We've been together for so very long
But now things are changing, oh I wonder what's wrong?
Seems you don't want me around
The passion is gone and the flame's died down...
Just like Weird Al’s song “You don’t love me anymore”, you actually feel that things in the relationship are not as good as before. You wonder where the love went. You find yourself asking questions why your partner act the way they do… Or you just feel that this relationship is coming to an end. Here are signs it’s time to wrap it up and go your separate ways:
1. You fight a lot.
You find yourselves arguing over petty things. Causing one or both of you to bring up divorce or break up mid argument. And breaking up is often brought about in the fight. Sometimes fighting a lot can also mean both of you are trying to save the relationship. But if the fight causes more stress and hurt, the relationship will drain out whatever love left if there is still any.
2. You don’t make love anymore.
Gone are the nights of endless pleasure when you can’t seem to get enough of each other. The intimacy is fizzling and the bedroom is just another room in the house meant for sleeping now. Even kissing and hand holding is a chore.
3. So near yet so far.
You might be sleeping in the same bed but you are worlds apart. Or maybe living in the same house but you are sleeping on the couch or she’s sleeping in the guest room.
4. You feel more alone than ever.
You used to be best of friends and shoulder to lean on, but they don’t care anymore. You end up crying in silence or calling up someone else to talk to instead of your partner. If you do talk to them about your problems, they seem to not care at all. It’s like talking to the wall.
5. You don’t talk anymore.
You might still be together but you barely hear from each other anymore. You used to talk all day by text/call/chat; now, you’re lucky if you get a text all day or a call. When you do see them at home, they’re preoccupied with work or busy with kids or would rather watch TV than talk to you. There is nothing to talk about between you two.
6. You don’t fight anymore.
Not fighting anymore because there is nothing to fix or try to resolve. You both pretty much have given up on fighting for your relationship. There is no more energy/reason left to even bicker about something unsalvageable.
7. You spend more time apart.
You don’t see each other anymore. You either bury yourself with work or spend time out with other people. You are okay with not seeing your s/o for days and not hearing from them either.
8. You act single.
You do things that single people do. You go out acting like both of you have no partner. One of you even maybe created a profile on online dating. Because you don’t see your partner in the future, you are already looking for someone else to replace them.
9. Other people have replaced you in their lives.
It may not be another potential replacement partner, but your partner spends more time with the kids, their friends or new people. You are not priority anymore.
10. There is someone else.
All of a sudden, your partner/you are talking to someone new. This new person could potentially end your relationship for good. This new person makes you happy more than your current partner does. You feel they fulfilled everything your partner lacks in the relationship.
There are more other signs your relationship is on the rocks and pretty much over. But ask yourself this: is it worth staying if your partner is fading away from you and is not even trying to be with you. If you find yourself crying more than smiling in the relationship, it is best to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel more alone. Let each other go. Sometimes holding on to someone that doesn’t want to be with you anymore hurts more than letting go. It may hurt at first but you will rid yourself of more misery in the future if you choose to stay.
Thanks for the time reading, lovers <3
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