My boyfriend likes torturing animals, should I break up?

[Anonymous]

I said torturing but it's too big word .. anyway my boyfriend likes fishing, and I wouldn't be against if he does it to eat this fishes then..

But he does it only for pleasure, fishig, catch fishes then throw it again to water. He does it pretty often and likes it a lot, so no way that he will stop,

it's only fishes but I mean they suffer too, they get hurt. I'm not vegetarian or someone crazy, but if he doesn't catch fishes to eat it , then I think what he is doing is wrong?

I don't know if it's right person for me, should I break up?

[Travelover8]

If you aren't vegetarian or vegan and you aren't involved with PETA even, then why do you care? Fishing is a great sport to get really relaxed and connect with nature. Its good to have empathy and to feel sorry for the fishes or what not but it doesn't seem like you actually feel sorry for the fish. It seems more like to me that you are just picking this quality in your boyfriend as a reason to break up with him. " I don't know if he's the right person for me" Clearly he isn't if you are even having that thought, move on and date someone else. The way you stated the question, made it seem like your boyfriend was kicking his dog, or setting fire to a cat or something. Which, if he is doing that, break up with him right away as those are signs of a serial killer.

[Asker]

but fish feels pain too, I don't want to have boyfriend who is cruel that;s all. And everyone hates me because of that question..

[Travelover8]

I don't hate you...

And, there have been studies that state fish can't feel pain, however, it depends on the fish. Certain fish can actually feel pain.

[Asker]

and I heard completely opposite studies and that fishing is bad, and a lot of fishes will die after realase anyway, so I'm really confused now.

[Asker]

did I say anything wrong anyway? because everyone say I'm ridiculous and I just feel terrible

[Travelover8]

Ever heard the expression, " you have a memory of a fish, or fish brain" its because fish don't remember things after like 10 seconds or something. I don't know if they die after release or not but if you really cared about fish so much then you would be involved with PETA or something that helps stops animal abuse... No questions are stupid, and its good that you are curious and thinking about things so I don't think you are ridiculous at all, its just better to do a little more research

[Asker]

i'm involved in volunteer work in shelter for dogs since 2 years, I take them for a walks - and many people laught because of this, Most people just don't care about animals. I am not doing anything for Peta anyway, and I don't know about fishes I just said what I heard and some research says fish feels pain some says it doens't so much like human., but how to know which research to believe?

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[Travelover8]

Alright, was it really necessary to send me that photo... Research online and just make sure to look at more than one website, if 5 websites are saying the same thing, odds are that is true. Its also good to go down to your local library and get some books on the topic since you seem passionate about this.

[Asker]

well, I'm sure this fishes my boyfriend catch suffer, because fish needs water to breath right? my boyfriend keep it without water for 15 minutes or more , he even once carried fishes on his bike , withour any water . I don't believe that fishes can't feel pain , and 90 % other people will say I'm stupid and laugh.. but I have right to believe in not hurting any animals.. even this stupid fish

[Kregg]

Um no, Unless he's catching these fish and like ripping a chunk outta the gill or somethin/ causing the fish to bleed, the fish should be fine. When fishing, even if you're fishing to keep the fish, you're still going to reel in fish that aren't keepers and you throw them back, so fishing for sport is like the equivalent of going fishing and every fish you catch isn't a keeper so ya gotta throw them back. You can't be OK with one and not the other in my opinion

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[QueenBeatris]

aw how sad:(

[Hannah591]

That's fishing fgs, not torturing! I thought your boyfriend was setting cats on fire or some sh*t!

Fishing is a hobby that a lot of people do! It's purely like a scratch or the pain of a piercing to a fish and it heals fine eventually. I don't really agree with throwing them back in after catching them but that's life, people fish and that's how they fish and you get on with it. It's not something worth breaking up over.

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[Hannah591]

Oh.. aha. I wouldn't say it was torturing though; she exaggerated a bit too much.

[Asker]

well, I'm sure this fishes my boyfriend catch suffer, because fish needs water to breath right? my boyfriend keep it without water for 15 minutes or more , he even once carried fishes on his bike , withour any water . I don't believe that fishes can't feel pain , and 90 % other people will say I'm stupid and laugh.. but I have right to believe in not hurting any animals.. even this stupid fish

[Hannah591]

Just tell him you love animals and you can't deal with the thought of him harming those fish. If he refuses too and it bothers you that much, then you should leave him and find an animal lover.

[asianmaleCA]

imagine your boyfriend, growing up torturing animals. Then, imagine him being alone with your pets, or when you guys marry and have children. And he thinks children are like pets.

Once, abusive, always abusive. Cut him up, and teach him to respect pets.

[Robotic]

yes... but to fish?

[Theguyoverthere]

Honestly, if it bothers you that much then go ahead and dump him. Would you get mad at him if he squished a spider too?

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[QueenBeatris]

alot of people fish for the sport and then release,its not necessarily looked at as cruelty ,at least he doesn't kill them.I know it hurts the fish but it could also be saving the fish's life as next time he gets caught he won't be so lucky so maybe the fish will be more cautious next time

[Asker]

but this fish suffers, I don't see a reason to make it suffer

[QueenBeatris]

thats true...if it bothers you that much,talk to him about your views and if he doesn't see where you are coming from maybe he's not the one for u

[Asker]

maybe I'm stupid or I'm idiot but I heard that fish feel pain and I accept fishing for eating because I just love to eat fish but simply torturing animals for fun,? it's just hurting it and chucking it away again for no reason.

[QueenBeatris]

thats sweet that you have empathy for living things and you are right,who are we to know what fish actually feel..it is a living thing...tell him how much it bothers u..people hate peta sometimes too but it never stops them from protecting animals lives,dont change for anyone

[mattygfromtheMD32]

Why on earth would you make that your title? The first thing I thought of was "He's a serial killer! Get out while you can!"

I hope you don't go around telling people your boyfriend tortures animals. They might get the wrong idea.

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[mattygfromtheMD32]

PETA is an organization run by delusional people.

[Robotic]

Yup, and they are hypocrites

[Robotic]

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[QueenBeatris]

i won't date someone who hunts deer and rabbits and that sort of game..fishing is a little different but you are right its mean to hurt them without a reason except that you caught something.

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[Prettygurl12]

You do understand that the fish doesn't die when it's released, right? I mean, they do RARELY. But if you remove the hook correctly, the fish is fine.

[mattygfromtheMD32]

But, like, we're taking away their rights, man!

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[Prettygurl12]

Oh good Lord, you're one of those Peta people? And I suppose you don't believe in horseback riding or milking cows either?

[Asker]

and why should I be against horse riding or milking cows? O.o I just don't support hurting animals, that's all..

[Prettygurl12]

Peta people are against all of that. They don't believe in farms, or using animals to pull wagons; they don't believe in fences and think that animals should have all the rights of people. Believe me, my dad deals with them on a daily basis. If you're against hunting then don't do it. But don't forbid others from doing it.

[Asker]

did I say I'm against hunting?! where did you read it? I like to eat meat, animals hunt too so hunting is ok.. . I'm only against making animals suffer , I don't agree with keeping animals on farms in small cages yes, because they feel pain too!

[Prettygurl12]

Just don't get too crazy...PETA people don't support keeping a horse, for example, in a roomy stall, with ample food, water, health care, grooming, and a giant pasture. They don't support this because apparently keeping the horse penned is torture to it. When in reality, they'd all die anyway if they ran free and were hit by cars. Don't get crazy like that. That's all I'm saying.

[Asker]

well I have uncle who has horses, and he has also big place where they run or move freely during a day, he teaches me horse riding ( so I'm not against it) .. but they are not kept penned all the time because he has field where they run , he even turns them music and you would be surprised that horses like to listen to music.. of course I'm against keeping horses penned, if you don't have field, garden where they could run- you don't buy horse..

[Prettygurl12]

So...you'd advocate for them to be free like deer?

[Asker]

noo, I mean that they should have possibility to run freely because isn't it cruel keeping horse in cage all the time?

[Prettygurl12]

Horses are not kept in cages. They are kept in barns. Peta people hate barns. They pretty much want to give animals the right to vote.

[Asker]

in barns so they can't run, don't see the sun.. they suffer. I didn't hear about peta people wanting to make animals vote anyway

[Prettygurl12]

I'll have you know that my horses are kept in decent sized stalls with fresh bedding, running water, and good food. They spend their days in a 2 acre pasture with access to shelter that is fenced in. There is nothing cruel about that. Please explain to me the cruelty in that arrangement.

[Asker]

if they spend days in pasture then I don't see anything cruel. I said I would find it cruel if someone keep them in stalls all them time because they need fresh air and to move freely .

[Prettygurl12]

Next I suppose you'll tell me that it is cruel to own a dog and walk it on a leash. Or that declawing a cat is cruel. Or maybe that walking is cruel because of all the ants you kill when you step on them. PETA people are crazy nutjobs. Animal cruelty is awful, yes. But PETA people want animals to have all the rights of humans. They're crazy.

[Prettygurl12]

Just promise you're not a crazy PETA person. Get lots and lots and lots of information before you go side with them.

[Asker]

i don't know about peta. I have a dog and I take them for a walk on a lash sometimes.. Why you say so stupid things about me ?! I said only that I don't support animal cruelty ( beating them, treating bad, keeping in small cages, and hurting without any reason but just pleasure!

[Prettygurl12]

Because fishing, with the hooks they have nowadays, is not animal cruelty.

[Asker]

but fish suffocate , well I don't know anyway I don't want to have boyfriend who does it

[palek]

So, you equate catch-and-relase fishing with torture, eh? Isn't that special.

[Asker]

maybe I'm stupid or I'm idiot but I heard that fish feel pain and I accept fishing for eating because I just love to eat fish but simply torturing animals for fun,? it's just hurting it and chucking it away again for no reason.

[palek]

"Wahtever doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Try to think of him as a fitness instructor for fish.

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[Robotic]

"I accept fishing for eating"

Hypocrite lol. wow. that fish probably felt 'pain' to end up on your plate. or did you not realize that?

[palek]

Nothin could be neatah

Than the melonheads from PETA

Makin truth into a farce

By talking out' their arse.

[palek]

And that too, Robo...

[Asker]

but fishing for eating is fishing for a reason.. and yes I agree with it completely. But fishing just for pleasure, for no reason? why to ngive someone pain for no reason..

[Robotic]

its fine to kill and eat fish if its for a reason?

[Asker]

yes if it's for eating

[palek]

According to PETA "Animals are not ours to eat, wear, experiment on, use for entertainment, or abuse in any way." You must stop eating animals - and vegetables too. You wouldn't shred a dog like a carrot would you? Then why would you shred a carrot. After all, carrots are living organisms. And besides, who will the baby carrots look up to when their mommy and daddy are dead and compose 5% of your morning stools. You vile ghoul!

[Asker]

i don't know what are you talking about.. everyone has right to decide if it's vegetarian or not, I have nothing against vegetarians but I eat meat. I just agree with some peta actions.

[palek]

PETA Pooper picked a peck of pickled peppers. And you should have heard them peppers scream!

[Anonymous]

He's just enjoying fishing, and he's not torturing them. Though, you should talk this out with him.

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[Anonymous]

My advice is to break up with him, never date a man again, never read a book, never watch TV and stay away from most human beings.

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[Opinion Owner]

Hahahahaha 5 star troller

[upsyndrome]

I laughed out loud.

If fishing is immoral to you than that can be a legitimate reason to break up with him. People should see eye to eye when it comes to morals, I think.

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[upsyndrome]

lmao

[Prof_Don]

Sounds like incompatibility ... I do say you're overblowing this.

[Anonymous]

Admit it. you don't really have a boyfriend. you are just using this question to push your own agenda.

[upsyndrome]

I believe this.

[Anonymous]

This is hilarious. He's a sport fisherman.

[Asker]

Fishing is NOT a sport. A sport is a competition between two or more evenly-matched opponents. If the fish had a hook it could jab through YOUR mouth, then it would be a sport. Since it doesn't, fishing does not qualify as a sport.

[Opinion Owner]

I do exactly what your boyfriend does. When I get a big fish, I keep it and when I don't I throw it back to swim around with it's friends so someone else can catch them.

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