I personally never had much experience with romantic relationships. This MyTake is based on what I’ve learned so far from that type of relation.
Everyone who has experience a romantic relationship knows it all starts magically, with a spontaneous or a progressive attraction hard to explain. Obviously in that stage no body thinks the worst. Naturally we idealize the person who we see as a potential partner, highlighting their bright side and going blind with their flaws. In that very first stage, affection flourish when the feeling is reciprocal, when impossible is nothing, and the strives are surpassed by something powerful, a word, “love”. It is in that stage where the world seems marvelous and where climbing a mountain together is everything. Of course, nothing last forever. A relationship that is over clouds will touch rocky bottom sooner or later. There is when discussions start, when flaws appear to be crystal clear.
Not ending on the same page in that delicate stage of the relationship can mean an undesirable and unpredictable finale.
Because the value of a wealthy relationship relies on the happiness of those who form part of the relation. It doesn’t matter if is a conventional relationship, or if is long distance, it will lose value when there is more sorrow than anything else.
Happiness is not tied to a “perfect day”, when I refer to happiness as the value of a relationship I don’t refer to circumstantial happiness, I am referring to the intrinsic happiness of knowing that you feel in peace with your partner, and your partner with you. It’s to know there is an unconditional love, a genuine attraction that implies been there for one another, in sunny and cloudy times.
What happens when a relationship is over?
It happens that someone in the relationship don't find happiness in their partner anymore. For the partner that still find happiness in the relation it will always be a news hard to conceive. Negation, rationalization and other defense mechanism will appear, but there is nothing to do when a relationship fades, if there is no interest or a real possibility for it to continue. Friendship can be an option, however even after realizing you’re capable of loving your ex, solely as friend, your ex will have the last word on that. Not anyone can transform romantic love into friendship, it takes a lot to accept, and it depends on each person personal view.
A relationship with who was your SO definitely ends when there is no communication between both, when slowly the two become strangers once again. Is over when finally, silence prevails and when what you lived only appeared to be a dream.
There is a twist in the end of a relationship. It means a new beginning, the possibility of knowing yourself better and knowing with who you truly want to be. What it also means is the opportunity of sharing your life sooner or later with someone else.