Heartbreak is something each one of us experiences at one point or another in our lifetime. This starts as early as in childhood. Many left with traumas and examples of relationships that scar us with so much fear that we cover them up with masks of power or indifference. Sometimes we fight sometimes we take a flight.
What I see is that a majority of people who are either lonely outside of a relationship or distressed and lonely inside a relationship. The dance of love starts with a mixture of beauty and fear. Many times ends just before it starts as the masks are glued to one, letting fear and ego take the driving seat. Not letting the other person being able to see for who you really are. Even though he or she may compliment that mask with matching pieces of their own mask when flipped around.
These are cycles of voids and lacks, changing the roles of love addiction and love avoidance from giver to taker, while taking turns.
It is not merely that we are battling just as man and woman on the field of love, the generals it seems are like invisible grey handed wizards behind the curtains. Our minds have been locked up in certain beliefs and information packages, which have also been passed down from our parents and their parents. I always feel that someone out there either does not want us to have natural love among us or is making the challenge bigger every time so we can understand more of its deep depths and hyper intelligent omnipresence.
Media, hollywood, family laws, education, subliminal advertising and oversexualization are just some psychological warfare methods no one seems to take into consideration when blaming the opposite sex for weak behavior. But also the judgement seems to overweigh its purpose when we forget the fact that nobody is perfect. We naturally have flaws because we are still evolving beings.
To deserve a love relationship that could end in marriage, you have to simply grow up and act mature. And then there will be those who say: "who needs a man or a woman", "being single is great" or "love does not exist". They will portray their bodies as if it were the purpose of love and relationship for exchange of pleasure. Sadly, they will not be able to experience a deep emotional merger of two people that are captivated into a higher level of fulfilling joy in heart, mind and body. A sexual merger deeply infusing that levitates your energy into a realm, which only two people who truly love each other can experience.
It draws out the highest frequency of feminine and masculine energies, whereas the woman can flow within a vast space of creative beauty and be safe in the man's regenerated masculine calm and rock solid saftey of boundaries that protect her.
This builds a strong foundation for a new family. But for the power lusty, a family is too strong to be oppressed, to be controlled or harmed. A family takes up a fight against wrong doers. Parents will always want to protect their children fiercely if someone came and tried to harm their minds, souls or bodies. Consumption prevailing sustainability, so we have learned to consume relationships also.
Our entire system needs change, for that we need to change our view on relationships. Careers are rotten masquerade without family or love. Somehow we have also been poisoned in our mind that relationships are such a burden that they would leave us less successful or compromising our self realizations. In fact the opposite is true. A good partner will always push you and bring the best out in you, so that you are happier. Once we have freed our minds and then most importantly our spirits, we can truly grasp the meaning of love and relationships. They are air to our spirit.
But before going into any relationship become free from ego attachements, free from external motives and know thyself enough. One has to be mature enough to allow themselves to be vulnerable, because that is exactly what is missing these days. Fake display of strength, which especially women with their inuitive power can smell a mile away is not attractive and not trustworthy for relationships. Same goes for both men and women. Having anxiety of future outcomes will destroy your happiness, because happiness is now, it is a journey.
The grey eminence perptuating the warfare methods also just silently scream for love. They want all your love. If anyone ever saw the stanford prison experiment, than you will know how good people turn evil. It is where those who are supposed to guard us, take out their darkest sides on us. And that happens in any possible share of power. The power needs to be where it belongs, just within the individuals. Take your power back. Take your mind and spirit back. Only then you will have a KNOWING of what is right and wrong with the relationship you have with yourself, with someone else and with the world. Life is all about relationships.
The only powerful thing you can do is draw out the answers from within. Meditate, exercise, talk openly and fearlessly. Live your truth. Become content and thus happy. To make happiness work you need to share it and give your unique gift to the world. This is how you win the battle. To win the war you have to be willing to open your heart, own your fear and ego. Then take the most powerful armour in the world that resides within you, love. Love people. All it means is do it so without expectancy or need for an outcome. Only then love will shine back on you with someone you want to share it with deeply, profoundly and lasting...
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i strongly disagree with your sentiment of growing up and maturing. i think many men forgoing women these days are actually making a mature decision. they are digesting the current state of affairs and adjusting their actions.
Nothing stupid about that. I'd say it is a very wise decision, but only until you have gathered enough strength to move up the next level of the challenge. I never said it is easy. As you said its about action in the end.
whats the next level challenge? leaving the country and finding women with traditional values?
the next level certainly is not giving up your pride and requirements to wife up one of these mothers.
Trust me I feel with you. I have seen even the good women turn bad out of fear, no courage or loyalty. But then it is also more than enough men at fault. Pride is a killer in your personal development. Think where and how did these traditional values die? And more then men, women crave for it and of course do not know how to say it straight or what to do about it. Any challenge is a fight you have within. Once you learn how to get above it/ over it and master yourself, the world and women around will adapt.
what is your answer? to marry a reformed slut? thats what it seems like your saying. i think the answer is self improvement and to just live your own life by your own rules. if women are not worth the effort then the effort shouldn't be given. how did the traditional ways die. women started doing things and not considering the consequences is how.
And what did men do? Start asking for permission, start behaving like loose dogs on the street. But judging is not going to make the difference. You are spot on by self development, that is the answer. If you are asking for perfection in a chaotic world, you will only be troubled with misery. Lead by example, that is all I can say
exactly and lots of women and men will remain single because of this example. these women need to know that they are not worth a mans time when they behave this way.
and who wins? don't mind me, being single is great. But what most single people are doing is to hunt for needs to be fulfilled, emotionally and physically. And end up even more frustrated.
The singles that work on themselves and are happy soon enough realise that the next level of growth and happiness is only possible in a fulfilling relationship. I very much believe you have to be a content and happy single first and then you can be happy also in a relationship. If you are happy you will attract someone with the same kind of sense. And of course a lot of other encounters flow towards you in such a state. But self-discilpine brings you were you want to be.
And relationships are just as much work as they are in fact self-work, which never stops.
Blaming women or anything else is not gonna cut you your slack my friend. Only when you realise true self empowerment these blames will become obsolete.
the only way to win is to not play at this point. i agree with everything you say but you are deny basic mathematics. there are not enough decent women to go around.
well decency is a virtue to live by example. You have to lead as a man. Say YES ! Never give up. That is why I called this article the war on relationships and not gender war. I wanted to change it to the war on love. View women as free flowing energy that are looking for safe and sound walls that do not limit her. also. Get the sense? I meet enough decent women who are just saying the polar opposite of you. There are no decent men. What the fuck do we do now?
ps: what they mean to say is that there are not enough real men
well there are no decent men that want them yes i agree.
you dont put blame on the consumer for not wanting what women are selling. if its an even transaction then its not worth it. this is why most relationships are just sexual now. its the only equal relationship.
Where the fuck is Life After Women?
Just where it was when you were about to see the light of the (first) day in life.
I'm not talking about a 'what,' I'm talking about a 'who.'
still not making sense.. take a deep breath and type slowly.. what do you want to say?
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