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People's relationships often fail because they don't really love the person they are with. They form relationships out of fear of being alone or to fulfill the need for affection, money or sex. They often form relationships when they aren't mature enough to express their love and lust. Everyone can love and lust once he gets into his teens, but immature people aren't able to handle their feelings.
Teenagers, people who aren't independent from their family, people with addictions, people with psychological issues, people who don't have goals, people who don't know who they are and don't have a set personality: I repeat, it's not that they can't love and lust, but they can't express it or act on it or form a meaningful relationship, at least not without overcoming serious obstacles.
A teenage couple can be very much in love and lust for each other, but their personalities are still evolving and might change dramatically, and they can't make decisions without consulting their parents. People with addictions or psychological issues can't easily handle arguments, think logically, or make compromises. People who are adult but haven't matured yet, can't know if the person they want is suitable for them or compatible with them. Immature people usually can't maintain a relationship. They fight a lot, they find that they can't tolerate the person they picked, they have their parents meddle in their affairs, they change and they are no longer suitable for the other person.
They can still have long-term relationships if the love is strong, but it goes through many hardships, and usually many years pass until they can consider marriage. However, people who feel love and lust can't easily wait for years and years until they get married to have a sexual life. Everyone seems to forget that sex actually is a means to reproduction and even if one takes precautions it's still possible to end up pregnant. So, if two people are having sex but can't marry or face a pregnancy, they are risking a lot. That's why there are so many abortions, children in the orphanages, unwanted children and forced/failed marriages.
Relationships should be formed out of love and lust, preferably between two mature people. Love is the base of a relationship, when two people care about and accept each other as they are. Remember, you can't change anyone and you can't get changed by anyone. Your love and acceptance can inspire the change, which the other person will decide on his own.
But in order to have that mutual love and lust form into a serious relationship, one should be mature. Mature, as in having a set personality, having beliefs, knowing who he is and what he wants out of life. That way, he'll know if a person is suitable for him or not, if their goals are compatible, if the other person is decent or if he tries to get something out of it. He 'll be able to handle arguments together through discussion, to make compromises, to keep his life balanced, to keep up his work, his studies, his hobbies and maintain his social life.
Being able to make decisions on your own is important as well, because when family members are meddling too much in a relationship it causes problems. So, it would be beneficial to have an income sufficient to be considered independent. Then, one will be able to decide for himself about his future with his partner. He'll be able to get married or accept a proposal. He won't have to worry about unwanted pregnancies.
To sum up, a person is single or can't have a meaningful or lasting relationship because there are perhaps other issues he needs to focus on in his life, or needs to define his personality and accept himself first. Perhaps he's a mature person who happens to fall in love with someone less mature, who needs acceptance, time and patience before he matures.
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