When, despite all efforts, we can't maintain a relationship, it's time to sit down and talk.
Finding a way to end things in a mature way is not easy.
You don't need to end up as enemies and become strangers that's why the break up needs to be as painless as possible.
- Are you in a relationship that's not making you happy?
- You don't want to hurt this person and you're trying to end it in a civilized way?
If you have decided that it's time for you both part separate ways, learn how to confront your partner without hurting him/her.
- Is that really what you want?
Whatever the reason for ending a relationship, this step is not easy. Even if you take the initiative to end it, it doesn't mean you won't miss that person.
So make sure you're certain of your decision. The only way to break up in a mature way is to know exactly why.
We should also always make sure that breaking up is what we really want to do. You must be ready and determined. Analyze the situation a few times and act based on your conclusions.
- Privately, Face to Face and Timing
Under no circumstances decide to end the relationship in a restaurant, malls or any public place with a crowd. Never act like a coward - don't use text messages, phones, e-mails or chats. The situation is uncomfortable, but the other person deserves respect and consideration.
You should also make sure that you will do this in the right moment. After all, you don't want to be seen as the person who causes even more pain when your partner is grieving or going through a bad time.
- Honesty and Confidence
It's very important to be honest with each other without being cruel so avoid excuses like "It's not you, it's Me". Don't break his/her heart with truths that may hurt but don't give in to the manioulation or tears that the other person can use as weapon for you to change your mind.
If you intend to date someone after the break up, don't mention it. You just need to tell the truth about the situation: you don't want to be with the person anymore. There are details you need to avoid that can cause more damage than necessary.
- Be prepared for the worst
Their reaction can be unexpected. This means that you should be prepared for your partner not to be happy with your decision (which is natural) and no matter what happens, try to stay calm, take a break and be firm. Avoid at all costs to end your relationship in the middle of a heated argument, remember that the anger makes everything worse.
Finally, you should know when to leave. The fact that you're breaking up with him/her doesn't mean you have to stay there and be treated badly. Just tell the person how you feel about the situation, wait for the reaction and then stay away.
- Don't forget that...
The other person may find it very difficult to be your friend immediately, so it is important to give some time for that to happen. There are people who simply don't want to have a friendship with their ex so you must respect their desire and understand it.
Keep the positive memories of what you had with them and remember that being with that person was also your decision, so avoid comments that might harm their reputation.
Try to be always calm and end the relationship in the most friendly way possible. Life is a cycle and breaking up with someone means to overcome an important stage of our life.
Making the decision to walk away is difficult that's why it's always important to end things in a mature way, so that you and your ex partner can be well and at peace.
Being friends with your ex shows you two are mature enough to get over the fact that you weren't meant to be together.