfair to a girlfriend and unacceptable for a wife to put up with

[Darkest-Knight]

Why am I single? In my opinion it's because I'm a loser.

[Anonymous]

Trust me it’s better than being a short skinny mid ugly girl who’s 5,2

[Unycorn]

Because the selection is poor

[thegreenyogi]

Simply it just hasn't happened yet.

[Jmmmfi4]

Its not a choice... I can't get any girl to save my life

[McLlovin]

Just have not found the right person

[jamesgoldman]

I'm far too busy working and dying

[mysteriousNicholas]

@jamesgoldman no family or friends pressuring you to settle or settle down? Eventually?

[jamesgoldman]

My friends are in the working boat as well

My father's side don't but given he was single until he met my mother when he was in his late 30's
I've probably still got a decade before anyone asks too many questions

My mother's side do but I just mention the business with its small margins and vast hours

[mysteriousNicholas]

@jamesgoldman well there's always your next reincarnation in the next life? Of course wishing you a long life in this life 😋☯️ as it's always a 50 / 50 if there even is a.

[Anonymous]

Use alternative medicine for that. Jenny Mccarthy wrote a book on stuff for that. She knows her stuff. I use her stuff it changed my life.

[chenyu]

Because I don't have a boyfriend

[bunniesrcute]

i dont work well with others

[Kingofkings1992]

Humans are trash 🚮

[FateofOphelia]

I like my peace

[MasterKS]

Free sex life.