Since this is a "Personal” MyTake this is also a “who cares” kind of MyTake but I wanted to share it anyways. Isn’t it what a MyTake is for at the end of the day?
I know that many will probably cringe reading this, but I also know that I’m not the only one who wants this kind of relationship. Some might feel this is misogynist or even maybe find some kind of misandry in it (as usual).
Many will also see me as a “Submissive weak woman” although I don't see any form of oppression in pleasing the person you love and making them happy. It doesn't lessen of my dignity or power since I believe that this would be my way to show my hopefully loving and respectful husband my gratitude.
1. Look good for him
I want to do my best to look desirable to him.
2. Be affectionate
I want to cuddle, hug, kiss him and lay on his chest :3 I hope he doesn't mind it!
3. Help him provide
I have a traditional stance when it comes to who should be the main provider in the house, but I wouldn’t mind helping my husband since I’m planning to start working once I graduate (I'm not studying 6 years in University for nothing).
BUT: the moment I feel that my kids' well being and needs are jeopardized and neglected , family comes first, and if one of us needs to sacrifice their career, I will do it.
4. Sexually satisfy him
I wouldn’t want my husband to feel sexually frustrated so I will do my best not to let him sleep frustrated, not even a single day, or at least very rarely!!!
5. Let him take the lead and dominate.
I am strongly opinionated, I'm my own person , I won’t be stupidly agreeing and following everything he says but I see it more as me placing my trust in him and his knowledge. It doesn't mean that he'll be the only one deciding for everything, but I would want him to be the leader since my decisions can easily be affected by my emotions and mood.
He’s not my master and I’m not his slave, he’s the president and I’m the vice president.
6. Be his confidante
Him laying his head on my laps or chest, and me, running my fingers through his hair while he opens his heart to me after a tiring long day at work.
7. Be his friend
Besides the obvious which is being his lover, I want to be his friend!
8. Cook for him
He can cook too if it's his hobby and likes it, but if he's the main provider and has more work than I do, I won't expect him to take care of the household. It's not about him forcing me to cook or bossing me around, I want to feed him because I love him and want him to be happy.
Go make me a sandwich: ---> NOPE
Can you make me sandwich please:---> Of course <3
9. Give him personal space
I don’t want us to be ALWAYS together to the point of getting bored of each other’s faces! I want him to have his own good time with his guy friends.
10. I want to him be my first and last
Disclaimer: By saying this, I'm in no way slut shaming in case you're trying to go there. I’m one of these girls who can’t separate the physical and emotional aspects of sex, if other women can, more power to them! But I don't have that strength. I would feel like I kept a piece of me with my "First" which is why I want him to also be my last.
I know that this is a deal breaker for many, if not, most men since they want to “Try before they buy”.
Call me naive but I believe that when there is love, there is good communication, and when there is good communication there will most likely be good sex. We have years ahead of us to learn how to be sexually compatible, we don’t need to be compatible from the first day.
11. Bear and raise his children
The raising part is of course a shared task between the both of us because ideally a kid needs both parents to raise him.
I also want our kids to carry his last name (Only).
12. Let him Express his masculine energy
Hate me for it, but I believe that masculine energy and aura exists, and I believe it’s natural since it's as old as humanity's existence.
If anything, it’s social media that is trying to emasculate men by suppressing and shaming their masculinity. They want to turn us all into the same gender.
Masculinity has a very negative connotation nowadays because it's linked with violence, aggressiveness etc when in my opinion masculinity is more about natural protective instinct, vigor and strength.
13. Praise him and compliment him (if he deserves it of course)
14. Take care of him when he's sick
Not that I wish that he gets sick but if he does get a cold I would love to take care of him, I find it so cute ><
If he's an As**ole these things will never happen though!