This nice guy died (well for sexual attraction) And my sex life exploded. Go figure. it's funny, I help people out everyday with things but I will never do this for a person who I'm attracted to. That is a one way street to the friendshipzone.
Friend zone doesn't exist dude, simply a mutual attraction or rejection. Maybe you were a push over. I don't know anyone who likes push overs expect for the people who enjoy using and abusing them.
Friendshipzone does exist. But only in a certain context. In your context, you right. But it's also shit to not be friends just because you can't have her. I know many awesome girls because I had to accept they don't like me that way. But yeah, what I was is dead. I put a bullet in that guys head. Now I don't play nice or fair. But it's only to women In the context of sex. I go out my way to help many people, but I refuse to do it for a girl who may be a potential lay. Only if she does shit for me, I MAY reciprocate.
You can't get love without attraction. so whether it's a lay or "love", the same principles apply. That person "mr nice guy" in this take, won't get love or sex if he doesn't learn the golden rule of love and attraction:
Attraction comes with conditions. Love is unconditional. Real love at least. I've learned in psychology that there are different types of "love" in which it is conditional and fleeting. The love we all should strive for in relationships is not.
I've got my degree in psychology too. Yes there is unconditional love. But your take proves that, for an example, who a nice guy is, isn't enough to warrant attraction. He needs conditions for attraction. So he will never get that unconditional love. Welcome to the dating game.
The "nice guys" I'm talking about are self professed nice guys who aren't that nice at all. They're just push overs, socially awkward, and have low self esteem. Real nice people are quite attractive. It's just the ones who coin this title for themselves when that isn't the reality that aren't.
Well that sounds harsh. I think every person is worthy of attraction, honestly I believe it's impossible from someone to just flat out not be attractive. What is ugly or unattractive to you is something different to you than it is to me. Same with what is attractive. There's too many options and too many people with preferences for someone to be unattractive on a global scale. I think we're all ugly and we're all 10/10's because someone somewhere thinks so.
My dear, it is harsh isn't. That's why really good guys do become bitter. It's shit, that's how it goes. Your beliefs and everything mean nothing against reality. You just said it "those nice guys" are not attractive. I'm not a 10. That's how it goes. Well I'm a 10 in my moms eyes And an 11 in my pet dogs eyes lol
Wow that last part of the article described me. I don't consider myself nice but when I make a nice act it's because I feel it was the right thing to do. People call me nice and compliment me but I don't take it to heart.
I know I am a nice person. It comes to me naturally cause I don't like hurting people, because I've been hurt a lot. I'm far from perfect, but I don't think acknowledging your nice automatically makes you not nice.
I think I may somehow be the anti-nice guy. Because people always tell me how nice I am, yet I tell everyone that I myself think I am a bit of an arse. How could this even happen?
Women are just more attracted to ass holes, which is why marriage and family has gone down the drain ever since women were empowered. That's the hard truth.
are you kidding me? the only reason there are more divorces is because we can FINALLY get away from the ridiculous assholes, like you! women finally don't have to put up with their husbands bullshit and have the right to just leave. THAT is the hard truth.
@KRIEL55 Based on my research on multiple studies, the hard truth is that most women divorce their husbands for selfish reasons and for financial benefits. There's even a video on youtube where a woman proudly admits that the reason she divorced her husband was because he "was too nice." Thew system is set up to encourage women to divorce their husbands, even when the husband is a good man who hasn't done anything wrong. This is the hard truth, but no matter what women will continue to play the victim and continue to destroy marriage and family.
nice guy = physically unattractive brah who thinks that niceness can compensate for lack of sexual attraction while not realising that in reality such approach is counterproductive.
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yes you are quite right overall. although i believe sensitive and romanic souls might have some genuine niceness and bad guys might get some excess "unfair" attention indeed. the stereotypes aren't all that wrong.
I don't know how. She said she wants to hang out over her spring break, but then I'll probably just ending up asking her to HANG OUT, instead of making a date. Cause I dunno how to make it a date after I've only been asking her to "hang out" for so long.
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This nice guy died (well for sexual attraction) And my sex life exploded. Go figure. it's funny, I help people out everyday with things but I will never do this for a person who I'm attracted to. That is a one way street to the friendshipzone.
Friend zone doesn't exist dude, simply a mutual attraction or rejection. Maybe you were a push over. I don't know anyone who likes push overs expect for the people who enjoy using and abusing them.
Friendshipzone does exist. But only in a certain context. In your context, you right. But it's also shit to not be friends just because you can't have her. I know many awesome girls because I had to accept they don't like me that way. But yeah, what I was is dead. I put a bullet in that guys head. Now I don't play nice or fair. But it's only to women In the context of sex. I go out my way to help many people, but I refuse to do it for a girl who may be a potential lay. Only if she does shit for me, I MAY reciprocate.
Doesn't sound like a very happy life to me. I never understood people going after someone for a "lay." Love is more beautiful.
You can't get love without attraction. so whether it's a lay or "love", the same principles apply. That person "mr nice guy" in this take, won't get love or sex if he doesn't learn the golden rule of love and attraction:
Love comes with conditions.
Attraction comes with conditions. Love is unconditional. Real love at least. I've learned in psychology that there are different types of "love" in which it is conditional and fleeting. The love we all should strive for in relationships is not.
I've got my degree in psychology too. Yes there is unconditional love. But your take proves that, for an example, who a nice guy is, isn't enough to warrant attraction. He needs conditions for attraction. So he will never get that unconditional love. Welcome to the dating game.
The "nice guys" I'm talking about are self professed nice guys who aren't that nice at all. They're just push overs, socially awkward, and have low self esteem. Real nice people are quite attractive. It's just the ones who coin this title for themselves when that isn't the reality that aren't.
A lot of those guys are nice guys. Introverts are commonly bracketed as shy for example. But again, who they are is not worthy of attraction.
Well that sounds harsh. I think every person is worthy of attraction, honestly I believe it's impossible from someone to just flat out not be attractive. What is ugly or unattractive to you is something different to you than it is to me. Same with what is attractive. There's too many options and too many people with preferences for someone to be unattractive on a global scale. I think we're all ugly and we're all 10/10's because someone somewhere thinks so.
My dear, it is harsh isn't. That's why really good guys do become bitter. It's shit, that's how it goes. Your beliefs and everything mean nothing against reality. You just said it "those nice guys" are not attractive. I'm not a 10. That's how it goes. Well I'm a 10 in my moms eyes And an 11 in my pet dogs eyes lol
Then you're a 10. You're a 2 to some and a 10 to others. We're all really ugly AND really beautiful. I just choose to focus on the latter.
Wow that last part of the article described me. I don't consider myself nice but when I make a nice act it's because I feel it was the right thing to do. People call me nice and compliment me but I don't take it to heart.
Nice guys are dicks in disguise and dicks are dicks. We all just a bunch of dicks. We come in all shapes and sizes
I know I am a nice person. It comes to me naturally cause I don't like hurting people, because I've been hurt a lot. I'm far from perfect, but I don't think acknowledging your nice automatically makes you not nice.
I think I may somehow be the anti-nice guy. Because people always tell me how nice I am, yet I tell everyone that I myself think I am a bit of an arse. How could this even happen?
Too much work, too little returns. Better to stay single.
ASSERTIVE nice guys who don't take ppl's bullshit, finish first!
But these are as rare as a #Unicorn... and I am one! :)
Nice guys don't finish first because they make sure that their girlfriend and friends finish first.
Women are just more attracted to ass holes, which is why marriage and family has gone down the drain ever since women were empowered. That's the hard truth.
are you kidding me? the only reason there are more divorces is because we can FINALLY get away from the ridiculous assholes, like you! women finally don't have to put up with their husbands bullshit and have the right to just leave. THAT is the hard truth.
@KRIEL55 Based on my research on multiple studies, the hard truth is that most women divorce their husbands for selfish reasons and for financial benefits. There's even a video on youtube where a woman proudly admits that the reason she divorced her husband was because he "was too nice." Thew system is set up to encourage women to divorce their husbands, even when the husband is a good man who hasn't done anything wrong. This is the hard truth, but no matter what women will continue to play the victim and continue to destroy marriage and family.
nice guy = physically unattractive brah who thinks that niceness can compensate for lack of sexual attraction while not realising that in reality such approach is counterproductive.
yes you are quite right overall. although i believe sensitive and romanic souls might have some genuine niceness and bad guys might get some excess "unfair" attention indeed. the stereotypes aren't all that wrong.
I haven't been friendzoned in so long aha
Because it's not real. :3
I've never been friendzoned because I never asked out a girl.
@DarkHumorRUs When will you ask your crush out on a date?
I don't know how. She said she wants to hang out over her spring break, but then I'll probably just ending up asking her to HANG OUT, instead of making a date.
Cause I dunno how to make it a date after I've only been asking her to "hang out" for so long.
@DarkHumorRUs When hanging out, do something out of the ordinary, like something intimate. Sooner or later you will have to confess dude
American women really have no class. Thank you feminism. Oh well, at least I've got a nice japanese wife
Nice people is different from one people to other so never say I am nice and you take owner never say who are nice and who are not if your nice.
Love this take... one of the best ever!
This is discussed far too often. Enough already !
Can we say the same thing a million times?
This is stupid. I've friendzoned guys before.
NOT AGAIN... >_<
*grabs popcorn