Mostly it's something that triggers the feeling into wanting kids.
My trigger was when my sister got my nephew, he was such a little butterball and when I got to hold him and he grabbed my shirt and didn't want to let go, I was hooked and wanted a baby of my own. I have held other babies before this, but this was totally different because we are closely blood related I guess.
I was 29 at the time and my sister was 24.
A brother in-law of mine wanted to have a baby with another sister of mine, because he was diagnosed with testicular cancer, so before he began treatment, they froze some sperm of his, because he might have become infertile after the treatments.
He survived and didn't become infertile, when the doctors gave him the green light that everything is fine, my sis became pregnant 5 months later. They have a gorgeous daughter and he's very happy. He was 40 and my sis was 35.
What the trigger would be for another guy into wanting kids, I have no idea and probably he doesn't know either. What I do know there will something in our life that triggers us wanting to become a father. I gave you 2 personal examples.
Generally speaking, most men decide that they want to get married around 30-33 and usually they'll seriously consider having children in their early to mid 30s.
Some later, some sooner. The advantage with you though is that men don't have a biological clock to worry about, usually we feel the social pressure to get married & have kids once we get to a certain age rather than feel an instinctual desire to have children. As such, a man is more likely going to be willing to wait for a few years if his partner says she wants to wait.
Hey, there's the same age difference in my relationship! :)
I want kids about the same time you do, and I think that's when my boyfriend will as well. We plan on getting married in about a year & a half, then have a kids a couple years later.
Honestly, the best thing to do is just talk about it with him! And if you don't want to jump right in to the children talk just ask "Where do you see yourself in five years?" and try to get as much detail out of him as you can! Haha I'm guilty of doing such a thing.
Woah, calm your t*ts. Who the hell wants to have kids without being married? I mean it happens but only by accident and when you're pro-life. Why on earth would he plan to have kids with you when you are not engaged and not married? If that is the case, I do not know what happened to society, and you are dating the wrong guy.
It depends on the person. My guy is 41 and doesn't want kids. It's nice because neither of us do, though we consider fostering an older child down the road.
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Once guys hit the 30 mark, they think about it. Usually not in their 20's.
For most guys, when they're somewhere in between the 30 and 35 mark is when the alarm goes off.
My point: You got a few more years until he wants kids.
I think for most guys including myself, it's about 30. after 30 it becomes annoying because I don't want to look like a very old man, when my son will be 20 years old.
I'm 28 and I'm starting to want kids but no Girlfriend so hah I hope I'm not going to be some old father.
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I'm 25, I think the best age for kids would be 28~30 for me, I would have gone further building my career and having more time to spend with my future family.. but I need to find the one first, haha
As soon as he feels mature enough to handle a child of his own as well as financially support the child.
if I was ever gonna have a kid, which I doubt I will. it would be age 30 exactly
You should just tell him how you're truly feeling about it.
How do you know he even wants kids? How do you know you guys will be together?
as soon as I can afford kids
I am still young but I want kids after I'm married
Never.
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