Why is my girlfriend being such a bitch when all I do is be nice and care for her?

[MrNiceGuy87]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost two years now and she barely shows that she really cares for me. I recently just blown the motor in my car so I have to rebuild it, its my first time doing a rebuild. My cousin is suppose to be helping me but he doesn't care to even help at all so I'm trying to do it by myself but so far its been two and in a half months now. Yes I know I need to hurry up and get back to her. But why doesn't she call me when she's at her best friends which is a guy and why does she always being an a**hole to me?I'm really hating life right now everyone I know don't care to even talk to me I'm really f***ing sick of it, like dieing would be great right now cause its getting to the point that I just don't care anymore if things keep going the way they are I might just kill myself, sh*t people are already showing they don't care already I don't know what's going to happen . If someone can please talk to it be great, Ty

[inquisitiveemt]

It sounds like your in a really sh*tty place buddy. Not having all sides of what you and your girl are going thru, I'm going to assume she's cheating. As far as your girl is concerned if you don't have a kid together you should just leave because its bs you don't seem to have time to deal with.

I know when I nasty to my husband,and all he's doing is being nice, its because I let our past problems run my emotions...like the fact that he attempted to cheat on me with his ex after we were together for 10 years.

So unless you did something and she holds grudges I doubt that she's being faithful.

Dont kill yourself or even talk like that. If ud like you can inbox me and we can get more in depth what's going on.

Hope everthing works out for you kiddo!

[MrNiceGuy87]

Well I know she's not cheating on me cause she's a horrible liar and its easy to read most of her besides her being an ass all the time.

[inquisitiveemt]

maybe you take her horrible lying for granted and she could b seeing someone...and being as OK and love as you are u'd be inclined to overlook something that's blatantly screaming in someone elses face. what I'm trying to say is don't b so quick to dismiss the idea. the dip sh*t attitude could be her facade for the cheating...what are the reasons your so in love with her? is she nice at least some of the time our is it that she was nice in the beginning of the relationship and it's something you hope will

[inquisitiveemt]

come back? if your hoping for the latter most of the time it never comes back...n I have to also agree with olivia9...your only going to be treated the way you allow yourself to b treated...

[Darkfairie17]

I can see how she would be mad if you haven't seen her in a few months. There has to be other ways that you could get down to see her. And maybe she should be coming to see you too.

She can't completely blame you for not seeing her if she refuses to find ways to come see you.

Sit her down and talk to her about this. If she gets mad and walks away, well that's not good communication. She can't just expect you to be able to read her mind and know how she is feeling. She has to tell you, and if she is unwilling to be mature and talk things out, then she isn't worth it, no matter how much you love her.

To be honest, if that is how she acts all the time, why are you even with her?

[Olivia9]

It seems like all the nice guys are with bitchy women. So when you let someone treat you like that you are dictating how you "like" to be treated. If a guy called me a bitch and then I dated him I would be condoning his behavior and disrespect. The lesson here is that you teach people how to treat you, when you accept and respond to negative behavior and encourage it by being nice in return or even still giving them attention you might as well be saying to her "HEY, I'm really nice and I will take all the sh*t you dish me happily! :)" I mean if there are no consequences for her actions why would she stop? Does she even know you feel this way?

[MrNiceGuy87]

That's the thing every time we try to talk about our problems together she gets mad at me and walk away I.really love her so much I would die for her and her family. Maybe I'm one of those really nice guys that will never have love that's eternity. cause sh!t every girl that I've been with has left me for there brother yes there brother. ): I'm so f***ing lonely and sad I just want to be loved and love her back, I miss the cuddles and movie nights and stuff. I don't know what to do

[kangaru]

I like what you said;)

[why-makoto-kun]

This is so true! Mean people will not follow the golden rule-- instead they do what they can get away with :/

[Anonymous]

Act like a doormat, don't be surprised when you get walked on.

If *all* you do is be nice and care for her, then you're boring her. Girls need a little excitement, a little mystery, a little uncertainty, and more than a little drama to be happy.

[MrNiceGuy87]

Well boring her is impossible I awlays blow my money for me and her to do awesome things. It's just now that I'm away for a bit she starts being an total ass to me. yes all I do is be nice and care for her but I'm saying that cause of my topic, not that I don't .but as in doing stuff she's fine in that department.

[Tempestwolf]

Dude If she's always being a Bitch find a new Woman. I had my fair share of loosers. I found my other half at 36. Move on say bye and live your life and look elsewhere

[Tempestwolf]

35 sorry.

[doveylovey]

She might think you solve your issues quicker when you are by your own...( as most guys do!)

IF you want her care and concern, simply ask for it! ask and you will be given. If she still doesn't call you nor show concern for you, then you know something is amiss! It could be a case of incompatibility. Then again, as long as two people are willing to work things out, there will always be a way!

All the best :-)

[Anonymous]

If you can't stand her attitude, you know that it's time to break up with her.

[MrNiceGuy87]

But see there's this one word that's called love and its hard to let go. I've dealt with a lot with her so its showing I'm willing to do what ever it takes to work it out I don't care what it takes.

[Anonymous]

maybe take time to work on yourself, maybe she is dealing with her own issues and can't be present for you.

[MrNiceGuy87]

She's in no hurry for anything right now I know for sure besides sitting at home doing nothing and hanging out with her best friend. But why is she being an a**hole for no reason at all ? I know at time to time women can be an ass, also for guys as well . But why is it always being an ass to me. It's lonely and sad. ):

[tiredofwaiting]

She doesn't sound happy with you anymore maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Doormats always attract bitches or a**holes