Why are guys embarrassed to admit they like someone?

[Anonymous]

why are guys embarrassed to admit they like someone

Is it because she's ugly?

He is shy?

Etc

[toulouse]

are you honest about liking him? if not there's your answer. if s. then he could just be one of thse people who likes to believe he has no feelings fir anyone but himself. that's a lot more common than fear of rejection io. the exposure of the fact you are a feeling person with wants/ needs desires etc. a lot of people are ashamed of his.

if you have not told him how you feel, then you must understand what I'm saying to an extent. in addition, the fact you are asking about someone elses feelings anonymously, shows you lack security in having feelings yourself. you neither talk honestly to him nor are open about it with others.

people refuse to admit they like others when they want to feel impervious to their feelings.

btw simply nlot saying you like someone is not the same as refusing to admit. the latter is about being asked and denying. or going out of your way to at like you don't give a sh*t. if you just don't mention it, well that's just a normal privacy issue. imo.,

[toulouse]

he may not like you/ her. the post presupposes he does like you/ her. so I did not bother addressing - not.

many reasons a person would not be forthcoming.

but assuming he does like her/ you. then its likely self envy preventing him from being honest.. like with you, with anyone.

'if I didn't cared less id be cooler' if she was nicer to me id be cooler' if I cared more id be cooler' if I did x why z in the past id be cooler now.. its endless. you're never as great as you should/could/would be

[MrOracle]

In the majority of cases, it's because he doesn't know if she likes him back, and so admitting that he likes her to people only sets him up for public humiliation if she rejects him. In other words, the problem is that he doesn't have the confidence to:

- Just go an ask her out in the first place and see if she says "yes."

- Tell his friends "Who cares?" if she does reject him.

Remember that most guys fear being rejected by a girl they like more than just about anything else, and having that rejection be public knowledge is even worse.

The girl herself is rarely the issue.

If you like a guy, and think he likes you, the best thing to do is to make it clear that you are interested in him. Smile at him, give him your attention, and break the touch barrier by touching his hands or arms while you're talking, or hug him hello and goodbye. The more confident he is about how you feel about him, the more confident he will be about asking you out.

[aMuse]

A lot of times people are on the fence about if they want someone or not. Like she's hot, but she's a pain in the ass. Would I hit it? Probably... Do I like her and want something more then some casual sex? Maybe not... If those feelings aren't solid, then there's no reason to come out with it and then have to pull back later if you don't want more. With time, feelings become more solid and you're more sure about the person you are seeing and then you can say that own the road. But until you know someone well enough, you're just seeing how it goes and trying to figure it out.

[aMuse]

lol wtf scratch own the road. I mis typed something and not sure what it was. =P

[Asker]

I like this answer

[Ichron]

Because of rejection. When someone puts themselves out there, and they get shot down, it can be hard to move on, and the more they like her the harder it can be. That leads them to draw in and not admit it because they'd rather leave it to question than be rejected. Yes, the reward can be great, but one bad rejection can cause them to pull away from things to protect from it happening again.

[savychic]

So are you saying, more a guy likes a girl, it is harder for him to admit it? And ask her out?

[Ichron]

The more they like a girl, and then get shot down, the harder it can be to move on.

[ZenSpace]

mostly its fear of rejection and public humiliation. I think most girls just can't grasp how devastating a rejection at the hands of their crush is for a young boy. Its somehow worse for us than it could be for you. Its not just the rejection itself. Its also probably getting teased and tormented by other kids in school. Nearly every guy went through this when they were very young, 10 or 12. And that pain sticks with them. At a deep level they don't want it to happen again.

[toulouse]

you don't think that happens to girls/ women?

it does it has/ it will.

[naturalgirl]

What about if a guy pressured his girlfriend to be recorded giving him a blowjob so he could put it on Snapchat within 7 or 8 months of being together not only that he wants to cheat and deny her even being his girlfriend to other women he wants to have sex with he will even go so far as to not post pictures of his girlfriend and not even put the tag up does he love his girlfriend?

[kambo_trick3y]

Are you honestly telling me you've told every single guy you ever liked that you were attracted to them?

You literally have NO idea or experience why this happens?

[toulouse]

right.

[GoodGuyGreatMan]

It could be a lot of reasons. Most likely, he doesn't have enough confidence in himself and he is afraid of what the girl might say.

[bDizzie]

Because she's ugly? Huh? He's shy. That's usually the reason.

[xXxAx3LxXx]

Ego > Feelings > Shy > Rejection = Depression?

[helpmuah]

Afraid of rejection?🧐