Why do men chooses the woman that is married but separated over a woman that is single?

[Anonymous]

I was seeing a guy for 5 months, things were great but then we had a little fight and he didn’t want to see me anymore but just talk and text. I did notice that another woman was on his phone and Facebook , later on I notice her car at his house , called her on second line and told her about me and other woman , the guy called the second line and I answer it , lol I know dumb, now he blocked me , she however did not. yes she is still with him ! But this woman is married just filed a divorce! This is something that I have noticed even with my ex husband he also is living with his now girlfriend who was also married when they first met no divorced papers. Why are men choosing married women? My ex is miserable too! But me , I have no extra baggage nothing , free bird. I don’t get it why choose someone that is already tied down? And yes this guy I was dating was see this other woman plus me and other women ! Why she staying is dumb to me !

[caring__1]

Men don't choose partners based on their status (including relationship status). They choose them because they see them as a more compatible total partner. You seem to feel it is OK to fight and get away with it, while he sees fighting as a deal breaker. You're different. That doesn't mean one is right and the other wrong; it just means the difference may doom the opportunity. Accept reality and move on. He's just as eager to be molded by you as you are to be molded by him. In the future, you may want to discover how a potential partner feels about fighting before you allow one to happen. Never assume what is normal and makes sense to you will make sense to everyone else.

Also, the other woman has ended her marriage. Just because she has to wait for the court to make it official, that doesn't mean she hasn't fully disconnected from her ex. It doesn't matter if the restaurant remains open after you've finished your meal. You're not required to continue eating.

[Anonymous]

You aren't going to want to hear this answer, but it's the guys you're picking. A guy I worked with was the same way. He told me he used think that was wrong. Then women did it to him. And now I guess his attitude is no one is loyal, so he's in it to get laid, the he'll with loyalty.

It's a character flaw in my opinion. Choose guys without that character flaw. I'd rather just be single if I ever felt that way. Because you have to be able to trust your partner. And in my opinion if you can't there's no point in continuing the relationship. Because you really don't have one.

[spartan55]

You seem awfully concerned about other people's dating preferences.

[Dkc123]

Not even 'some men' do that.

[Anonymous]

Most don't.