After reading so many blogs, questions and answers on here there are so many opinions out there in how to deal with a relationship break up.
This will be a very simple mytake as i dont want to bore you.
In my final year of uni i met a girl who took an interest in me and i took a liking to her the first time i laid my eyes on her. People said at the time that they were surprised that i went for her cause she wasn't my "supposed type". Anyway cutting a long story short we started getting to know each other, we started dating and then eventually we got together.
After a while things started deteoriating because i went away on placement for a month just after Christmas in 2010. I struggled to keep in touch with her because of how busy i was and that meant the start of the end of the road for that relationship. When i came back things were okay but she wasn't herself. After a while it came out that she had full blown depression and i handled it all wrong. It was the first time id seen depression first hand. She started to get help but i was such a jerk to her cause of my selfishness and lack of understanding that she said we need to talk. I knew what was coming and it hit me hard when what i thought was coming came out. She said she wanted a break but i knew that meant it was over deep down. after a week or so i accepted that it was over and i struggled to let go to begin with but i let go eventually.
what i learnt from that horrible experience was that sometimes advice or pointers won't always help you. im not saying it won't but i think in those moments after a relationship break up it takes TIME to get over it. There is no easy fix after a relationship is over you have to let yourself grieve cause part of your life has died and its hard to come to terms with that. You dont want to jump straight into another one after youve just come out of one. That can create more problems.
TIME is the essence and before you move on i really think people need to make sure theyve let go. Some people you will always have a soft spot for but dont let that affect your next relationship.