What does it mean when he says "Can we talk?"

[Anonymous]

After two weeks of not talking to him, he texted me asking me..if we could talk? I had deleted him off fb, instagram, and my contact from my phone. Though I don't think he realized I had deleted his number from my phone, but I recognized his number. I don't know what to do. He was an old friend who told me he liked me but said its not the right time for him to be in a relationship. I like him too, but I felt like he was just wanted to just stay friends or just use me as a back up girl, rebound girl, or possibly friends with benefits.

I told him straight up that I don't want to be his friends with benefits or rebound girl especially since he kept kissing me out of nowhere and telling me he likes me but can't be with me. That he tells me that he's not the guy I need in my life, but he still wants to be talk to me and be friends...with occasionally benefits. So he gave me those two options...friends with occasionally benefits (mostly just kissing) or we stop talking to each other. He called me three times after that goodbye that day, but I ignored his calls.

So two weeks, I tried to move on with my life and had felt better when I cut off contact with him to clear my mind especially since I need a lot of space and time to get over him before I can be his friend again...maybe. I also tried to focus on other things that kept my mind off of him. Though he texted me yesterday, "Can we talk?" And today, I think I saw him earlier...but I tried to sneak out of the store before he can see me and try to talk to me. I think he knew that I was there and was trying not to make it too obvious that he might talk to me again. Idk.

He looked a bit sad and he was near the aisle I was at, though he was looking down on his phone and seemed sad. I don't know what to do. I don't know if he what he wants to talk about is going to be good or bad. I feel like just ignoring him till I'm completely over him, but a part of me is curious on what he has to say still.

[Paris13]

Sweetie, by the sounds of YOUR behavior and ---mindset---you are truly trying "get completely over" him. By trying to even "sneak off" and---out of the store like a bullet in the nite, just to avoid contact with him. You even have admitted to trying to move on, feeling better with NO contact so that you could clear your mind, and apparently, you have just about "cleared" him as well, out of your mind and--life.

He started out as not knowing what he wants, not being "situated around," and screwing with your mind. Now that two weeks have gone by, he comes out of nowhere and wants to--"talk." From where I am sitting, he either wants to talk turkey about "another deal" he hopes he can make with you or---missed you so much that he wants now---a relationship with---more than friends with benefits?

Don't let him pull on your heart strings, with the puppy dog face and act. Guys are real good at it, just to get you where they want you, and think they can actually "pull a few tricks" while they are at it.

Perhaps he has had time to think, may want to "talk", but if you feel in your heart that there is really nothing MORE to "talk about," then be honest with him, text him this to his phone, and this way you don't have to see him---"looking a bit sad while looking down on his phone."

On another note, by "being curious as to what he has to still say," tells me " a part of you" might just decide to "bite", and give "Rover" another bone again, and if you feel you want to do THIS instead, then you need to teach this dog to sit and beg, along with some other---"new tricks".:))xx

[toulouse]

lol Rovr ;p

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[Paris13]

lol.."Shake hands"..arf!:))xx

[Anonymous]

Say nothing and move on. Your gut told you to make that decision and it was the right one. He sounds like trouble. His behavior is shady and immature. He gave you two options? So he gave you an ultimatum between being friends with benefits or nothing? Well, you made your decision, and it was the right one at that. He was trying to pressure you into something that you didn't want (Friends with benefits). He's making up BS excuses why he can't be in a relationship, that's his problem. Now that he's said it, he can't take it back.

Even if he said right now "I changed my mind and I want to be in a relationship", don't do it. His actions were a huge red flag that how he felt before is how he feels. Stuff like that doesn't change overnight. If he can change his mind quick, he can change it back just as fast. You don't need that immature drama.

He had a chance to be with you but blew it because of his childish behavior. You made the right call, now stick with it. You'll find another guy you like and that one won't throw up so many red flags.

[Opinion Owner]

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