How To Overcome Emotional Heartbreak

[akanetuk]

To achieve the right result in anything we do, we must get it right from the start. The start is the foundation that supports every other thing. A lot of people experience heartbreak in relationships because they went into it with the wrong mind set. The wrong mind set can affect anything to everything.

Now here are the rules:

Have the right mindset: do not go into any relationship with the thinking that your life depends on it, but rather go into a relationship with the mind that you want to love and give your best. If things go wrong, draw inspiration from the fact that you gave your best and that you were able to influence the life of another human being positively. Let the positive imprint you left in that person's life give you courage. Also have it in mind that if things did not work out now, that heaven will surely reward someday.

Do not stop loving. Yes after a breakup, some people go into solitude for a long period, though solitude is helpful for reflection and to learn at what point things went wrong, it should not be forever. If you stop loving it will affect your relationship to others, your approach to life and all in turn affects your attraction, so love and be happy.

Pull yourself together. Friends and family members can only advice, encourage, and help you but the main duty of putting yourself together belongs to you. You have to understand that any experience that occurs in life is for a lesson, and you have the duty of looking for that lesson in every experience; pick it, learn it and move on with the knowledge. Life does not support stagnation, so if you decide to remain in your emotional state, believe me, life will pass you by. Be grateful to heaven for the opportunities that come your way (good or bad) they make you strong, and wiser.

Replace old people with new people. Despite the setbacks we face daily, life is still wonderful, and it has some wonderful people who possess this healing power, that as long as you are with them, your sorrows are totally forgotten. Look for more of such people.

[S0ph5t3R]

I loved your take.
I just discovered a painful truth about the guy I loved and I really needed to read something like this. I had convinced me for the past months that I was over him but I figured out today that I wasn't. I'm both proud and ashamed of myself: the reason for my pride is that I truly loved him and I know what true love feels like; the reason why I'm ashamed is that I trusted him too easily, too fast and too carelessly and I even tried to change for him in many aspects. I love how you mentioned heaven and fate, that challenges are nothing more but lessons we have to learn from to become stronger and better beings. Thank you for that take. I think heaven inspired you to write it so I can read it and feel better ;)

[Spiorad_Aisce]

It is a good take but it feels like a cold light of day impression - All very sage advice but in the initial emotional turmoil of breakup I feel you have to let it run its course like a flu virus (sorry it was only example I could think of) - Once you don't hurt/abuse yourself or others, I would advice to withdraw until you feel ready to get back on the horse - In time you will find yourself socialising and thinking about dating again, here is where your advice is very apt - It is very important not to let the negative feelings linger but also not to come back too soon on the rebound.
In conclusion I would follow your advice but take a bit of time getting there, I wouldn't dismiss it just be a bit patient about it.

[Anonymous]

Your try is nice but you could be more better