Meeting my boyfriend's teenage daughter - any advice?

[Lizzielu]

I'm meeting my boyfriends teenage daughter for the first time this weekend any advise. I've never dated anyone with a teenager before and I'm a little worried about what she'll think of me.

[JanJan]

I think the biggest thing to keep in mind is that a girl's daddy is her first love. By that, I mean to say that she might be a little bit posessive of hers. She might worry that you will try and replace her mother, that you might cut into her time with her dad, or worse, that you might change him and his relationship with her somehow. As long as she can see that you love her dad as much as she does, and that you respect his relationship with her, than hopefully she will begin to open up her heart to you. I recomend just asking her about her interests and trying to be friendly, but if possible try not to be too motherlike. And if you are spending a lot of time with the two of them over the weekend, let them have some alone time whenever you can. If the two of them go out together to get groceries, or stay up late to watch a movie, don't think that they are avoiding you. She just misses her dad and will need some time with just him. It wouldn't hurt to invite her out with just the two of you, however. Start out with coffee, shopping, or hitting a movie, depending on what she likes. If she doesn't accept the offer, please don't take offense. It might take a little time for her to become comfortable with her dad seeing someone new. Start out small, and she will probably start reaching out to you as well. I also recomend asking your boyfriend what sort of reaction he is expecting. What sort of things has he told her about you, and how responsive has she been? This might help you gauge a plan. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

maybe get her a gift since its around the holidays. Give her your full attention, unless she wants to keep a distance, then respect that, this is just a relationship that will take time, and prove that you are serious about her dad, most important make her dad happy and a better dad to her and she will appreciate that.

[Anonymously7]

she could feel threatened meeting you .. I would be worried you would hurt my father. just be very nice and understand it will take time to warm up to one another. good luck =]

[Anonymous]

It honestly depends on their own home circumstances. If the little miss is hoping for her parents to get back together someday, you'll be treated with hostility, and nothing you can do will change that.

But if she's managed to come to terms with the fact that her parents are irreparably separated (by whatever means) then she'll probably just be hoping her dad will meet someone who can make him happy, and in that case, you shouldn't bother trying to go out of your way to impress her. Remember that teenagers tend to hate people that act fake. Be friendly and natural if you want to win her approval.

Additional possibility: She's a selfish little brat who wants daddy all for herself, regardless of what's best for him. Nothing you can really do to win her over (in a single meeting, anyway) either. So stick to being friendly and natural.

Remember that you're just meeting her, don't make it a bigger deal than it is.

[LoveIsChaos]

Oh that's easy just don't act all parental around her or anything just be friendly but not like you're sucking up.

[XNicholex3]

Just be cool and don't act like her mother. Be her friend.

[crazybastard]

just ask if she has Facebook or instagram and randomly bring up something about kardashians while making a duck face and you'll be just fine.