Would you rather be wanted or be needed?

Question

Explain your choice! Would you feel best if people wanted you, or needed you?

Blobb · Accepted Answer

Depends in what context.

Professionnaly I'd rather be needed and wanted but if I could just have one, I'd choose needed, because that makes me necessary, not optional.

In a relationship I'd rather be wanted than needed. Having someone need me is just a f***ing pain in the ass, it means they depend on me and I have the responsibility to sustain them/ It's like being with a kid. That's not what I want.

I'd rather be wanted in relatioships, it means thery have options but choose me over the rest (what an ego bosst ^^), it also means they're independent and they're not relying on me for stuff, which makes the relationship a lot less hassle.

Racez · Accepted Answer

I would rather be needed. I'm currently in training in a company who needs to provide services to a lot of people to protect their future. If I'm just wanted, I can't help them because they may turn their back in a moment. If I'm needed, then I can be sure that I can provide them with the best service to protect their dreams and their future.

fefe884 · Accepted Answer

I prefer if people wanted me. I don't know the 'want' you are referring to, but I'm not referring to the sexual want. People can want my help or want my company, or want my friendship. But I would hate if someone felt they NEEDED me or NEEDED my friendship. Only God can handle that pressure of people needing Him lol. I am not God, I am human, and thus I won't always be reliable. If someone felt they need me, I would be worried because I know there will be coming a day when I will fail them. It is inevitable for people to be unreliable. Even if someone never upsets another, the fact that we WILL all die someday proves the inevitability of unreliability.

kdizzleforizzle91 · Accepted Answer

This is tough to answer. The field I'm planning to work in, I'll be working with children with special needs who NEED help. But being WANTED by that special someone someday sounds wonderful too. I suppose being wanted might be better, because it's voluntary and tells me that the person has decided to be with me on their own. While it's nice to feel needed sometimes, being wanted is more of a compliment, because it means that you may be more desirable than some other alternative. So I'll vote WANTED this time around.

five00seven · Accepted Answer

I would prefer "wanted"...that my friends want me around, that a significant other would want and CHOOSE to be with me.  In the event there is a disagreement or falling out, that they would WANT to reconcile or discuss the issue because they WANT to preserve the friendship/relationship.  I think "want" is more of a choice or preferance, if that makes any sense.

jayb0493 · Answer

I'd rather be wanted. When someone needs you they have no choice in the matter, I've been there and I feel good about it, but after a while it feels like they don't want you, they just need you to help with certain things. Being wanted, they made a choice, and you are that choice.

Anonymous · Answer

I made a mistake and voted for wanted. I want to be NEEDED! Men want women to do certain things and sometimes men wants in a woman is temporary. Most men NEED a GOOD woman to help and reassure him during their relationship.Wants are temporary! NEEDS are forever. A person who knows what they need shows maturity because wants in life will not get you very far in anything!

Anonymous · Answer

I'd rather be wanted.

Being needed can result in resentment. Like, I need this crappy job but I don't really want to work here but I'm here because I have to. Mail order brides need their husband but most of them don't really want them. Who wants that kind of relationship?

I want someone who wants me genuinely. Not because they have no other choice but because of their own free will, they like me.

WoIIie · Answer

Needed. There is more value in being needed than in being wanted.

If someone needs me, I am an imperative asset to their scheme, thus inexpendable. If someone wants me, I am a preferred asset, and preferences can vary.

TwiztedTD · Answer

I chose wanted.

Although needed is a for sure thing. But if someone needs you, but doesn't like you / being with you then it could be uncomfortable and not very pleasant.

If your wanted, at least that means then the person WANTS to be with you, and you can enjoy being together.

benos4752 · Answer

Wanted. With need, there is no choice. Wanted means they have a choice and chose me. That means more to me than someone not having a choice but to be with me.

onlyaguy · Answer

Both would be best, but if I had to choose I would rather be wanted than needed. People who are needed are often taken for granted. Great question.

TwistedLogic · Answer

Needed! because I am already wanted in multiple states.

TheStaff_Sergeant · Answer

I would rather be needed. Depending on the situation; for example, my job, my love or my services, It may imply that I'm indispensable, important, and "wanted."

emzy-89 · Answer

Depends. If you're talking about a partner situation then I'd rather be wanted because that implies a conscious choice/decision for the other person to have me around. Although, I do like helping people need me, or need help in general.

RedSmartie · Answer

Wanted.  I have absolutely no desire to be needed whatsoever.  It's too much of an obligation and at this point in my life, I don't want anything that will kill the guy if severed.

sportz4life · Answer

needed -being wanted is like someone just wants to possess you.  If someone needed you they connect with you on a deep personal level

shiller · Answer

Wanted, it's far better to know that someone chooses to be with you. To be wanted makes you keep your game up to keep their interest. If you are needed then where's the incentive.

omgjeez · Answer

some girls like to feel wanted to stay in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Wanted. I want to be desired and wanted by someone I love. Sometimes to be needed to me means that person constantly needs my attention and I can't stand clingy people.

Tatiahna · Answer

Wanted, because I'm lazy and being wanted requires no work.

mattygfromtheMD32 · Answer

Wanted, so that I don't have an obligation to be with people. If that makes sense.

Anonymous · Answer

By the person I like - Needed By everyone else - Wanted

Mike999 · Answer

Both, I want to be needed due to being wanted, not the other way around!

Katrina007 · Answer

wanted because for me if you are "needed" by someone, you are just being used. that was based on my personal experience.

menina · Answer

Needed. I would be important for them.

kholland65 · Answer

Oops meant to vote A but voted B.

coprophobia · Answer

wanted  need can become obsessive.

maiez · Answer

wanted, so they have a choice but prefer me

apple24 · Answer

I would rather be needed! Someone got to do it!

Anonymous · Answer

Needed.

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