Alright this question came to my mind because of an opinion I posted and the messages I received after that.
Relax I am telling you, Here is the reason why I stopped looking for relationships
As some of you who know me know that I have been in relationships some untraditional ones like dom-sub relationships as well but everyone of them was because I liked the person and they liked and trusted me.
But, a year and a half ago I lost my parents and after that I just feel whenever someone comes near me is out of sympathy not love.
I know it's in my brain but I can't get it out so I have stopped being with someone, and I also fear I would lose them too if I get in a relationship.
So, what about you? Why are you single?
Got a deep wound from a previous relationship that I've used time to heal. (over 3 years ago).
And currently, I'm not in a good position to date either. (work 170 km away from where I live, so I'm currently partially living with my parents because of work and get back to my apartment every other weekend.)
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Because I've come to realize I'm happier and feel better about myself when I'm single than in a relationship or trying to pursue one. Years of being hurt, rejected, friendzoned, ghosted, lied to, manipulated... yeah we all know that's part of dating, but there's only so much a person can take before you start to ask yourself, "Do I really deserve this just to find someone?"
And whenever I even slightly consider dipping my feet back into the dating scene, I'm hurt or let down by that ONE person I decided, "Okay, why not?" and it just kills my self esteem and confidence. For reference, my self esteem is bad enough as is, so being constantly rejected or let down doesn't help it one bit.
So then I wonder am I that unattractive or boring, or am I just one of those people that are not meant to be in relationships?
Sadly it seems like I have less drama, I'm taking better care of myself physically and mentally, and don't have to worry about what others think of me when I'm single. It shouldn't be that way; but yeah... lol. For the sake of my happiness and well being, I think I'll settle on being single and happy.
I was afraid to give birth so I was interested in platonic relationships but not in a marriage where sex would happen. It's cause the bible says over and over again that labour is painful so I thought it would feel like somebody stabbed me with a knife. But then I concluded that the birth pains are metaphors and not expressions of severe agony so I'm no longer scared to give birth.
I liked girls that were not good so I would always realize too late. Then in 2019 I liked a girl , she attracted me by acting all about me , made it clear to me but later I found out she only did that to prove to everyone that good men can like her and she can turn them down because she has *options* now bear in mind her options 😂😂😂 were the worst kinda guys which blew my mind because she simultaneously led my friend and I on. My friend , knowing that I was sad about how this girl used me to get her stuff and for my popularity , could not tell me that he liked her and he called me aside to say "You were right" in which he was referring to the fact that I said girls are just going to break your heart and right now education is more important. Now I remember because people would generally be curious about my life they were speaking about me liking someone and a huge fan of mine asked me if I liked that girl and I lied by saying no. This girl basically after using me asked me to deal with this *rumor* obviously I am more popular than she is as she is only popular by the guys 😂😂😂 . I ended the rumor by contacting my friends so they got together as a team to put an end to it and it blew over in a couple of hours 😎. After all this heartache and drama I never trusted a women's love but what I find so ironic is now women are pursuing me like I'm what they've been missing and life just gets busier as I focus on personal growth . Yeah so I'm single for 5 reasons :
1. Some horrible girl broke my heart, her friends kicked her out of their clique because they know I'm a wonderful guy that no woman should ever do like that
2. I stopped trusting women although more and more women see how I am a high value man with a reputation that says just that.
3. I am more about myself as I chase my goals which back then were my dreams, in my 20s I guess there's a lot people expect from me 🙃 .
4. Life is just busier and I feel like I can only focus on myself right now as I need myself.
5. My sister having Lupus SLE produced a history of it in my family , basically its either I look for someone white with no positives on the ANA or I'm setting up a plan to keep things like so and this has made it difficult for me to approach women although they tend to be comfortable around me. I mean what can I say I have a family with a history of this messed up autoimmune disease that has already ruined my sister's life 💔. I need to get the person tested and let's be honest this can blow up in my face in the name of "Eugenics" .😤
I won't be having anyone anytime soon, it is not getting any easier to be alone though I have accepted it and I do feel that I deserve so much love . That's exactly why I choose to be single , too much going on 🤦āāļø.
Various reasons.
I'm kinda lazy, and pairing off has just got more difficult as I got older and the world got worse. I'm just simply not that interested in putting in so much effort for so little payout.
Not only that but I found out after the fact that the way I treated one of my exes was involuntarily abusive. I didn't mean to hurt them, but it just turned out that way in the end because I'm contrarian and antisocial. So I kinda figured I'm not suited for relationships and don't want to actually hurt anyone else I care about...
I still have preferences and like to look, but I have no intention of ever acting on any of those impulses. Ever.Because I was in a LTR that was struck by tragedy and trauma the aftermath of which was endured for years afterwards. I don't want to get close to anyone again, I couldn't go through anything like that again.
I am happy being single, the only thing I need is sex and I don't have to be in a relationship for that so no reason not to be single really.
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I'm not against relationships...
and I didn't exactly "chose to be single" that's just the current affair of situations... but, it is bound to happen, as it usually does...
I just never rushed onto one nor would seek one just to be in a relationship... that always worked for me Was in a fairly long term relationship until early last year, we went our separate ways. I have just been to busy with other things to even think about any actual dating. Between work, travelling and having fun, I am for now okay with being single. Being single does not mean you do not get to have fun.
I am lazy, I mean lazy to communicate, that bites. I didn't choose to be single my whole life, but things just came to me easily or i just cut corners and settled for less. Still i earn good enough, i have a happy job where i still want the comforts and all. I am a gym rat and can cook. I can take care of myself lazily.
Its just that I dont want to hurt someone and also afraid that they will
Too many complications are there in a relationship, too many possibilities of getting abandoned, cheated on and getting blamed for things you never did (talking about my experience). I rather enjoying having sex while being single.
I don't want to get close to anyone, since they all leave and you become strangers once again.
I don't have time for the dating climate and have lost interested in dating due to how toxic it is - so I've been single by choice 12 years and love my single Iife without the bs , stress, and headache of dating
My almost ex-husband hurt me enough to not wish for any man at my side for a very long time
Single by choice if others, to a degree. I am picky because I have ignored red flags in the past and paid the price so I never will again
Because that is where I am for the moment. My formula is simple.
A great or good relationship is better than being single. Being single is better than a mediocre or poor relationship.I have never had any reason to be single. Life is too short to be that miserable.
No benefit to me in a ltr except a warm body. I can have that from just casual dating.
I got shit to work on but that doesn't mean i won't still cease the opportunity if it's a good one.
Why would u Subject yourself to such a low level situation? I'm single because I don't settle for less than what I want.
Iām single because I choose to be single and date and have sex with them
GIRLS CHOSE IT FOR ME
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