To Have Found Your Soulmate

[helithchambers]

I'm sure you've heard it before. Either you've said it yourself or your friend has said it. Soulmates.

Girls say it more than guys. Mostly because we have a tendency to tap into our sensitive soft-talk and dream away about this one Prince Charming who's our destined partner for life. Just admit it. You've thought about it too.

But honestly, I think the whole concept of soulmates has been misunderstood or at least twisted badly into some misshapen monster of happy-ever-after.

So, here's my take on the idea of soulmates.

Today we have Tinder, online dating and sites like Victoria Milan. You see where I'm going with this? Great. Yes, we can start up an account in less than a second, snap some daring pictures, slap on a filter and we're ready to date. Easy as pie.

There's no limitations anymore. We can ditch the guy or girl from yesterday and hook up with another one. This is the Era of Carelessness. We simply don't give two dimes.

Attachments are formed in less than a week and it's become the norm to move in together in within a month. Then comes the engagement photos on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. Next up is the baby. But all the photos carry the same tagline "my soulmate" -- yet a few months down the line, they'll split up and all the photos vanish.

If we're going to get into the psychological part, it takes absolutely nothing to fall in love with someone you just met. Attraction is the major factor that determines this, especially today.

Thinking that this person is your soulmate because you have a healthy and working relationship is the biggest lie ever told. At least in my world.

Because here's the thing; you can have a healthy and working relationship with just about anyone you match up with.

As I see it, soulmates don't have to be in a relationship. The attraction doesn't have to be romantic. Soulmates have a deeper connection than most friends share. It's fundamentally stable, it's built upon a greater understanding and it's a bond that never really breaks, regardless of how much time that pass.

There can be long periods without any contact, but the person and the memories never fade.

I believe I've met my soulmate and though we're not friends, I know that we'll meet again because that's what it means to be soulmates. You can't escape each other because destiny has willed you to be partners -- not by marriage but by bond.

If you meet your soulmate, you'll know. Your heart doesn't tell you, your mind doesn't either -- you simply just know.

For me it was the strong notion that it wasn't over, it wouldn't be the last I heard from him and it still lingers on when I think about him.

You will cross paths again, somewhere unexpected or you'll get an email from him - quite simply you can't get rid of each other.

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This is myTake and I'm as always expecting to hear from you guys. What do you think? What is your experiences?

[Anonymous]

I believe in soulmates but it doesn't mean that they are the love of your life/partner. I met my soulmate one year ago and it was an instant connection and we both were drawn to eachother. We both were going through things in life, I was having an identity crisis and he was bipolar. We became good friends who started to develop feelings and it was really intence, nothing I've felt before. He got access to my soul and I got access to his and we made eachother a better versions of ourselves and work on our issues. I thought he was the one I wanted to spend my life with and he said that he saw a future with me. One day he just broke up with me saying that he was toxic and that I should stay away and forget him. He broke my heart and it felt like someone killed my soul. He is still the best thing that happend in my life because he changed me for the better and guided me to the right path in life. Today I'm over my identity crisis, got admitted to the top business school, feeling more comfortable in my own skin and feeling happier. So that was his purpose, he was there to help me find the way and give me my best chance. Do I still love him? Yes till I die. Will I forget what he did? No, because not once did he look back and it's been 6 months and he went back to his bed-buddy. Soulmates are not "the ones" they create special bond with us and the relationship has its purpose and one day we will know what that is. The bond is really strong and intense!

[Spirit_Is_Free]

Interesting - I like your Romeo and Juliet scenario that you eventually are drawn to your soulmate - Do I believe it, I am not sure - Yes everyone probably has a soulmate but do they meet them at the right time - Fate is a very fickle mistress, I could have met my soulmate but I was drunk at the time, in a bad mood etc - I would love to totally believe your take but I feel a little bit of the cynic creeping in - My view is probably a mix of your points don't rush in and have soulmate after soulmate but also don't spend your whole life holding out for the perfect and possibly non existant prince/princess charming.

[helithchambers]

My point was exactly that just because you are capable of having a lasting relationship, it doesn't mean that the guy or girl is your soulmate. It was more as to deal with the mistaken idea of what a soulmate is. A soulmate, as mentioned, doesn't have to be someone you're romantically involved with. But yes, you're right. You could indeed have crossed paths but whether or not you believe you will again, only time will tell.

[PT1911]

"There's no limitations anymore. We can ditch the guy or girl from yesterday and hook up with another one. This is the Era of Carelessness. We simply don't give two dimes."

So accurate and on point.

And I like your overall point. The term is used too loosley, in fact, everything is devalued in general

[Victorianne]

I haven't met my soul-mate yet, but as soon as i meet him i will know for sure he is the guy who i want to share my life with. He isn't my soul-mate if we can't be together for whatever reason.

[Afro-dite9]

I'll say it once more... My soul mate was swallowed! Meow is my life now! That's cat talk for crazy😂😢😧

[Humping_Tornadoes]

Finding someone who you feel a strong bond and understanding, plus being romantically/sexually atttacted to, doesn't usually happen, though. In fact, it is quite rare. But I see your point, good take!

[phil2]

I don't know about a "soul" mate, I just know that once you decide to get married you are making a promise to love that person forever.
Now my story is I met my husband in grade school. we reconnected when we were 24.

[f_ckmeup]

What if the person you are dating is your soulmate and was even before in a relationship?

[Dipsy]

Nice Take.
I hope soulmates exist :P

[Offthelist]

Unconventional

[COCOCHANEL]

intriguing