So, here's the deal. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost a year and two months, possibly the best year and two months of my life, but lately she has been really mean to me. She makes fun of me for everything, for example when I'm driving she'll make me feel retarded for not taking a specific turn. She tells her friends all of my shortcomings, even when I'm standing right beside her. I know I have made some mistakes in the past, and I have screwed up royally, but she told me she forgave me.
But doesn't that mean that she wouldn't keep talking about it? She tries to rationalize it by saying she's only joking, but she doesn't know how crappy it makes me feel. Also, she gets so mad at me. Even if I don't say anything wrong, if something makes her upset, she shuts me out and sometimes yells and swears at me. ( I'm a Christian, and so is she, so that's a huge thing.)
I bend over backwards to make her happy, I do everything for her, from driving her everywhere because she hates driving, getting groceries for her, making lunch for her, and doing her homework(we're both in College, so you can imagine the work load.) But if I even mention I can't do something for her or I can't hang out sometimes because of homework, she gets so mad at me. And if I ask her if she can do one small thing for me, her answer is always "maybe." Not like me, where it's always "Absolutely."
I'm just so confused. And she barely ever says I love you in person or in text, only "yup, uh huh, or cool." It's like I'm putting my heart on a silver platter, and she smashes it with a hammer. Don't get me wrong, I love her more than words can contain, and my than I can imagine. I would die for her, and I serve her out of pure love, and I never get mad at her, I've never raised my voice at her, and I've never gave her any mean looks. I treat her like gold.
Why does it feel so one-sided, and what can I do to make things right? I have no intentions of leaving her. I just want our yolk to be equal again. Why is my girlfriend so mean to me? :( Please help me?
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Well, Everything is OK now, because she told me this; That I was right. One of the few times I will ever hear that. :) She apologized for the way she's been treating me, and that she loves me beyond belief because I'm eternally patient with her. :)
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The reason why I'm not willing to give up on her, is that she has been thoroughly mistreated in the past. Lets just say when she was little, someone did something to her and she feels worthless now. I vowed to always keep her safe when I learned that.
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Ps in no way am I saying I'm perfect. I'm far from it.
Why is my girlfriend so mean to me? Why does my girlfriend snap at me and is rude to me?
Mistake 1: >I bend over backwards to make her happy.
Mistake 2: >I do everything for her.
Mistake 3: >I treat her like gold.
Mistake 4: >I would die for her, and I serve her out of pure love.
Mistake 5: >I never get mad at her.
Mistake 6: >I've never raised my voice at her.
Mistake 7: >I've never gave her any mean looks.
Diagnosis: You have no balls.
Cure: Reclaim your manhood and dump this bitch.
Choice #1 (If you have the balls): Dump her and don't look back.
Choice #2 (If your too much of a p**** to leave.) Treat her like she treats you. I guarantee you will see a change immediately. Give her some distance. No communication for at least a week. No emails, texting, phone calls, hanging out, no nothing for a least a week. Every time she acts up this is what you need to do. For every time you have to do this add an additional week of not talking to her. If you ever get to 3 weeks that's it. Game over. She out. For good.
You have no respect for yourself and that should come before your love for anyone. You also have very...very...low self-esteem. Love is not enough of a reason to take abuse from anyone. You have to establish some ground rules for how much crap your willing to put up with. This girl has no respect for you at all. She puts you down in front of her friends. This girl is in college? She acts like an ungrateful 5 year old brat. You need to learn to say no. Say no! It's easy trust me. Just tell her no. No to driving her places, doing her homework, cooking meals for her. Just tell her no. You reward someone when they've earn it. Your too nice guy. Way too nice. If you continue to stay with this girl she will drain the life out of you. I hope your not planning on marrying this bitch because her behavior will only get much worse after marriage. If she isn't willing to change now she won't do it with a ring on her finger either. You can't make anyone change they have to want to change themselves.You have to learn to be alone. But your afraid to leave her because you feel that you can't do better than this bitch. Are you sure your a Christian. A true Christian can smell evil a mile away and that is what this bitch is, pure evil. "I have no intentions of leaving her." That's really pathetic. You are so weak. You know what you have to do. You said it yourself. Your a punching bag for this bitch. I don't care what problems she may have with her mother or any other problems she might have. NOT YOUR PROBLEM. Your not here to be her therapist. This is what happens to guys who want to play hero. "That's the thing though. She hasn't lost interest in me. And I know she still does love me, she tells me she does." > I don't give a damn what she says. Anyone can say I love you. I would rather someone show me they love me than say it. I strongly recommend choice one. GET OUT! If you still insist on staying then try choice two. You will see results.
chibe - are you a guy with a big ego..? you sound like one of those people who can't accept anyone's answers but their own and never know when is a good time to shutup and stop arguing.
ie if you were working on a group project in college, youd shoot down everyone elses ideas and act like you are god.
so are you?
(not trying to be mean, just curious after reading/analyzing the comments)
(not trying to be mean, just curious after reading/analyzing the comments)
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Sure you are. You think I have a big ego and that I should just shut up and accept what others say. No I will not. Not only do you assume that I have a big ego but that I would also violent and uncooperative with others. I don't shoot down others ideas I just respond to them like I'm doing with yours. I post my thoughts and back them up. What is wrong with that?
Totally agree!! A lot of women say they want a 'Nice Guy' but what they mean, is not what guys understand!! She doesn't want some 'pussy-boy' that just goes along with that she wants, afraid she will leave if you don't just surrender, like so many do, and then get divorced, 3 years later, because she cheats, with some 'bad-boy' type. But she doesn't want that 'abuser, shithead guy' either!! Just speaking from MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, and NOT saying this is universal!!! Don't send a lot of hates, because I am speaking from MY experience, ONLY!! I made those mistakes, being 'Too Nice' and doing everything, just for her, but the ones i was with didn't want that. They wanted a man, that is a man, and can say, I made a reservation at this restaurant, and we are going there, rather than the 'wussy' "where do you want to go to eat?" They wanted something NEW, Different, and wanted to be taken there, for that. Not that she didn't have her opinions, and choices.. .
I wouldn't go as far as Chibba but the rebalancing and asserting your own rights and interests part is spot on.
It is fine to do all of the things you say you do for her from time to time, provided that she appreciates it, reciprocates and maintains respect for you. It sounds like there's not enough reciprocation on her part, and definitely insufficient respect. Change things now, or resign yourself to waking up in 30 years time thinking you have squandered some of the best years of your life on someone that didn't deserve you.
You have to re-earn her respect by standing up for yourself, and being less unconditional with her (the only people you owe an unconditional duty to are your children before they can fend for themselves. An important duty of a parent is to cultivate and promote independence in your children (with a safety net) as early as possible).
> I would die for her, and I serve her out of pure love.
That's OK if this is your lifetime partner, but she only deserves this devotion if she is there for you as well.
>I never get mad at her.
I would say this was unhealthy, even in a great relationship.
It is vital to be able to vent and discuss issues (which she has clearly given you), as a prelude to both changing if necessary (and it is here for your long term mental health), and continuing on a more sustainable basis.
Plus the making up and making out after a constructive clear the air row can be brilliant.
she's still mad. And she's holding a deep grudge against you and herself for not letting you know how much you messing up hurt her and thinking its too late now. You probable deserved more of an argument or angry day then you actually got when you messed up, girls feel emotions in a unique way that makes them vindictive. So if she hasent been honest with her feelings, which lets be honest why make something worse by turning it into a giant yelling match, but getting things delt with properly is important. Or she could find herself dealing with an internal delima about her feelings for you, someone else, or about something that doesn't even have to do with you when things are stressed out and you can fully be yourself and feel like even if you take it out on them they will still love you you tend to overlook how often outside things influence the way you treat the ones you love.
That behavior is not by someone who is in love, rather someone who is getting sick of her partner and wants out...
I am not sure that there is anything you can do beside asking her straight out if she has lost interest and weather she still wants to be with you or not...sorry though =/
Plus her behavior is really really bitchy! You shouldn't have to put up with that... especially from someone you love!
That's the thing though. She hasn't lost interest in me. And I know she still does love me, she tells me she does. She told me that she feels she can say those things and be like that because she knows I won't get mad or leave her. And I never will. She is the same with her mother in the sense that as badly as she treats her mom, she knows her mom will always love her. I know she hasn't lost interest, she just takes things out on me and uses me as a punching bag. Am I doing something wrong?
"because my parents they argue a lot...she does the same thing she yells at him in the car the way he drives stupid but really she is doing this be cause she cares for him" >If she really loves him like you say she wouldn't nag and yell at him and would trust him to drive everyone to their destination safely.
I think I can offer some advice a little different from what I've read on here so far on your issue. My dad told me a story not unlike the one described by you that happened between him and my mom at one point in their marriage. In fact, its almost identical. He said he had done nothing wrong by her, but she was just being mean and short with him for no apparent reason, and it had been going on for several days if not weeks. The more he tried to appease her, the more she would be a bitch to him, much to his confusion and frustration. He called his mother(my grandmother) and asked her advice, which is what I am going to offer you. My grandmother said she is doing this because she can(just like what you stated below in your comment) and she(your girlfriend) really, really wants you to stand up for yourself. She is mad at you because you are letting her walk all over you and your feelings. I know you love her and I'm sure she loves you, but you need to have a little more self-respect and not accept this behavior from her. Its hard to respect someone who doesn't have any respect for themselves. Next time she treats you with disrespect, you need to put your foot down, tell her that you don't deserve to be treated like that from her, that you never treat her like that so why does she feel its OK to treat you that way, and that it is completely unfair and unacceptable to you, and that she can come talk to you only when she can treat you with the respect you deserve. My father did this with my mom, and it was exactly the thing to do. You don't have to be mean, but you need to express your frustration and anger with her behavior in a way she knows that you are serious(yes, this means raising your voice) and that you will not accept it from her any longer. She may scream and yell at you back, but realize that you are in the right, and even if she flips out, she WILL cool off and realize that you are right, she needs to respect you, and she will. Stand your ground man, if after you stand up for yourself and she leaves upset, DO NOT apologize or try to console her, because you are simply not accepting her unacceptable behavior anymore, she will realize that she was acting out of line and she will be the one to apologize to you. Women hate it when you seek their approval on everything and supplicate to their every need at the expense of your own. I promise, she will love you for being the man you are and putting her in her place and demanding the respect you deserve from her. Hope this makes sense and your situation gets better man, let me know how it works out.
Well, I am not there, I don't know her. But I know I have been in a couple of relationships like this.
It sounds like she does not respect you. She does not consider you an equal, and frankly it sounds like neither do you. You wrote: "...I was right. One of the few times I will ever hear that..." - have some F-ing self respect man!
YOU need to take responsibility for the way you are treated. If some one treats you disrespectfully, you need to tell them that is unacceptable. Especially if its your girlfriend. YOU are the one who makes the rules for how others are allowed to treat you. If some one is treating you badly, get them out of your life. You deserve better.
I'll be honest man, this does not sound like a healthy relationship. Not at all. Maybe she apologized now, but she already knows, in the back of her mind, that she can abuse you as much as she wants. She knows you have given her all the power, she can treat you as horribly as she likes and you'll never leave. Do you really think she won't abuse this power?
My guess is that all it will take is one fight when she gets angry and all those nice words will be thrown out the window, she will be back to treating you terribly. It is an old story. One lover treats the other badly, they apologize and promise to change, then a little later they slip easily into their habit of treating the other badly, wash rinse repeat. I hate to be the angel of death here, but I think you should very seriously consider the possibility that this girl is the problem, not you.
"The reason why I'm not willing to give up on her, is that she has been thoroughly mistreated in the past. Lets just say when she was little, someone did something to her and she feels worthless now. I vowed to always keep her safe when I learned that." > Her baggage is not your problem. Have her see a therapist and when she finally gets herself straighten out then maybe you could have a relationship with her. Until that happens she is not relationship material. I have seen a lot of good nice guys like yourself get burned.
Its true, you can't become a girls surrogate dad and "protect her always" it seems like it will work, but it just never does. The whole boyfriend/therapist thing does not work, you can be one or the other to a girl, but not both.
I only read your title question. Cause you wrote too damn much!
"Why does my girlfriend snap at me and is rude to me?"
She is upset about something. She is expressing passive aggressive behavior, rather than telling you what's wrong, she is holding it in and releasing it in destructive ways. She is trying to tell you something. But If you ask her what's wrong she won't say, because she has lied to herself in her mind to where doesn't even know what's truly is the problem. This will take work to get to the root of the problem, it's up to you weather you love her enough to get through her issues. Rather than worrying what you're doing wrong, keep in mind, it is her problem, not yours.
It sounds to me like she was or is on a power trip. Since she had an awful thing happen to her when she was younger she probably feels inferior, taken advantage of, useless, ect. So, now that she has a guy that will do anything to prove his love for her she feels like she has the upper hand for once. molestation can take it's toll on women in many different ways, but my guess is that since the incident she has felt like she is the one that can be pushed around, and since you finally gave her the respect she deserves she wants more of it. Think of it in terms of drug use. I know that is a strange analogy, but bare with me for a moment.
Think of her as someone that has felt down on life for a very long time and comes across this drug that makes them feel fantastic and useful. Once she gets a taste of that she is going to want more and more. To the point where she is abusing it because she can.
here is the thing when girls start acting that way is because maybe you are waaay too kind and she feels like she can treat you how ever she wants not how you deserve. she prabably also takes out her anger on you she may be bottleing up a lot inside. so what you need to do is just don't let her treat you that way I know you love her and she prabably does too but when girls see that we have the guy in our hands we think we can control them and we can so some girls take advantage of that a loot you just need to let her know she can't treat you that way and you are not her puppet. but don't tell her by words. it might be hard but you need to know in a relationship it needs to be equal and there should b a line between that.
sorry to hear that. she might need to go to counselling or get some help in regards to her temperamentality and her emotions. some girls need to control their emotions better and I'm no exception, I have a quick temper and I am at least honest about it but flipping out at your guy at a constant basis is not cool and it definitely isn't right cause it's hurting you. I hope you guys talked it out and I'm glad she apologized but she should 'deal with her demons' whatever she's bothered by, she shouldn't be throwing it at you. I have my bad days, but I don't yell or hurt my guy because of it.
ell agreed wit. that's the whole answer in two words no respect. you are lettin her push you over man, I know god says to be humble but you also said to be the man over his household and right now your household is you two together. if cannot get this in line and find that godly respect you deserve from her as being the head in the relationship then you need to seperate and take it to prayer and explain this exact scripture to her and all that she is in contempt. sound like to me you are doing nuthin wrong as you being a good boyfriend but the problem is you are being too good, you also got to know how to respect her in a way that you have a firm and sound stand over her wrongs against u. hope this make sense and helps. good luck bro.
You are a gentleman in every sense of the word. If you really love this girl as much as you say you do (and I've deliberately called her a girl as a real woman wouldn't act so childish), then you need to stand up for yourself and let her know that her treatment of you is unacceptable. To allow her to continue to act like a spoilt brat and treat you and her own mother cruelly because she can get away with it is only going to cause her major disappointment in future relationships with other adults.
Exodus 20:12
12 Honor your father and your mother, so that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
don't listen to Hannah433...that she has lost interest...if your girlfriend has lost her heart in you then she would leave you already and dump you...everyone is not perfect and everyone has problems within their relationship once in a while in their life time at least...you're girlfriend does love you...she may not tell you but when she tells you off with things it's because she cares for you...she is showing her love...i'm sure when we all get angry we can't control our temper sometimes but that's human nature...and if you feelings get hurt inside because from her tell her...try to talk to her and share her how your feeling how she is making you feel...ask her "do you love me?" in personal privately...dude set your heart out showing her strongly how you love her and you want her to do the same...
dude you don't understand at least his girlfriend is straight up to his face...not talking behind his back...hey I'm trying to give him good feed back...not negative...and I fully fully completely understand what this man is trying to say...because my parents they argue a lot...she does the same thing she yells at him in the car the way he drives stupid but really she is doing this be cause she cares for him...sometimes when act too nice it can e fake...it's good to be open up and be straight
"dude you don't understand at least his girlfriend is straight up to his face...not talking behind his back" No, you don't understand. Putting him down behind his back to her friends is one thing but to do it in front of his face is much worst. > "I fully fully completely understand what this man is trying to say" No you don't. This guy has been blinded by love. He has been blinded to the point where he has lost all self respect if he even had it to begin with.
"because my parents they argue a lot...she does the same thing she yells at him in the car the way he drives stupid but really she is doing this be cause she cares for him" >If she really loves him like you say she wouldn't nag and yell at him and would trust him to drive everyone to their destination safely.
"sometimes when act too nice it can e fake" > I can agree with two words you used in this statement. Too nice. That's what is guy is. He's too nice. "say what you want chiba... you hurt my feeling now :(" I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Maybe your just too sensitive and don't know how to handle a little criticism.
chiba you obviously don't know what you're talking about. its obvious that she wants to love the man but has a hard time actually doing it. When girls lose interest they don't just keep holding the relationship, either they will cheat because they thought it was come to an end anyways or they would be straight up and he'd get dumped. None of that is the case.
Did u ever hear or read about relationship fatigue? , Do U remember our parents going out for a family trip, or going for a walk alone , just for being themselves? Give urself some time to be u, and give her chance to miss u , being always available and right in front of her is not going to make u loved , be watchful and caring, think about her , but don't be in front of her eyes always, let her have her own space and time , to Seattle down with all the thoughts U are pumping into her all day. Let her remember ur all silly mistakes and smile when u are not there, in front of her, and after few hours when u call her pick her up from where she is , she will be surprised and happy to see u, and u can check her eyes shining for u waiting for u
She will never love you enough. I think she is upset because she is ecpecting you to ask her to marry her or something, or maybe she can't forgive you. Hard to say, tell her how it makes you feel when she does these things and if that doesn't help, leave her. If she doesn't care about hurting you then she will hurt you worse eventually, it will not get better. She needs to take your feelings into account too and can't expect everything her way, so if she is acting this way because she wants marriage, leave her. Entering marriage because of her being rude unless you do will set a poor foundation for the marriage, which should be 50-50, not "I want it so you do what I want or suffer."
what you need to do is not to dump her, what you need to do is tell her your frustration, your anger, and then tell her how much she hurt you, tell her she's being selfish and only thinking about herself and when she doesn't appologise, let her still know you love her but tell her you will not talk to her until she appologises. She may respond trying to make you feel guilty, but dnt respond. (thats the hardest part) She needs time to think everything over and reflect without leaning on you for a bit. when she finally comes through she will be humbled. Then take some bible passages (bible promises of safety and comfort) and give them to her or read it to her. Let her know that God loves her and that you love her and that things will be OK. If you guys want to be good as a couple remember this and let her know this that you both have work on your relationship first with yourselves indivdiually, then together. If you want any more advice just message me.
This is classic abusive relationship stuff. No it doesn't get better, it gets worse. She needs therapy and you need to reevaluate your position here. What if she hit you? Would you still stay? Further if you confront her, she'll be quick to apologize and even more quick to tell you that she'll change. She won't, it'll be good for a while then she'll start slipping back into the patterns of abuse. I would seriously recommend couples counseling if you intend to stay. I would also consider your promise as conditional on you not feeling that your emotional needs aren't being met. Talk to your priest if not a therapist, but an outsider of some sort.
Why ask for help? You seem to be a nice person, maybe a little to faithful and/or like a little puppy looking for attention and love. I almost had belief in the post until you ended it in, I have no intentions of leaving her. She barely says she loves you. So what do you really want to say? 1: What a great guy you are. 2: How you are so missed used. 3: We feel so sorry for you. 4: What a terrible girlfriend she is (you know the answer). 5: What an evil person she is (you know the answer). 6: That you should say goodbye and never look back (you know the answer). 7: Or ALL above!
Your girlfriend has you by the balls. Once a girl has realized she can walk all over you and you will take it lying down, it will not stop. You say she's told you that you were right and she said she was sorry. I guarantee in a week you will be back on this site asking why your girlfriend is "being mean" to you again.
Because she's a bitch. End of story. A lot of people have been through horrible sh*t in their lives without turning into a horrible person.
The only solution to this is to leave her. I'll put it bluntly like that.
The way she has treated you is disgusting and wrong on all levels and shouldn't be tolerated. She's demeaned you constantly and has bullied you out of having any power in the relationship, you literally have no leverage with her at all anymore. She knows and realises that she calls the shots and you will tag along without speaking up. She does something wrong? She knows you won't call her out for it.
She's been using you as a walking doormat and just wants to exploit you and use you as her puppy dog to follows her lead. You never said no to her so she will just keep doing it again and again.
Please leave her and forgot it. She has NO excuse for this behaviour.
sorry but she sounds a little self centered to me. I would be careful of your heart and make sure she is not using you. Sorry but I have to be honest. Or look, it could also be that she just needs a break to realize that it's you she really does love. She may have also been going through some inner depression about her life and found it easy to take it out on you because you are close to her (not that I think this is justifiable anyway. Good luck :)
You said, "I never get mad at her, I've never raised my voice at her, and I've never gave her any mean looks."
If she is pissing you off, hurting your feelings or being unfair, let her know. Tell her - do not pretend everything is OK because, obviously, everything is not OK.
It sounds like you should get rid of her. I wouldn't treat my girlfriend/wife that way, and I wouldn't accept being treated that way in return. To me, any issues I have with a relationship partner should be dealt with between the two of us in private, not aired like dirty laundry for her to get the upper hand, make herself feel better, or gain social status by telling her friends how bad I am. These things don't get better.
I mean that's what its all about; patience and humility to build the other person and go through things together, and finally come out of them TOGETHER. most fall because that's where they're not bothered doing it together; they'd rather leave the person and manage on their own, but that's not the answer. It takes two to tango. I admire your patience and love dude!!!
What a limp dick! lol How two people like this ever get together is beyond me. I would take this bitch and her mouth for a long ride at night and drop her off a couple miles from a phone and change the locks!
There are more of these psycho bitches out there than most realize. And most of them are still looking on dating sites lol
I'm in same boat as you. same thing happened to me. I'm been dating a women for 2 years , I recently moved in last month it WA's great then one day got home from work she never spoke , I thought OK let it be a one off. next day same and then swearing and then snidy comments tried to talk and asked wats wrong all I got was fuck off she would tx people she made comments made me feel small. I threatened to leave things got a little better then it started again this time worse when in bed o asked her , waited to bed time because she as kids. she started shouting and threatened me with ex husband and police said I called her thick and many more lies which she made me to be the one that was wrong , I said don't lie and I'll go now she said I'm not that cruel , she them went on Google to find me a room when in nite she was moving closer to me. in morning I left now I'm lonely and sad 2 years out my life now no job and basicly skint but it was still bugs me that someone can change
I have a girl friend with a very similar personality. The difference here is every time she says or does something that makes you feel crappy. You need to show her that what she did or said wasn't okay. My favorite tactic is when my girl says something negative or makes fun of me or treats me poorly. I let her know it, maybe not right there (in cases where your in public) and since these types of girls heavily dislike being reprimanded, they will yell or cuss, or get really quiet, but every single time they eventually come around. The main key is after you have stated that she hurt you and that it isn't okay and why and she goes off or gets really quiet. Allow for distance, she will come right to you every time with an I am sorry. If she doesn't do this then the relationship isn't healthy, and if you don't stand up for yourself for fear of losing the girl, well that isn't love, that is insecurity.
you sound like an amazing guy, and I'm sure you have chosen someone you truly deserve, not someone lower than you. if she really loves you, she will change and you guys will have a good marriage :-)
she comes from a traumatic background, so that may be part of the problem..
Well you must of really hurt her if she's been treating you like that! I think you need to tell her how you feel, all of the above ^^. You seem like you really truly love her. She's still obviously upset as you hurt her. You need to open up to her, make her feel com table and talk through ichthyology problems and try and sort this out. Soon she will realize that your perfect for her. Best of luck :)
Don't let her walk over you even though she said you're right keep her accountable. You're not indebted to her because someone else mistreated her when she was young if anything she should know that she should not mistreat others because she knows what pain feels like.
It seems like she's taking your relationship for granted, the next time she treats you like this, talk to her about it, and if that doesn't do anything, don't talk to her for a few days, I know you love her and all, and trust me it seems like she's really lucky to have a guy like you, but you need to be treated with dignity and respect as well.
Mate I went out with a girl lioke that for 4 years and everything was fine I thought it was love I would of died for her aswell but I had to go to australia for a better lifestyle as mine was going downhill and she couldn't even wait for me al lthe sh*t I did for her made me feel so sh*tty like I was worth nothing love is blind becarful
Well, glad things are chill now. But definitely hoping things will stay that way. Sounds like you'll just have to speak up more if there are future occurrences. (And I'm not blaming you for not doing so in the past. Nothing wrong with trying to tough out a situation.) If it happens again, she might want to consider therapy for what happened in her past because it's still affecting her present.
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She doesn't respect you and she takes you for granted. She knows you wouldn't leave her so she feels she can treat you like that, it won't matter. She does not love you, and is not attracted to you, but she enjoys having you around anyway because you're doing everything for her and she also doesn't have to be alone.
Don't make excuses for her. She might be depressed. You can try to help her, if that doesn't work, then you might have to take "severe measures" (aka keep away from her) so that you don't become depressed yourself.
You should make your limits clear. Talk to her about what she is doing and how that makes you feel. And don't do anything for her because if you say no she gets mad and then you say yes. You show that getting mad is best way for her to act to get what she wants. I don't think you should leave her but you make your limits clear and if she loves you she will adapt.
It's time to get a little bit harsh with here you're softness will make her get worst. You need to make your point in the harsh way to wake her up. If she does'nt response to that, it's time to make her taste of her own medecine. Don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting a revenge. This is just one effective way to make here "aware" of what she is doing...
u turning into a wuss, you kissing her ass too much and once you do that a woman loses respect for you. two things to do, reclaim you manhood or dump her, you got to set you standards
Just , uh, tell her how she's making you feel when she hurts you. Seems like she really cares about you, so if you were to tell her when your feelings are hurt, maybe she could better understand what it is she's doing wrong and it would help fix the relationship.
There's a saying my dad once told "what you give is what you get". if she makes fun of of you tell her to shut her mouth. say NO to her n if she says why tell her that she doesn't do shit for you. Also don't be afraid to let her go, just remember that there's hitter girls out there who will never treat you like shit... and for the love of god wear the pants in your relationship...
It’s going to turn toxic and when she dumps you because you’re not man enough to put her in her place, you’re going to beg and then regret not standing up for yourself
My boyfriend made a bad mistake and hurt me really bad. I told him it was okay but yet I can't get over it maybe she said it was OK but didn't reallly mean it.
I have to agree with Chiba. You have no balls. Although, I'm not surprised that a person that calls himself Jesusfreak bends over backwards a lot in a relationship.
It's better to be the dumper than the dumpee your headed for disaster cause your spoiling her cut absolutely crap bargain I might if you do this she thinks she can do anything and you won't complain she at some point will cheat on you she might turn in a crazy woman in a few years because of what you didn't do she is the boss or is it docile you
Girls don't like guys that are doormats. They want a protector. If you back down from everyrhing. Even when your right. Your allowing it to happen. In the end you don't have to argue or be mean to stand up for what's right. The relationship will never make it without respect from both. Ever heard the phrase nice guys finish last? It's true. Never said it was right. Just true.
she is cheating on you girls and guys are not verry diffrent from each other and plus I'm the same way with guys when I don't like them anymore or I cheat
Give her the old boot, she'll learn not to snap at you anymore. There are many nice girls out there, a girl has to learn to value & treasure a guy. Men can easily be lost, you must fight to keep them. Good Luck
Doesn't matter if he has mistreated in the past, what did have to do with you? Make sure you out her behavior toward you in check or leave. Some people know who to use.
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Anonymous
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WTF?! ARE You HER BITCH OR SOMTHING? STAND UP FOR UR SELF MAN. it looks like she is the man of this relationship you better make a turn buddie or she is just gonna keep giving you sh*t
I think you should talk to her about it and ask her why. She is obviously frustrated about something and unless you can get her to tell you what it is then you will not be able to do anything about it.
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Anonymous
(36-45)
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I haven’t read it all admittedly, but people are usually mean because of insecure self esteem issues.
I hate to tell you this, but the most likely cause for her behavior is that she is hiding something from you.
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Anonymous
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Sounds like the last days of my marriage, my ex- wife was fucking another man. My ex-wife was doing the same shit, main thing I see that she was doing just like yours was not saying "I Love You on the Phone Anymore or to me".
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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You need to talk to her, maybe gets third party like a pastor to talk to her or to counsel you. Pray really hard for her.
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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"but she doesn't know how crappy it makes me feel." - thats your fault. If you dont tell her off, she'll continue.
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