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I have cheated. However, I am not a cheater! (Page 4)
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you're only 17!!! it's not that big of a deal. and you were honest with your so about what happened, so why would you consider yourself to be bad at all now? I don't agree it was a mistake though, because you wanted and initiated it. and from how the guy responded it sounds like you got karma. so... you may as well get over it, it's in the past...
please completely ignore all the insults, you don't deserve them in the least. future guys aren't going to care about you're cheating. you're only 17. in 5 years what you did won't even be a memory or relevant to anyone.
and, you do know you don't have to tell future partners about it right? if you want to then go for it, but your past doesn't have anything to do with a new guy if you ask me. why should it?
I do feel mistakes don't define us in our /future/ relationships. But you really just ruin the present one when you cheat.
Next time you find love, if you really regret it, and you really want to be better, then you have another chance to love someone the way they deserve it.
Cuz honestly, even in your situation, you still have the freedom to go on break or break up before you try dating apps. That's the respect you owe them, not to keep pretending and playing it safe till you find your next one. Break it off when it needs to be, and then focus on finding someone else.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
You can defend yourself all you want but you'll never not have cheated.
I'm glad you think so. Thanks for commenting xx
Lol, if you could just erase all your past mistakes the world would be a worse place. Imagine murderers and rapists saying, "Yea I've killed and raped, but I am not a killer/rapist" YOU HURT SOMEONE. YOU ARE A CHEATER. Deal.
It's kind of piteous that you would compare a time where a 16 year old girl cheated on her boyfriend to someone murdering or raping another. Nice try, though, Thank you for your input xx
I actually didn't, I stated that when you do something bad, you need to deal with it instead of trying to deny it.
You are a cheater because you've cheated, yes we are all defined by our actions.
"I have killed but I am not a murder, I refuse to be defined by my mistake"
"I have raped but I am not a rapist, I refuse to be defined by my mistake"
"I have committed war crimes but I am not a war criminal, I refuse to be defined by my mistake"
See we are what we have done, the good news is, we will also become whatever we do now and in the future.
so true...
If I drink once am I an alcoholic?
If I smoke once and I a smoker?
If I have sex once am I a sex addict?
If I run once am I a runner?
That argument can only run so far.
@kingofkong Alcoholics, smokers, sex addicts, are all repeated actions. It is not one mistake.
And yes, if you run once, you are a runner.
My point still stands.
@kingofkong
Yes, the argument can only run so far and that's why I didn't take it further.
My argument about we are all defined by our actions still stands.
This was no mistake. Mistakes are intentional, but what you did was intentional and deliberate. You committed a wrongdoing, an evil act.
It's like you are seeking validation from others to absolve you of your guilt. If you truly believe what you did was wrong, you would both never ever do it again, and never speak of it again. It serves no purpose to tell people about this evil and wicked thing, except reveal that the guilt is still eating away at you inside. You want to hear people say "Yes, despite this evil thing you've done, you are still good enough to be loved."
I can imagine this weighs heavy on your heart. You poured out the whole story for us here. You list your positive traits "funny, caring, compassionate, I would do anything to help," almost as if you are pleading to these future suitors to look past your actions and see a person who desires redemption.
I know that feeling, because I have done the same thing.
Meant to say mistakes are unintentional. but wrongdoing is intentional.
You did it once, so the likelihood of you doing it again is VERY high. You may never cheat again, but you did in the past and that will forever hang there. Betrayal is something that isn't easily overlooked even to other people you didn't betray.
Thanks for your input xx
This is a little bit more than a "mistake". Cheating is a choice, not a mistake. Maybe you should own up to your choices instead of passing it off as a mistake. "Moment of weakness" my ass. If such a thing can make you weak enough to cheat then you WILL do it again.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Sorry, I agree with you - I think people go way overboard with demonising infidelity. They put it up there with fucking kids in the Worst Crimes list, but you were not seduced by that man. You willingly engaged in activities. Words are powerful things, we have to be careful when using them.
Agreed. Thanks for your input. xx
You make no sense. Of course you're a cheater if you cheated. You can't undo what you did. You can lie to yourself all you want but until you stop denying what you did, you'll never solve the problem.
Thanks for commenting. xx
Sure. It doesn't mean you are a bad person. You messed up. We all do. Learn from it and move on. :)
i murdered, but i am not a murderer.
I raped, but i am not a rapist.
Same logic. Do you agree with them? no? then you're a chater.
take responsibility for your actions, aceept what you did wrong, and LEARN from it. That's all you can do. It's the most mature thing to do.
Denying won't fix things. Nothing will. The only thing you can do is accept and do your best to not repeat the mistake. Only then will people look over your past, and give you a chance.
Someone who wins... is a winner...
Someone who runs... is a runner...
Someone who fights is a fighter...
Now... Someone who cheats... Cheating is like being a drug addict once an addict always an addict... but you can recover... but you will always have that flaw to watch for in your character... Take it from someone who was cheated on more than once.
There are no winners among us. We are all doomed from the day we are born. And someone who is doomed... is a... yeah what is he?
@Dingsbums damn you sound like a depressing person to hang around.
Yeah
ha ha , sorry but I've read all the opinions and I thought for myself like really have you put yourself in a relationship where you feel empty , you get love and attaention for 3 hours and that must make you survive for a week, two weeks sometimes a Month... Yes you made a Mistake, and you own up on your mistake and that says a lot about your personality and that you must take in consideration! I have been married for 8 years and I got the same, cheated on my husband and I told him, I was honest , I told him I spoke to you I said I am lonely but that will never correct what I did, and believe me when you find the right kind of guy for you like me, They will accept you with your past , with your mistakes etc... Don't let opinions get you down, it takes more to own up what you have done wrong that to cheat...
Thank you so much, lovely. <3 You're a gem. You're brave and I hope you can find happiness <3 xx
I cou never be in a long term relationship with a weak minded girl like you as you are an untrustworthy person and would likely be out banging radom guys everytime things got tough. You can't put a price on having the relationship quality of loyalty. A girl like you is only good for easy sex. #hititandquitit
Aww, don't make me blush! xx
Wow! Very clever... I need to talk to the guy who's teaching you these insults... xx
No need there both original and appropriate to you.
Thank you sweetheart xx
Slut a derogatory term.
Refers to a sexually promiscuous person, usually female.
One who engages in sexual activity with a large number of persons, occasionally simultaneously.
Also refers to one who engages in sexual activity outside of a long-term relationship within the duration of said relationship.
These sexual activities include but are not limited to: passionate kissing, manual stimulation of genitalia and/or breasts in the case of a female; oral stimulation of these parts; sexual intercourse.
In some cases, used to refer to a woman who is wearing "skimpy" or tasteless clothing.
Less commonly, used as a derogatory term by one female for another during periods of conflict.
Synonyms: whore, tramp. Derivations: slutty (adj.), sluttier/sluttiest (superlatives). Related Adjectives: easy; immoral; loose; cheap.
"That slut has slept with every man in this room!"
"That girl is such a slut--I can't believe that she cheated on her boyfriend with his best friend!"
Aweh, it's sweet that they're teaching the illiterate how to copy and paste... xx
Look at that slut in her mini-skirt! She is not wearing any underwear!"
"I don't want to talk to her! I hate that slut!"
"That slut is easy like Sunday morning."
Taken from Wikipedia I hope it helps you.
Ouh! And again! You're sure putting that new knowledge to work, darlin'. Proud of you!! xx
SLUT
A female who has multiple sexual partners without engaging in any relationships.
A female, who's legs are open like 7-11. (Community Pussy)
A female, who's vagina is like a car park, guys can "park their car" anytime.
Tina the slut, contributed to the community in many different ways. She offers a number of jobs in the community, including blow jobs, hand jobs.
There so many accutate descriptions lol
Wow, they really taught you good, huh? xx
I don't want to sound ridiculous with this question, but if I murdered someone would you call me a murderer?
No, I'd say you killed someone.
good point... but thats a little extreme example.
@Tdieseler
I agree which is why I said it was a little ridiculous.
@Owner
Ok then, I'd say then that you are consistent with your logic whether or not I agree with it.
you do have to admire her courage though, knowing how Cheating is a very touchy subject on GaG... most of them who would would NOT dare post this on here without making it anon. Im not saying what she did is right... but i just hope she would not repeat it and commend her bravery. there are too many wusses on GaG already
@Tdieseler
"At least the thief admitted to it!" I think admitting to it after the fact has very little impact on my view of their character than how they acted during the event itself (in my personal opinion)
isn't that the first step though? admittance?
@Tdieseler
First step to what?
repentance i guess...
@Tdieseler
Perhaps... But like I said I don't know if that makes it better. Apologizing for something doesn't make what you did go away, it just makes you feel better.
only slightly
If you cheated, you are a cheater. End of story.
"But I was weak!" is a bullshit excuse that cheaters use to try and wave the problem away. "Humans aren't perfect" is not an excuse to go around and cheat.
A normal human being would accept this fact and try to seek forgiveness, rather than denying it.
So do you think child rapists are all nice and caring people who just made a mistake and should not be defined by it?
Am I a fucking child rapist? No, I am not. Stop trying to compare the two.
Slanted comparison.
What if a child rapist says the same thing you did? Cheating is almost as Bad as molesting a child. Hurting someone with intention. At least own up to it
Easy fix:
A professional athlete that uses doping is a cheater no matter what s/he tries to label themselves.
"But it was only once and I feel bad about it!"
Still a cheater.
Whether you wish to be called it or not, you are still a cheater.
Regretting it doesn't make you not one.
I'm glad you think so. Thanks for commenting xx
A cheater does not make a mistake, spilling milk is a mistake not having sex or engaging in sexual activities with someone. I don't care if your a man , woman their is no argument to justify cheating, period. your " mistake" doesn't mend your partners heart back together, it doesn't hold a relationship together.
You can try to justify it all you want you are a cheater. Even if you never cheat again you are a cheater.
Thank you for letting me know 1!!! xx