If an ex doesn't even want to meet up for coffee, what does it mean?

[Anonymous]

Great, short relationship. Great breakup, really mutual. No cheating, lying, etc

Just doesn't care to

Doesn't want to catch feelings

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+1 y

I'm pretty, never argued, relationship was 4.5 months and I moved away for work. So it ended. I'm going to do a presentation at our university for 3 days so I thought we'd meet up :-)

[2EagleEyes]

He may not want to be around you. You broke up for some reason yes? Sometimes people aren't meant to be around each other. If that is the case then why bother spending time or money to force yourself to hang out. I have plenty of exes I would just as soon not speak to or see ever in life.

Good luck

[Asker]

Yea we broke up because I moved away for work.

[2EagleEyes]

I say he is just done with it. Relationship didn't work... He got over you. He may be working on someone else. I wouldn't take it personal. It was a good breakup ... call it lucky. Move on. Don't even text him to let him know you are in town. My advise. Take care.

[Asker]

Yea I told him I'll be in town in end of March through FB and he never replied. It was a great break up actually but I'm def not getting back with him for sure. Thx

[SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ]

An ex is an ex for a reason.

I have yet to meet a guy who has been out with a girl a few months ago and still wants to be best of buddies when he breaks up. You can still be friends.. but the relationship just isn't that close anymore.

He isn't interested.

Time to move on.

[Anonymous]

He is no longer interested in you and maybe he knows you are trying to make him catch feeling again.

[Asker]

Yea, maybe he hypothesize that huh? I'm not trying that on him though. Never played games, etc, nothing. Thanks though!

[Opinion Owner]

I know you aren't but I think that's he thought.

[ThenThereWas1]

If he doesn't want to meet up, I'd assume that means he's not interested in seeing you.

[Asker]

Yea but for no reason? I'm pretty, never argued, relationship was 4.5 months and I moved away for work. So it ended. I'm going to do a presentation at our university for 3 days so I thought we'd meet up :-)

[ryanontario]

i think he's just moved on , I don't think he see's any point in meeting up in person . that's not really something a lot of people do with ex's anyways

[Asker]

You're probably right. I just thought we were pretty good friends and I was never needy or anything so how come he doesn't want to meet up? He didn't delete me off his FB or anything so he doesn't hate me...

[ryanontario]

but fb doesn't mean a lot , there is lots of people on mine I haven't seen in years . some people over estimate the importance of being on someones friends list . remember most people are friends with 100's if not 1000's of people on that site

[Anonymous]

It means he has moved on and/or is seeing someone new already.

[Ron601]

Moved on with his life.

[emzy-89]

he's just not interested anymore