Biggest mistakes in modern relationships
1. Bottling things up, having hard feelings and grudges whilst the other person has no idea.
It is better to be rude and honest instead of faking you are happy and everything is okay. Relationships don't have to be perfect, some people feel if they lose their temper, their perfect relationship will be ruined but bottling feelings up is worse in the long term. Being rude is only bad in the short term.
2. Silent treatment, people expecting their partners to read their minds, know what is wrong, and keeping them guessing and not telling them the problem.
For example: a girlfriend is upset, she is sulking, she is not talking, eating or smiling. She is no longer that woman who was full of life and energy, who used to light up the room with her positive vibes.
Her boyfriend makes an effort to approach her, to ask her what's wrong, to break the ice and to end the silent treatment, but what does the girl do? She says, "I am okay, it's nothing, leave me alone," whilst sulking, with a grumpy face like she has a lemon in her mouth.
The boyfriend feels helpless, he wants to help and cannot help until he finds out the problem. He now has to guess.
Days, weeks, months go by, and in the end, the girlfriend makes her boyfriend feel guilty for not caring about her when she was depressed, for not knowing what was bothering her.
She will be like, "I was dying and fighting on the inside, and you didn't even realise." "Had you truly loved me, you would have had magic power to know what's wrong without being told."
3. Extending Silent treatment for too long, being upset for too long.
There is a quote by Ali "even though it is good to make your loved ones feel your absence but don't prolong the absence so much that the other person learns to live without you."
OR WOULD YOU SUPPORT SILENT TREATMENT BY SAYING:
4. Not patching up because of ego, not wanting to break the ice first.
Ali also said, "if someone is upset with you and has this pride that you will patch up with him, don't let his pride break."
However..... no one should be taken for granted. No one should be made to tolerate unnecessary tantrums to the point they can't take it anymore, it is wrong to test someone's patience a bit too much.
5. Taking the other person for granted with lack of attention, bad behaviour and tantrums and thinking "I can treat the person like shit, and he will put up with me, and will not end the relationship."
Not just in marriage but even in blood relationships, no one should be taken for granted whether it is about giving attention or making the other person put up with tantrums.
Ali said, "if you love someone very much, you can also hate that person very much, because when a beautiful mirror breaks it becomes a dangerous weapon."
6. Insecurities in a relationship and not getting enough attention.
Girls need constant affection, they constantly have this question, "does he still love me?"
It only becomes wrong when they are not open about their insecurities.
Sometimes girls need attention, and when they are not given attention, they jump to conclusions, they cheat and even try to get attention by another man to end their loneliness and emptiness in life and they even allow the other man to take advantage of their vulnerability.
7. Jealousy and lack of trust
When a husband doesn't his wife's male friend or when a wife doesn't like her husband's female friend. Lack of trust as in whenever a person uses their mobile phone, their partner thinks they are messaging someone.
8. Playing mind games and giving false hopes.
For example, a girl might dream of getting married, having children, whilst the man is not serious about her and the relationship, he may have commitment issues, whereas the girl might know for sure that I want to stay with this man till death but if this feeling is not mutual, if the guy doesn't have the same attitude for the lady, then he should break up instead of giving her false hope, instead of wasting years of her life.
9. Guys treating girls like objects, tissue paper or a game for timepass. Girls treating girls like an entertainment to get rid of their boredom.
Guys treating girls like a game, like objects for timepass, like a tissue paper and they may pretend it is true love when in reality they just to use her and then dump her. Pretending to be serious about her but mentally having no commitment or loyalty or intention to spread the entire life with her until death. When girls get dumped after being used for fun, they go into depression and some even commit suicides, once they realised it was never true love but just timepass and a deception.
"Sorry but I don't any part-time people in my life, you are either with me or you are not, you can't just come and go as you please."
10. Double standards for their sisters, mothers and daughters and other people's sisters, mothers and daughters and not fearing karma.
A MESSAGE FOR YOU AND ALL THE BROTHERS OUT THERE, BOYS READ THIS, GIRLS READ THIS TO EXPLAIN TO YOUR BROTHERS, PARTNERS AND FUTURE SONS
Brother, never break a girl's heart. Never use her for timepass. Never play with her feelings, don't treat her like a toy, or like a tissue paper, don't have the intention that I just want to use and dump her. If you lust her and if you just want to touch her, don't pretend that it is true love if it is not.
Otherwise, one day someone will mess around with your sister and daughter for timepass by faking the true love. KARMA IS REAL AND FEAR KARMA, IT CAN HAPPEN.
You can't have double standards in god's court, in the grave and on the day of judgement for your mother, sister, future wife and daughter and for other people's sisters and daughter. Every girl is someone's daughter, sister, someone's future wife and mother. Imagine had your dumped your mother after using her, if your sister gets used and dumped, if your wife comes with an emotional baggage and wounds given by her ex, if your daughter gets used and dumped, if your daughter is treated like a tissue paper, like a game, or a object for timepass, and the guy fakes loving her.
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