awesome take, now with all the problems with women, every guy in the world should of learned by now to NEVER approach a girl. (i have) let the girls learn their cruel actions, stupidness and shitty attitudes turn guys off of them and is unacceptable and unattractive, then they will turn around and stop there stuck-up snob bullshit, and maybe they will start approaching guys and treat them right. but nooooooo guys still bow down to them, and let the girls have the power to do whatever the damn they please.
Oh, please. I'm a black girl and guys have rejected me based on the color of my skin. It would be easy to get upset and angry at them but I don't. I accept that some people will unfairly judge me because of my skin color. The ones who don't though are the one that are worth getting to know. That small 'minority' of women (which I don't think is that small but I don't know your experience) are the people who you will be able to have satisfying and fulfilling relationships with. After all, you don't need the whole world to love you. Just the people who will like you for you.
I love how MyTake owner has no rebuttal to my comment. You're not looking to discuss and fix your problems with women. You just want validation that the problem isn't with you.
Sorry for not replying there were so many comments so I had to skip a few here and there. I don't want validation, I'm simply stating why I think girls should take part of the blame and why guys will have a harder time getting girls
I'm sorry to hear that people gm judge you for your skin color. I'm mixed and people judge all the time. i am satisfied with the minority, but they are the minority which means that they are harder to find
No, it's okay. I just see a lot of takes like these and I wonder what they hope to accomplish. Whenever you go on the offensive, the people responding will be on the defensive. You may have good points but not many people respond positively when they feel targeted. Anyway, good luck on finding your minority!
I do agree with some of the points that you have raised. Women do like to play mind games, too much in fact, for their own good. And I hate that. You don't like what the guy did? Just say it out straight. Don't beat around the bush, give the poor dude oxymorons and mind-boggling riddles to guess what you really want. It's just cruel. Not too sure about the "nice guy" thing though. Because, I, myself is not really looking for a nice guy. But that does not mean I'm looking for an asshole or jerk. I just don't want a guy who is a pushover, who is constantly fine with being bullied all the time, who cannot stand up for himself, and I had to be the one to protect him instead.
Bullshit. Either increase your attractiveness through working out, finding a style that works for you, developing skills and talents that make you appealing, or lower your standards significantly. When's the last time you approached a heavy girl? How about one less attractive than you'd normally consider? The truth is you don't put enough effort into yourself, but think the prettiest girls in the room owe you there time. Why should they? They have put a lot more effort into themselves than you have.
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"They put a lot more effort into themselves than you have" Yeah because being naturally pretty takes a lot of effort. And plus the pounds of makeup they put on are you saying I should wear makeup lol? All of those things you've listed are bullshit
Few people are "naturally pretty," they put a lot of time and effort into looking that way. My main point was that you should lower your standards if you aren't getting results, or increase your attractiveness. I see you guys complaining on here all the time. If you are going to be shallow, the faults on you.
girlfriends are not that special. we are equally if not as troubled and broken as you are. about the issue you rise, it's quite sad that quite some good men won't procreate while other low level studs will and do. daily. but those good "lost" men are a certain percent. not all of those who will die bachelors are true nice guys. i've met a few though who were too quiet, shy and introverted and most women would never give them a chance. or others who became monks etc due to religious beliefs, traditional values etc. or that dedicated their lives to a purpose like working in orphanages, doctors without borders, missionaries etc.
1. Guys play games also (not all of them). They sometimes lead a woman on to get sex then never want anything to do with her. 2. If a guy tries to get her number too soon into the conversation or uses cheesy pick up lines he more than like would be a creep. 3. Guys can be just ass picky (not all). You have guys wanting curvy women with big boobs and a big butt. Usually do not want a women around 6ft or taller. 4. They do not want the overly nice type or the jerk who treats them like crap. They prefer a guy who treats them right but stands up to her in a fair but firm way. 5. There are guys who want to control women.
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1. I realize guys play games but most of the time it's the girls that are playing the games
2. Yes, but what about the guys that do a completly normal approach and are still called a creep? Happens all the time!
3. I've mentioned that guys can be just as picky, but girls tend to be more picky and are picky about even more things
4. Most of them want the guy who treats them like crap because, like I said, Hollywood has made these girls think that changing a bad ass into a nice guy will always work out.
5. Yes this is true, but I've seen an increase in the amount of girls who want to take control of the guy.
I kind of agree. Not entirely, but kind of. I've had horrible experiences with women in my life, from being lead on to being straight up blown off when I made dinner for a girl before. And everything in between, and it sucked. However, I still have urges to seek women, and there's nothing I can do about it. All I can do is try to find a good one, and ignore/avoid all the bad women. It is extremely difficult for me to completely trust a woman after all I've been through so I don't know if I'll ever get a girlfriend, but it is what it is. I'm actually halfway decent looking and smart, but like I said I don't trust them much anymore and am getting tired of putting in the effort and getting nothing in return, and hurt every time. So yeah, I feel you. It depends where you are too location wise, where I went to college is probably the worst place in America if you want to end up with a girlfriend (25% girls)
Not a lot of girls and they are seemingly either A) Bitches B) Whores C) Prude and think everyone who hits on them is a creep even after they flirt with you (the girls who I liked at one point and then they decided to not like me anymore after they clearly showed interest) or D) Not attractive
You just have the wrong strategy. Think of dating like a battlefield. Women like to come in from the west, under the cover of darkness. Place two sharpshooter divisions along key encampments along the westfold, and pick them off one by one. Have ground troops ready to handle stragglers, and be prepared for the struggle to expand from street to street and house to house. When their lines have been broken, pincer their forces, pushing them into weaker splinter cells and crush them with one swift stroke. The last man standing is the one you date. That is how you get a girlfriend
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Just out of curiosity are you a former military personnel? Cause you describe it as though you plan battles for troops
dear mytake owner, truth is always bitter, and I have seen a pattern that almost every guy on this app is mentally ill. Recently, a guy wrote a mytake called, "why men should never get married," you guys are the reason women turn into feminazis and look at those 21 low lives who disliked the comment just because a lady spoke the truth. Those things you mentioned are NORMS and you are ALSO being picky because you have rejected the entire female population. You DO hate women. Get a life, you woman hater, single person and why are you anonymous, you coward, and you are responsible for hate comments because you also hate women. Boys are single because they are lazy, they don't earn money, they are not independent, they are immature, boys need to man up, a grown ass man with his shit together is better a bad boy, and even guys like bad girls, even guys are picky, even guys are possessive and controlling, all of that is human nature.
he is spot on and women like prove this. And you just a golddigger. And yes they are mentally ill, hence the mass shootings by men with Autism And it is your fault.
Women are people. They have the same complexities and emotional range as you do.
Women, just like men, are shaped by their experiences.
The way you talk, it sounds like you don't think this way. It sounds instead like you're wholly concerned with your own experiences and your own emotional well-being. While we all have to take care of ourselves first, your focus on yourself sounds to me like it excludes any actual empathy or compassion for women.
In short, you actually, genuinely, sound like a creep to me. That's probably why you have trouble getting a girlfriend.
Your opinion is going to be so different in a few years... All you have written about is out there yes but it isn't the majority!
My bro got his first girlfriend at 20, he ended up marrying her because she was so right for him and he's now 36 with a nice house, job, wife and son. You never know what is around the corner and women who are nothing like you described do exist. You will find her one day! :)
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The majority of them do exist. Either people are blinding by it because they can easily attract women or they don't want to believe it. There is only a small minority of girls who are fine
@CBryan my name was an angry thing after my ex beat the crap out of me and I came on here to vent... Fast forward 2 years and I am stuck with it! I think I am too good for a guy who beats me, dont you?
You get rubbish guys as well as girls but you know something? There are some great guys and girls out there and maybe you have to wait like I have. I am 32 and just met a 38 year old who I get on so well with! :)
as if the mytake owner himself is 100% perfect. I don't think his mother, sister, aunties, future wife and future daughters are perfect either. Humans are not perfect but love conquers all imperfections. Love is supposed to be blind.
@lacorine197 I would put myself more at a 5 Sometimes a 6. You know. Super average. Better when I dress up. But I don't know where in my opinion I suggested I was a 10 😂 See how I'm realistic and honest with myself? Y'all should try it.
but here's the think even a guy who is a 10 will go for a average girl, MOST of the time it isn't the case the other way around. Guys dont go out looking for the hottest girl, but a girl will go looking for the hottest guy even if they are lower than a 7.
prettybama it is true lol. an average guy gets minimal attention. a average girl gets a lot of attention and has a varity of choices. a hot guy or hot girl have the equal amount of choices. Many girls dont want the average guy, they want the model type. I have lived through experience I can easily see how desperate women are for good looking males. Maybe it is because they are a rarity? I dont know, but women seem to worship us even in relationships
LOL yes there are some men out there like that but its not as common as a female being picky. When have you ever heard of a guy not dating someone because they didn't make six figures? that just sounds strange
1. I have seen women do this but it seems pointless to play games. 2. I haven't personally acted like this if someone approaches me. 3. I am picky with personality wise but I don't care about height or weight. As long the guy is a good person and someone I enjoy my time with it doesn't matter. 4. I never understood why females would want those kind of guys. I rather have a Good guy over a Bad boy because I have no time for someone's shenanigans. 5. I think people has control issues in general.
Yes, and that's why I'm becoming borderline misogynist. It's extremely difficult to impress women and these rotten cunts have no clue what kind of hell us men go through.
Especially since I'm an aspiring cyber security engineer, it's basically a no woman's land, since it's like 98% men, so there's no hope in meeting women at the workplace.
I'm not asking for a perfect 10 woman, but still, I'm sick of this crap.
I think the reason u will never get a girlfriend is u are too paranoid and worry too much that someone's not gonna like you just because you are a nice guy or you think they'll be too picky. There's someone out there for everyone. I know sometimes it feels like it won't happen and you won't find the one but you will eventually find a girl who isn't like what you mentioned above. It took me 19 years before having a relationship, a month and a half later she left me without explanation. Ever since I've felt like my chances will be slim and those thoughts of what if that was my one chance are always in my mind. However, I really believe that there is a girl out there who is nothing like what you mentioned in this take and she's looking for me too and everything will work out, you just need to find the right one.
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Yeah unfortunately the majority of women are like this. Whether you believe me or not is your provacative. There is a small minority of girls that don't do this however
There absolutely are women like this out there, and that is your prerogative to believe that the majority are like that. Considering you are under 18 I'm guessing you're basing your beliefs off stereotypes and you just haven't run into that first one that you will have a relationship with. To say you will never get a girlfriend because of these is something you just can't prove, attraction to someone is all in the eye of the beholder. You say all girls want bad boys, well when one girl sees you as "too nice" you will be a complete bad ass in the eyes of another, its all how one views another person. All girls are not attracted to one type of person, they're all attracted to different types of guys and that is why I don't buy your argument for a minute. All the traits you mentioned are very general and while lots of girls carry one of these very few have all these characteristics, like I said you just have o run into the right one.
That's far from accurate. I've only ever been with one girl and really struggle talking to girls I like, that's why it took me 19 years before having any relationship with a girl. If you want to believe what you are saying thats fine, but I personally believe there are certain types of people our there for everyone. I also believe that a lot of times relationships happen even when you don't expect it. When I met the one girl I dated I didn't see myself ever being interested in a relationship with her, months later I found myself very interested and found that she was too. I'm just saying things happen even if you don't expect them too. Unless you are so hideously ugly that no one wants to look at you or you're physically incapable of speaking to women I'd bet good money you will find someone and be very happy. You can believe what you want, but I would think people would prefer to think of it the way I do (you'd probably have more success in the relationship department if you did too).
I'm really glad not to be in the dating game these days. Guys like you are kind of depressing and not at all worth spending time on.
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So you're gonna complain about guys yet you are going to turn down a guy automatically because he doesn't fit your needs and thus is deemed a creep by your standards? So who do you wanna spend time on? Channing Tatum?
Lol I'm pathetic for stating the truth? So I'm assuming you must be one of those stereotypical girls then because you sure are defending it. I don't understand why you must turn down a completely great guy.
... What truth? What truth do you know about me? Can you see my husband holding my legs as we watch the lobster? Have you known the guys I've dated? All I stated was that your thought process is depressing and how pathetic you are for projecting your issues on me. Again, I'm still thankful that I don't have to deal with the dating world. Guys that are like you are completely depressing.
Oh fuck right off. Like guys don't play games? We're pretty clear with what we want. You on the other hand, as soon as you realize you like a girl, you back off and try to break her.
um, most guys just want sex and that is what they are looking for. Many guys just want to see how many girls they will run through. A female however will be picky and judge average men so if they made one mistake that would pretty much be the end of it. A guy who is good looking has much more perks but I guess thats just life. both genders are shallow
@Bobbyhill1 well I mean whats wrong with picky then? if you're saying most guys just want sex, well DUH we're going to be picky about who we date cause we want to find guys that actually want to date us. You're pretty stupid.
but the thing is there are a lot of guys out there who aren't like this, and they get wrongfully judged. I am called a whore just because I am attractive. If I even tried to approach a average girl she would think that something is up like im just a player or something. we aren't all shallow sex machines. This is also what causes shyness in guys. a lot of us have fear of how women react to so much men these days and then when we dont approach females we are ''creeps'' like one lady stated before. If a female likes a male they hide their feelings a lot, and some even disrespectfully text on their phone while a guy talks to them. If a female likes a male she should give the same amount of effort a guy gives even if that means making a first move.
@Bobbyhill1 no hun I rarely go for the "attractive" type of guys, yet they still end up screwing me over. So why bother with "average" guys if they're all going to end up doing the same thing?
Lol no trust me I hate that edgy type. Guys just deny their feelings when they realize they like the girl, then back out and end up treating her like shit anyway.
see this is the type of thinking that literally fucks over good men. im attractive, yet you wouldn't go out with me based off that? not all attractive men screw over people you want to know something about me? I constantly get called a whore, player and people tell me ''I know you get all the females''. I get looks everywhere I go, I remember one time some guy was like hey blue shirt guy ( i was wearing blue that day) and the lady next to him said ''no he's taken'' the other friend called me a slut. Ironically, I never had a girlfriend in my life. Never kissed a girl, never took one out on a date, I would be a virgin if I wasn't raped, but once I do find that one girl Im not going to screw her over because I am a genuine person and I dont like to see people that I like hurt. read my initial statement, it goes for both genders. I would never reject someone for looking attractive or average but I would based on their behavior. pickiness is a turn off period.
@Bobbyhill1 No I never said that, I said in general it doesn't matter if you're good looking or average, guys will just tend to screw over women. Attractiveness has nothing to do with it. I particularly hate it when guys think I'm stupid or have nothing else to offer aside from my good looks. You're just not being picky enough when it comes to finding a great girl.
yes and girls dont screw over guys legally when in fact the majority of divorces favor the females and are initiated by the female. This will not scare me enough to just reject all females based off of things like this lol you have to stop this type of thinking. you see that quiet guy that never gets the attention? he's not a player, and probably has a lot more to offer. The people who screw you over are the over confident who go out their way at any length just to get in your pants.
deusexmachina you just triggered 9 guys who disliked your comments and only one had the guts to like your comments, some guys are so fucking bitter about women and they need to go to a counsellor or a psychiatrist, we can say so much back to them but we chose not to because they are not worth our time and attention.
@Lightspeed-Lemon nah I think she's saying that if I think women are the problem then I'm better off gay because I'll never attract women in my life if I think that way
no this guy is totally right. As a good looking male I see women ignore their boyfriends/husbands to try and get my attention. Its sickening. There are some rare occasions where the women is faithful to her partner by not being such a fan girl. Women are WAY more picky than males. I wondered if I was good looking I would never get the time of day or attention of any female so when they I go outside I ignore them. There are only a few females I know out there that aren't so shallow.
dont listen to these people saying your bitter, or you should go gay. It is the harsh truth. Men put women on pedestals. We treated them as they are worth the world and they will emit this behavior. Females will think they deserve the most perfect man on this planet based off how pretty and picky they are. There is nothing more turning off then that. Stay patient. Find ways to better yourself also if you are in the city this may be part of the problem
@Bobbyhill1 Yeah I've seen this too. There is this good looking white guy i know. Saw this Indian girl basically eye fucking him while talking to him and it would have been very easy for him if he wanted to empty his nuts in her if he wanted. And the sad thing is she has a man and acts like she is totally in love/faithful to him on her social media post.
@BubbleBoy69 yes I get ''eye fucked'' all the time but im not that type of guy to just take advantage of my looks. they even do this with their partners around its pretty sick. This is how it is in america though!
@Bobbyhill1 I've noticed the same thing. I've had women lie and tell me they don't have a boyfriend (when I know they do have one) and the ones that do have one always seem to be looking for something better. I've never met a woman yet that showed loyalty. They may think they are loyal but as soon as they become attracted to me, that goes out of the window because they are led by their emotion and tingles.
@Truthatanycost exactly and people hate to admit it which is why I reiterate my position EVERY single time. Most girls are like most guys but people do not like to admit this. a girl will not stay loyal just because she is a girl and in society it is tolerated for people to sleep around. have you ever had a mother hit on you? I am pretty sure we have mutual experiences
@Bobbyhill1 I think most men would rather remain in fantasy land. As soon as you have even the most basic standards, you quickly discover very few, if any women can meet those standards and that means being alone or dropping standards that should be plentiful in general.
I've been hit on by single moms and a few married women. After I rejected one married woman, she lamented how most men would never care that she was married and how that fact made her like me even more.
The most common thing I've noticed is women in long term relationships looking for something new while keeping their current guy as a backup plan. Their current guy thinks she is loyal, sweet and a good girlfriend but we know better. Yea I bet we have had quite a lot of similar experiences.
I agree, women are very similar to men in that respect but they don't need to show it because guys are busy being so thirsty.
@Truthatanycost YEP I can definitely relate to the back up plan that just makes me turn left honestly. why the hell would I bone something so unfaithful? It shows a lot about their character, single mothers hitting on me? I am 19 and they know im young yet they STILL dont care. how old are you? I know you aren't 100 lol
@Bobbyhill1 Hahaha, yea I'm not 100, I am not far from 40 though but I look a lot younger... I was talking to this 20 year old at a job a few months back and after I mentioned a few things that showed my age she asked how old I was... she thought I was 22 bwhahaha.
As I got older, I learned how to look after myself more, learned about nutrition, anti ageing (collagen), exercise (isometrics/isomotion) and anti cancer stuff (iodine/mag/sel) and so much more.
@Bobbyhill1 Yea, people always told me that when I got to this age I would be slower, would gain weight, would get tired and have health problems but everything has been the opposite. I am probably in the minority though.
I train 3x a week, am never tired and feel great. I work with girls that are 20 that are always tired, eat crap and are always cold or have something wrong.
@Truthatanycost thats how it should be! dont let anybody tell you how you should look or act at a certain age. You remind me of my uncle or the rest of my family members. They never seem to age and look in their 20s and seem so energetic and young
@Bobbyhill1 Hahaha, thats great about your uncle. I do think a lot is also down to genetics though. I also get the feeling that the vast majority of us age more than we are supposed to, we just don't realise because so many of us are unhealthy and making the same mistakes.
Some try to tell me how I should act but they give up eventually. I will be watching cartoons at the age of 90.
You're 17 years old and you think you have women figured out? LOL Of course women play games. Guess what? SO DO YOU !! Learn how to play. ALL women don't think ANY GUY who approaches them is a creep. There's a creepy way to do it, and the right way to do it. Your observation pool is limited because of your age and lack of experience. What you describe is true about "some" women, certainly not all, not by a long shot. But I agree with your posts' title --- though perhaps you'll find a nice nihilist to settle down with at the rate you're going. :)
Ex boyfriend blocked me yesterday and he NEVER blocked me bfore and what's strange is yesterday before he blocked me I was on a singles site where I also met him a while back and a guy messaged me but it awfully seemed like my ex with same age and height. He asked to ask then sent his phone to text I said I couldn’t already move on to texting, 30 minutes after I wrote that 9:30 am my ex blocked me on viber at 10 am and I know because his online status was no longer visible. When I tried calling the number the guy gave with s blocked number it was one of those made up free numbers from an app. Does it sound like it was him? My ex would also use apps like textfree to get a number form and text me. Why did he block me? Apparently I hurt him and I tried going back and he complained how I hurt him so he expected me to keep trying? I asked earlier December to meet and he couldn't because he had to take his dad the alterations... Does this mean despite this he still had feelings and hopes to get back together?
@iliamilik WHY would he block YOU if he still had feelings for you and wanted to get back together? I gather you did something and he broke up with you? But then, after he told you how you hurt him, he wanted you to come after him and be apologetic and beg him to take you back? Is that what's going on?
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awesome take, now with all the problems with women, every guy in the world should of learned by now to NEVER approach a girl. (i have) let the girls learn their cruel actions, stupidness and shitty attitudes turn guys off of them and is unacceptable and unattractive, then they will turn around and stop there stuck-up snob bullshit, and maybe they will start approaching guys and treat them right.
but nooooooo guys still bow down to them, and let the girls have the power to do whatever the damn they please.
Exactly right my man
Oh, please. I'm a black girl and guys have rejected me based on the color of my skin. It would be easy to get upset and angry at them but I don't. I accept that some people will unfairly judge me because of my skin color. The ones who don't though are the one that are worth getting to know. That small 'minority' of women (which I don't think is that small but I don't know your experience) are the people who you will be able to have satisfying and fulfilling relationships with. After all, you don't need the whole world to love you. Just the people who will like you for you.
thats just wrong
@Bobbyhill1 That's just life
I love how MyTake owner has no rebuttal to my comment. You're not looking to discuss and fix your problems with women. You just want validation that the problem isn't with you.
Sorry for not replying there were so many comments so I had to skip a few here and there. I don't want validation, I'm simply stating why I think girls should take part of the blame and why guys will have a harder time getting girls
I'm sorry to hear that people gm judge you for your skin color. I'm mixed and people judge all the time. i am satisfied with the minority, but they are the minority which means that they are harder to find
No, it's okay. I just see a lot of takes like these and I wonder what they hope to accomplish. Whenever you go on the offensive, the people responding will be on the defensive. You may have good points but not many people respond positively when they feel targeted. Anyway, good luck on finding your minority!
I dont know what kind of life that is, maybe its because im in the city up north but It was never cool to not like somebody for their skin tone.
Ya can't blame people for their tastes , i for one am not attracted to black women , am i racist?
I do agree with some of the points that you have raised. Women do like to play mind games, too much in fact, for their own good. And I hate that. You don't like what the guy did? Just say it out straight. Don't beat around the bush, give the poor dude oxymorons and mind-boggling riddles to guess what you really want. It's just cruel.
Not too sure about the "nice guy" thing though. Because, I, myself is not really looking for a nice guy. But that does not mean I'm looking for an asshole or jerk. I just don't want a guy who is a pushover, who is constantly fine with being bullied all the time, who cannot stand up for himself, and I had to be the one to protect him instead.
Bullshit. Either increase your attractiveness through working out, finding a style that works for you, developing skills and talents that make you appealing, or lower your standards significantly. When's the last time you approached a heavy girl? How about one less attractive than you'd normally consider? The truth is you don't put enough effort into yourself, but think the prettiest girls in the room owe you there time. Why should they? They have put a lot more effort into themselves than you have.
"They put a lot more effort into themselves than you have"
Yeah because being naturally pretty takes a lot of effort. And plus the pounds of makeup they put on are you saying I should wear makeup lol? All of those things you've listed are bullshit
Few people are "naturally pretty," they put a lot of time and effort into looking that way. My main point was that you should lower your standards if you aren't getting results, or increase your attractiveness. I see you guys complaining on here all the time. If you are going to be shallow, the faults on you.
girlfriends are not that special. we are equally if not as troubled and broken as you are. about the issue you rise, it's quite sad that quite some good men won't procreate while other low level studs will and do. daily. but those good "lost" men are a certain percent. not all of those who will die bachelors are true nice guys. i've met a few though who were too quiet, shy and introverted and most women would never give them a chance. or others who became monks etc due to religious beliefs, traditional values etc. or that dedicated their lives to a purpose like working in orphanages, doctors without borders, missionaries etc.
@Women are a very important aspect of making this world go round. They give birth to our children and they keep us men happy,
Just wondering., if i say the same thing about guys would that look normal or odd to you?
'Men are a very important aspect of making this world go round. They give sperm to make children and they keep us Women happy, '
Does that seem a bit vacuous to you, or fair statement?
Well... Yes, that would be a fair statement, but women have to struggle though child birth and are the ones that hold the baby.
1. Guys play games also (not all of them). They sometimes lead a woman on to get sex then never want anything to do with her.
2. If a guy tries to get her number too soon into the conversation or uses cheesy pick up lines he more than like would be a creep.
3. Guys can be just ass picky (not all). You have guys wanting curvy women with big boobs and a big butt. Usually do not want a women around 6ft or taller.
4. They do not want the overly nice type or the jerk who treats them like crap. They prefer a guy who treats them right but stands up to her in a fair but firm way.
5. There are guys who want to control women.
1. I realize guys play games but most of the time it's the girls that are playing the games
2. Yes, but what about the guys that do a completly normal approach and are still called a creep? Happens all the time!
3. I've mentioned that guys can be just as picky, but girls tend to be more picky and are picky about even more things
4. Most of them want the guy who treats them like crap because, like I said, Hollywood has made these girls think that changing a bad ass into a nice guy will always work out.
5. Yes this is true, but I've seen an increase in the amount of girls who want to take control of the guy.
Yep lots of guys play games most PAU's are men.
*oops I mean PUA
I kind of agree. Not entirely, but kind of. I've had horrible experiences with women in my life, from being lead on to being straight up blown off when I made dinner for a girl before. And everything in between, and it sucked. However, I still have urges to seek women, and there's nothing I can do about it. All I can do is try to find a good one, and ignore/avoid all the bad women. It is extremely difficult for me to completely trust a woman after all I've been through so I don't know if I'll ever get a girlfriend, but it is what it is. I'm actually halfway decent looking and smart, but like I said I don't trust them much anymore and am getting tired of putting in the effort and getting nothing in return, and hurt every time. So yeah, I feel you. It depends where you are too location wise, where I went to college is probably the worst place in America if you want to end up with a girlfriend (25% girls)
Not a lot of girls and they are seemingly either A) Bitches B) Whores C) Prude and think everyone who hits on them is a creep even after they flirt with you (the girls who I liked at one point and then they decided to not like me anymore after they clearly showed interest) or D) Not attractive
I feel you too. As long as you worry about yourself like I'm doing everything will be ok.
Stay strong
You just have the wrong strategy. Think of dating like a battlefield. Women like to come in from the west, under the cover of darkness. Place two sharpshooter divisions along key encampments along the westfold, and pick them off one by one. Have ground troops ready to handle stragglers, and be prepared for the struggle to expand from street to street and house to house. When their lines have been broken, pincer their forces, pushing them into weaker splinter cells and crush them with one swift stroke. The last man standing is the one you date. That is how you get a girlfriend
Just out of curiosity are you a former military personnel? Cause you describe it as though you plan battles for troops
Lol this gave me a good laugh
dear mytake owner, truth is always bitter, and I have seen a pattern that almost every guy on this app is mentally ill. Recently, a guy wrote a mytake called, "why men should never get married," you guys are the reason women turn into feminazis and look at those 21 low lives who disliked the comment just because a lady spoke the truth. Those things you mentioned are NORMS and you are ALSO being picky because you have rejected the entire female population. You DO hate women. Get a life, you woman hater, single person and why are you anonymous, you coward, and you are responsible for hate comments because you also hate women. Boys are single because they are lazy, they don't earn money, they are not independent, they are immature, boys need to man up, a grown ass man with his shit together is better a bad boy, and even guys like bad girls, even guys are picky, even guys are possessive and controlling, all of that is human nature.
he is spot on and women like prove this. And you just a golddigger. And yes they are mentally ill, hence the mass shootings by men with Autism And it is your fault.
Women are people. They have the same complexities and emotional range as you do.
Women, just like men, are shaped by their experiences.
The way you talk, it sounds like you don't think this way. It sounds instead like you're wholly concerned with your own experiences and your own emotional well-being. While we all have to take care of ourselves first, your focus on yourself sounds to me like it excludes any actual empathy or compassion for women.
In short, you actually, genuinely, sound like a creep to me. That's probably why you have trouble getting a girlfriend.
Your opinion is going to be so different in a few years... All you have written about is out there yes but it isn't the majority!
My bro got his first girlfriend at 20, he ended up marrying her because she was so right for him and he's now 36 with a nice house, job, wife and son. You never know what is around the corner and women who are nothing like you described do exist. You will find her one day! :)
The majority of them do exist. Either people are blinding by it because they can easily attract women or they don't want to believe it. There is only a small minority of girls who are fine
Or his opinion will be made even stronger when he gets older. Like it did for me :)
I just noticed your name, which validates this kids opinion, hahaha!
@CBryan my name was an angry thing after my ex beat the crap out of me and I came on here to vent... Fast forward 2 years and I am stuck with it! I think I am too good for a guy who beats me, dont you?
You get rubbish guys as well as girls but you know something? There are some great guys and girls out there and maybe you have to wait like I have. I am 32 and just met a 38 year old who I get on so well with! :)
You may be too good for any man that beats you but you're not good enough for a man that doesn't beat you because you ducked a guy who be as t you.
@dudeman huh? the name was simply for back then. I am a very humble girl.
as if the mytake owner himself is 100% perfect. I don't think his mother, sister, aunties, future wife and future daughters are perfect either. Humans are not perfect but love conquers all imperfections. Love is supposed to be blind.
love is supposed to be unconditional
@Shezadi Makes no sense
I think the reason a lot of men are single is because they're simply too picky. You're a 4 but only hit on 6s. That's a problem 😂
Or you're a 9 hitting on a 9 but that 9 can get another 9 with better qualities than you have. So you have to set your sights on a 7 or an 8. Adjust!
Exactly what I was saying! Women are all based on looks and want a bad ass!
Everybody cares about looks 😂 Don't act like men are just so wholesome
We aren't. But we have bigger horizons than women. If that makes sense.
I don't think it's true. Lol but okay
this is completely wrong lmao, and why do people still use that rating system? You act like you're a 10 when you're a probably a 2 or 0.
@lacorine197 I would put myself more at a 5 Sometimes a 6. You know. Super average. Better when I dress up. But I don't know where in my opinion I suggested I was a 10 😂 See how I'm realistic and honest with myself? Y'all should try it.
but here's the think even a guy who is a 10 will go for a average girl, MOST of the time it isn't the case the other way around. Guys dont go out looking for the hottest girl, but a girl will go looking for the hottest guy even if they are lower than a 7.
@Bobbyhill1 you know that's not true 😂
I don't agree with op, but ur opinion is kinda weird man. Like purely valuing people based on looks
And you wonder why so many successful and famous guys are dating or marrying 4 and 5. Because of shallow women like this...
@Modernhippy looks is something that can definitely be over looked but they're always noticed.
@CBryan you say I'm shallow but then call women 4s and 5s meaning you know and understand the number system 😂 Bye
prettybama it is true lol. an average guy gets minimal attention. a average girl gets a lot of attention and has a varity of choices. a hot guy or hot girl have the equal amount of choices. Many girls dont want the average guy, they want the model type. I have lived through experience I can easily see how desperate women are for good looking males. Maybe it is because they are a rarity? I dont know, but women seem to worship us even in relationships
@Bobbyhill1 and you think men aren't looking for attractive women 😂
LOL yes there are some men out there like that but its not as common as a female being picky. When have you ever heard of a guy not dating someone because they didn't make six figures? that just sounds strange
@Bobbyhill1 you just jumped from looks to money. Apples and oranges.
no its still involves the same subject which is pickiness. apples and orange are both in the vegetable family ;)
@Bobbyhill1 yeah. But we aren't talking about pickiness in general. We're talking about looks specifically. 😂 So... yeah.
So men should date down but we enough shouldn't lol.
@dudeman some women have to date down too. This isn't me trying to sexist. It's me being real from every standpoint. Sometimes you gotta adjust.
thats not what you wrote.
@dudeman i didn't have to. what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
''yeah''? you really agreed that apples and oranges are in the vegetable family? lol ok
apples and oranges are vegetables-prettybama
@Bobbyhill1 you need help 😂
1. I have seen women do this but it seems pointless to play games.
2. I haven't personally acted like this if someone approaches me.
3. I am picky with personality wise but I don't care about height or weight. As long the guy is a good person and someone I enjoy my time with it doesn't matter.
4. I never understood why females would want those kind of guys. I rather have a Good guy over a Bad boy because I have no time for someone's shenanigans.
5. I think people has control issues in general.
Yes, and that's why I'm becoming borderline misogynist. It's extremely difficult to impress women and these rotten cunts have no clue what kind of hell us men go through.
Especially since I'm an aspiring cyber security engineer, it's basically a no woman's land, since it's like 98% men, so there's no hope in meeting women at the workplace.
I'm not asking for a perfect 10 woman, but still, I'm sick of this crap.
Same here brother
I think the reason u will never get a girlfriend is u are too paranoid and worry too much that someone's not gonna like you just because you are a nice guy or you think they'll be too picky. There's someone out there for everyone. I know sometimes it feels like it won't happen and you won't find the one but you will eventually find a girl who isn't like what you mentioned above. It took me 19 years before having a relationship, a month and a half later she left me without explanation. Ever since I've felt like my chances will be slim and those thoughts of what if that was my one chance are always in my mind. However, I really believe that there is a girl out there who is nothing like what you mentioned in this take and she's looking for me too and everything will work out, you just need to find the right one.
Yeah unfortunately the majority of women are like this. Whether you believe me or not is your provacative. There is a small minority of girls that don't do this however
There absolutely are women like this out there, and that is your prerogative to believe that the majority are like that. Considering you are under 18 I'm guessing you're basing your beliefs off stereotypes and you just haven't run into that first one that you will have a relationship with. To say you will never get a girlfriend because of these is something you just can't prove, attraction to someone is all in the eye of the beholder. You say all girls want bad boys, well when one girl sees you as "too nice" you will be a complete bad ass in the eyes of another, its all how one views another person. All girls are not attracted to one type of person, they're all attracted to different types of guys and that is why I don't buy your argument for a minute. All the traits you mentioned are very general and while lots of girls carry one of these very few have all these characteristics, like I said you just have o run into the right one.
You must have no problem getting girls huh? This post mostly relates the the average or below average male because we can't get girls.
Check this out web.archive.org/.../four-men-want-something.html
That's far from accurate. I've only ever been with one girl and really struggle talking to girls I like, that's why it took me 19 years before having any relationship with a girl. If you want to believe what you are saying thats fine, but I personally believe there are certain types of people our there for everyone. I also believe that a lot of times relationships happen even when you don't expect it. When I met the one girl I dated I didn't see myself ever being interested in a relationship with her, months later I found myself very interested and found that she was too. I'm just saying things happen even if you don't expect them too. Unless you are so hideously ugly that no one wants to look at you or you're physically incapable of speaking to women I'd bet good money you will find someone and be very happy. You can believe what you want, but I would think people would prefer to think of it the way I do (you'd probably have more success in the relationship department if you did too).
I'm really glad not to be in the dating game these days. Guys like you are kind of depressing and not at all worth spending time on.
So you're gonna complain about guys yet you are going to turn down a guy automatically because he doesn't fit your needs and thus is deemed a creep by your standards? So who do you wanna spend time on? Channing Tatum?
You're pathetic, stop projecting your emotional issue on to me.
Lol I'm pathetic for stating the truth? So I'm assuming you must be one of those stereotypical girls then because you sure are defending it. I don't understand why you must turn down a completely great guy.
... What truth? What truth do you know about me? Can you see my husband holding my legs as we watch the lobster? Have you known the guys I've dated? All I stated was that your thought process is depressing and how pathetic you are for projecting your issues on me. Again, I'm still thankful that I don't have to deal with the dating world. Guys that are like you are completely depressing.
a depressing thought process for a depressing society.
It's the truth ladie. I'm not projecting my problems onto you I'm telling what the thought process is for the majority of women
Lady*
Anyone that reads your responses will know you're a dann lie.
Damn*
Pathetic bitch
@Alex1996 low life shit stain.
Typical...
Neither are you
You are the low life, mutedaisy POS to be trod into the ground.
Oh fuck right off. Like guys don't play games? We're pretty clear with what we want. You on the other hand, as soon as you realize you like a girl, you back off and try to break her.
um, most guys just want sex and that is what they are looking for. Many guys just want to see how many girls they will run through. A female however will be picky and judge average men so if they made one mistake that would pretty much be the end of it. A guy who is good looking has much more perks but I guess thats just life. both genders are shallow
@Bobbyhill1 well I mean whats wrong with picky then? if you're saying most guys just want sex, well DUH we're going to be picky about who we date cause we want to find guys that actually want to date us. You're pretty stupid.
but the thing is there are a lot of guys out there who aren't like this, and they get wrongfully judged. I am called a whore just because I am attractive. If I even tried to approach a average girl she would think that something is up like im just a player or something. we aren't all shallow sex machines. This is also what causes shyness in guys. a lot of us have fear of how women react to so much men these days and then when we dont approach females we are ''creeps'' like one lady stated before. If a female likes a male they hide their feelings a lot, and some even disrespectfully text on their phone while a guy talks to them. If a female likes a male she should give the same amount of effort a guy gives even if that means making a first move.
and im not stupid to call out shitty behavior grow a brain
But girls a wrongfully picky. Most of the time they will pick the edgy bad ass over the guy who's going to treat you like a princess.
@Bobbyhill1 no hun I rarely go for the "attractive" type of guys, yet they still end up screwing me over. So why bother with "average" guys if they're all going to end up doing the same thing?
Lol no trust me I hate that edgy type. Guys just deny their feelings when they realize they like the girl, then back out and end up treating her like shit anyway.
see this is the type of thinking that literally fucks over good men. im attractive, yet you wouldn't go out with me based off that? not all attractive men screw over people you want to know something about me? I constantly get called a whore, player and people tell me ''I know you get all the females''. I get looks everywhere I go, I remember one time some guy was like hey blue shirt guy ( i was wearing blue that day) and the lady next to him said ''no he's taken'' the other friend called me a slut. Ironically, I never had a girlfriend in my life. Never kissed a girl, never took one out on a date, I would be a virgin if I wasn't raped, but once I do find that one girl Im not going to screw her over because I am a genuine person and I dont like to see people that I like hurt. read my initial statement, it goes for both genders. I would never reject someone for looking attractive or average but I would based on their behavior. pickiness is a turn off period.
@Bobbyhill1 No I never said that, I said in general it doesn't matter if you're good looking or average, guys will just tend to screw over women. Attractiveness has nothing to do with it. I particularly hate it when guys think I'm stupid or have nothing else to offer aside from my good looks. You're just not being picky enough when it comes to finding a great girl.
yes and girls dont screw over guys legally when in fact the majority of divorces favor the females and are initiated by the female. This will not scare me enough to just reject all females based off of things like this lol you have to stop this type of thinking. you see that quiet guy that never gets the attention? he's not a player, and probably has a lot more to offer. The people who screw you over are the over confident who go out their way at any length just to get in your pants.
and the same thing goes for a female, the less out going female is usually just happy for someone to give her attention
@Bobbyhill1 Who hurt you?
lady how the hell am I hurt? I am not being sexist at all I am saying is things goes both ways. your logic is so twisted I am done here
@Bobbyhill1 not every guy, just the sluts.
@CBryan you mean not every girl? If so, that is true but there are a lot of sluts both girls and guys
deusexmachinaa I agree with you but I wish you chose a simple name for your profile
deusexmachina you just triggered 9 guys who disliked your comments and only one had the guts to like your comments, some guys are so fucking bitter about women and they need to go to a counsellor or a psychiatrist, we can say so much back to them but we chose not to because they are not worth our time and attention.
You deserve it though,
@Shezadi You’re literally the only one triggered. You’ve spammed your comments on numerous posts. Just comes to show how emotional women are.
So... women are the problem. Got it.
Then maybe your best bet is to try to go gay... ya know...
I'm not attracted to men. I'm attracted to women. I'm saying that women are hard to attract.
Mean gosh.
She's saying there's more chance of you turning gay than that women will change.
@Lightspeed-Lemon nah I think she's saying that if I think women are the problem then I'm better off gay because I'll never attract women in my life if I think that way
Which, maybe she's right, but I'm straight and will always be straight and it's my honest opinion so...
Good need more straight people
@Hateguysplay1 😊
no this guy is totally right. As a good looking male I see women ignore their boyfriends/husbands to try and get my attention. Its sickening. There are some rare occasions where the women is faithful to her partner by not being such a fan girl. Women are WAY more picky than males. I wondered if I was good looking I would never get the time of day or attention of any female so when they I go outside I ignore them. There are only a few females I know out there that aren't so shallow.
@Bobbyhill1 thank you
dont listen to these people saying your bitter, or you should go gay. It is the harsh truth. Men put women on pedestals. We treated them as they are worth the world and they will emit this behavior. Females will think they deserve the most perfect man on this planet based off how pretty and picky they are. There is nothing more turning off then that. Stay patient. Find ways to better yourself also if you are in the city this may be part of the problem
@Bobbyhill1 Yeah I've seen this too. There is this good looking white guy i know. Saw this Indian girl basically eye fucking him while talking to him and it would have been very easy for him if he wanted to empty his nuts in her if he wanted. And the sad thing is she has a man and acts like she is totally in love/faithful to him on her social media post.
@BubbleBoy69 yes I get ''eye fucked'' all the time but im not that type of guy to just take advantage of my looks. they even do this with their partners around its pretty sick. This is how it is in america though!
Way to justify the kids post, eh? Lol
@Bobbyhill1 I've noticed the same thing. I've had women lie and tell me they don't have a boyfriend (when I know they do have one) and the ones that do have one always seem to be looking for something better. I've never met a woman yet that showed loyalty. They may think they are loyal but as soon as they become attracted to me, that goes out of the window because they are led by their emotion and tingles.
@Truthatanycost exactly and people hate to admit it which is why I reiterate my position EVERY single time. Most girls are like most guys but people do not like to admit this. a girl will not stay loyal just because she is a girl and in society it is tolerated for people to sleep around. have you ever had a mother hit on you? I am pretty sure we have mutual experiences
@Bobbyhill1 I think most men would rather remain in fantasy land. As soon as you have even the most basic standards, you quickly discover very few, if any women can meet those standards and that means being alone or dropping standards that should be plentiful in general.
I've been hit on by single moms and a few married women. After I rejected one married woman, she lamented how most men would never care that she was married and how that fact made her like me even more.
The most common thing I've noticed is women in long term relationships looking for something new while keeping their current guy as a backup plan. Their current guy thinks she is loyal, sweet and a good girlfriend but we know better. Yea I bet we have had quite a lot of similar experiences.
I agree, women are very similar to men in that respect but they don't need to show it because guys are busy being so thirsty.
@Truthatanycost YEP I can definitely relate to the back up plan that just makes me turn left honestly. why the hell would I bone something so unfaithful? It shows a lot about their character, single mothers hitting on me? I am 19 and they know im young yet they STILL dont care. how old are you? I know you aren't 100 lol
@Bobbyhill1 Hahaha, yea I'm not 100, I am not far from 40 though but I look a lot younger... I was talking to this 20 year old at a job a few months back and after I mentioned a few things that showed my age she asked how old I was... she thought I was 22 bwhahaha.
As I got older, I learned how to look after myself more, learned about nutrition, anti ageing (collagen), exercise (isometrics/isomotion) and anti cancer stuff (iodine/mag/sel) and so much more.
@Truthatanycost good because a lot of peoples stop caring after 30 lol
@Bobbyhill1 Yea, people always told me that when I got to this age I would be slower, would gain weight, would get tired and have health problems but everything has been the opposite. I am probably in the minority though.
I train 3x a week, am never tired and feel great. I work with girls that are 20 that are always tired, eat crap and are always cold or have something wrong.
@Truthatanycost thats how it should be! dont let anybody tell you how you should look or act at a certain age. You remind me of my uncle or the rest of my family members. They never seem to age and look in their 20s and seem so energetic and young
@Truthatanycost also some people really do age badly lol.
@Bobbyhill1 Hahaha, thats great about your uncle. I do think a lot is also down to genetics though. I also get the feeling that the vast majority of us age more than we are supposed to, we just don't realise because so many of us are unhealthy and making the same mistakes.
Some try to tell me how I should act but they give up eventually. I will be watching cartoons at the age of 90.
You're 17 years old and you think you have women figured out? LOL Of course women play games. Guess what? SO DO YOU !! Learn how to play. ALL women don't think ANY GUY who approaches them is a creep. There's a creepy way to do it, and the right way to do it. Your observation pool is limited because of your age and lack of experience. What you describe is true about "some" women, certainly not all, not by a long shot. But I agree with your posts' title --- though perhaps you'll find a nice nihilist to settle down with at the rate you're going. :)
Ex boyfriend blocked me yesterday and he NEVER blocked me bfore and what's strange is yesterday before he blocked me I was on a singles site where I also met him a while back and a guy messaged me but it awfully seemed like my ex with same age and height. He asked to ask then sent his phone to text I said I couldn’t already move on to texting, 30 minutes after I wrote that 9:30 am my ex blocked me on viber at 10 am and I know because his online status was no longer visible. When I tried calling the number the guy gave with s blocked number it was one of those made up free numbers from an app. Does it sound like it was him? My ex would also use apps like textfree to get a number form and text me. Why did he block me? Apparently I hurt him and I tried going back and he complained how I hurt him so he expected me to keep trying? I asked earlier December to meet and he couldn't because he had to take his dad the alterations... Does this mean despite this he still had feelings and hopes to get back together?
@iliamilik WHY would he block YOU if he still had feelings for you and wanted to get back together? I gather you did something and he broke up with you? But then, after he told you how you hurt him, he wanted you to come after him and be apologetic and beg him to take you back? Is that what's going on?
did you not read what i wrote? nvm because he catfished me and right after i replied to the " "guy" he blocked me everywhere
@iliamilik Why are you commenting this everywhere