Why I Don't Need a Boyfriend

[apple24]

Why I don’t need boyfriend?

#BATTLEROYALE

I adore who I am “wart and all.”

I don’t need someone to tell me I am “Amazing.”

I don’t plan on having kids.

I feel comfortable with myself like a warm jacket.

I can pay my own bills.

Good friends are more valuable and long lasting.

When things get hard or I don’t see a way out, I ask for others to help because I can’t fix everything.

I enjoy my free time.

I think I can improve my life and make myself a better person.

I have guts to change even if I know it won’t be easy. 🍎

[JudgmentDay]

The way I had always look at it is this: if it happens then it happens. No guarantees that a serious long term committed relationship will ever happen for every single person on the planet. And even then, what absolute guarantees are there that the relationship will last long or last forever. Or even if it did Not last, what absolute guarantee are there that the breakup would actually end well where neither party hold any grudges or ill feelings or blame each other at the end of the relationship? There's good to ok breakups and then there are awful totally fucked up and really bad breakups, and the latter has a lot to do with dishonesty and many other differences both parties had that they aren't able to fully overcome or tolerate each other for.

If you are absolutely certain that you do not ever want children then it's even less of a priority than everything else! Such as having a stable and good career that is fit for you and is sustainable to help you be able to afford to pay back any student loans you've taken out, as well as bills, rent and/or mortgage and car payments. You are best off saving as much money and PRIORITIZE retirement years planning and being as frugal as possible, in other words. Besides, depending upon where you are in the world, if the US, then I heard something about Social Security Retirement benefits will eventually deplete, thus saving and planning for retirement years is a must as precautionary measures. Last thing I think anyone would ever want or even think about is becoming completely flat fucking broke and homeless in their retirement years which would be absolutely fucking terrible, especially if you're pretty much on your own unless you have many friends and family members you can count on and trust.

Keep one very important thing in mind, every time someone chooses not to bring someone into existence, they actually saved someone all of the troubles, miseries, disappointments they otherwise would and must face once they are here and alive in this world. Either way birth will result in unwanted pain and harm for a person brought into existence that they MUST face and ENDURE for their entire lifetime, or if they don't they may give the fuck up on their own life and harm themselves through all various forms of addictions or kill themselves eventually.

ALL BIRTHS WILL INEVITABLY LEAD TO DEATHS.

You are GENEROUS by choosing to not bring another life into existence here.

Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise about it.

[PrincessofNohr]

I'm 26, haven't had a real relationship in ages, and at this point, I've stopped worrying. I have school, a career, friends, and so much more to worry about. Besides, who needs a boyfriend when you have a Mustang?

[America1st]

You should never "need" a boyfriend and you appear not to. I get the sense you've had a terrible experience and have decided to let it make you very bitter towards men. You are free to do it, but it will not bring the happiness you seem to want. Having a man does not mean you need to rely on him for all the things you stated. Be independent woman doesn't mean you don't have a man in your life. Being independent means you are your own person and don't let others opinions guide you. To me, a strong, independent, and intelligent woman is very sexy and desirable. Let thew anger go. It helps nothing and takes to much energy that you can direct elsewhere.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

why do you assume that she is a bitter because of a mytake about not needing a boyfriend? She never bashed men, no one should need a man, but its normal to want a man

[jman46241]

Yes, you do need a boyfriend and I am the guy for you! Really though I admire that you're independent and willing to stand on your own. Took me quite a while and a few crappy relationships to realize that a strong foundation is much more important than chasing that feeling of "Damn, I really need to find that one girl that's supposed to be out there for me" Anyway yeah, free time is priceless :)

[apple24]

Yeah (: I won't lie there are days where I want read a book about love or watch a romantic movies bc it makes me excited but at the same time I rather keep dreaming. One thing I desperatly hoping is for a best friend to watch movies and compare lifestyle. lol

[WhereAmI]

You need to be prepared for life changes. Friends come and go because believe me when they're married they find litle time for their friends especially if there's kids involved. So the last part on adapting is critical. Eventually someone will move your cheese if you understand the proverb.

[midnightmoon05]

Wise for 27 :) ... Glad you see it. We can all convince ourselves we can be happy with friends at younger age, which is very true.
Like you said, I go home with my kids.
My few girl friends go home alone. Go to work, makes good money, go buy all the things they want, still they go home alone, eat alone, wake up alone.
Goes to work... all over again...

[Unit1]

That's all fine and dandy. Enjoy your life as you see fit. It's all yours.

[apple24]

yes it is! all mines!

[clampfan101]

As long as your SO is okay with having no kids, I don't see how having one would change this... At least not enough to miss out on the joys of life... 😥

[midnightmoon05]

agree 100% -
some break up due to the difference.
having kids, bring love to a diff. level.
it can be stressful at times (part of life). great reward when managed well

[AlwaysBelieving]

That's good you feel that way!

by the way, snoopy is AWESOME!

[YourFutureEx]

DItto :D I don't need a boyfriend either!

[cth96190]

You say that you do not want children.
Let me know how that works out for you, about the age of 35.

[apple24]

Still don't want kids!

[AperolSpritz]

Just because she's a woman doesn't mean she's automatically going to go baby crazy. Why do so many people assume this?
Women do have other ambitions in life. They don't get to a certain age and suddenly discover a emotional void that can only be filled a certain way.

By the way I'm not using myself as an example. I have a three year old and I'm 18 1/2 weeks pregnant, but then I did want children. However, they are not something everybody "needs" some people just don't have that desire, and that's OK.

[cth96190]

@AperolSpritz
Why?
Because I have observed this and more than once.
When women are teens and 20-somethings they might declare that they do not want children. This is usually the result of being brainwashed by Cultural Marxist crap by their teachers and/or lecturers.
When they are older, usually from the early 30s onward, they realise that they were lied to and that motherhood is of enormous importance to a normal female.
Sometimes they find a man, sometimes not.
Those who do not become bitter angry cat women, who cry themselves to sleep. This is especially so if they had an abortion when they were younger.
I saw more than one female media colleague go to pieces (mentally) when they reached the late 30s and realised that putting their career ahead of their biology was a huge mistake.

[PrincessofNohr]

I'll take being a bitter cat lady, thank you. At least you don't have to potty train a cat, they kind of have that figured out on their own.

[cth96190]

@PrincessofNohr
It has been my experience that all cats have to be litter trained.

[BlueCoyote]

@cth96190 Wherever your intense (and probably irrational) hatred for marxism comes from, the connection to having children is inexistent and absolutely absurd. I consider myself a marxist and I love children. I am in fact in my 20s and I can't wait to have some little ones.
However, I do agree with you that a lot of women change their minds on this topic when they get older.

@AperolSpritz: I agree that many women change their minds on this topic. My mom works as a psychologist/psychotherapist and I know from her that she's got female patients in their 40s and 50s who come to her and tell her how depressed and empty they feel and how much they regret not having had children when the time was right.

But see, there's another angle to this topic: it's not even particularly about having children. Just the fact that a 20-year old claims to know what will be in 15 years is ridiculous. I would find it just as ridiculous if she said "I will never want to have a pet" or "I will never want

[BlueCoyote]

to go traveling". The point is that there's NO WAY anyone could possibly know what he/she will be like in 15 years. And that's ESPECIALLY the case if you're 20. I've changed more in the past 8 years since my 20th birthday than I ever thought I would. How on earth would I know what I'll be like at age 43? At age 50? At age 70? There's absolutely no way I could know this for sure. My dad never gave a rat's ass about dancing until he suddenly discovered salsa dancing when he was in his late 40s and now he's obsessed with it.
I just find it incredibly silly when I listen to teenagers or almost-teenagers talk like they've all figured it out and found the big formula. It makes me wanna tell them: just wait 10 years. You'll have a different take on things then. If you still don't want kids, that's totally fine. But don't go around claiming to know what you'll be like once you're almost twice as old as you are now.

[apple24]

@BlueCoyote bravo! Congrats for proving my point on why old people sterotype too much. Just cuz you know women who are sad without children doesn't mean there aren't women who are happy without them.

[BlueCoyote]

I never claimed that. I also didn't make any generalizations. Maybe you should read a little more carefully. I specifically said that some women do not change their minds but many do.

Also, like I also wrote, it's not about the particular topic of having children, it's about making the absolutely preposterous claim of know what you or the world will be like in 15 or 20 years. But apparently you're also one of those naive young people who think they've all figured it out and won't ever change anymore. So just go ahead and believe what you want to believe. When you're a little older, you'll think back and say to yourself "wow, I was really quite a fool".

[ikissedtheskyonce]

so you think that just because a woman is childless she is automatically bitter? what a load of crap, so you are saying even women who can not have kids are bitter?

[midnightmoon05]

agree with cthg6190 and BlueCoyote

We change often. Early 20s and younger age group have very diff. view on life events.
And they shouldn't really worrying about kids, family. I enjoyed my independence, freedom, party, travel, staying out. Kids, marriage were never in my mind at that age. So why do I even want to tell people if I want kids or family at that point. Just enjoy life, work hard, get well educated, a great career... things will fall into place with the right partner.
One thing for sure is we all came from a family, that brings laughter, joy, food, celebration and stress :) ... and all the stress is worth it. I have only heard of older people regretting NOT having a family.
Only the very few... who hates kids for whatever bitter reason.
No one at the age of 40 on... wants to go to a great job, meet up with friends after work. Friend goes home to family. You go home alone to a very very quiet home, eat alone, sleep alone, wake up alone, vacation alone... and start again...

[midnightmoon05]

for the next 40 years or more... and watching, hearing your friends kids are getting into college, their kids getting married. They are becoming grandparents with lots of celebrations, foods, parties, joy, happy, love, stress... etc... only very few singles can relate to understand that at that point, they are alone...
No one care to look that far, or can feel that lonelyness early 20 years old and younger.

[mattl338]

@cth96190 You're a fucking idiot. Stop assuming just because she says she doesn't want kids that she's going to go crazy wanting a kid. That's not how it works. Maybe for you but not for everyone. Dipshit.

[mattl338]

Dude your sexist extremist views on how women are, need to be updated, this isn't the fucking 70s bud. You are being asinine with this shit, children are not worth having these days. Why do you think my generation are so depressed and don't really give a shit about anything especially vaping, drugs, alcohol and shit? We're living in a world where men are attacked by feminists, people get offended by anything, guys don't want marriage anymore, parent's don't give a shit about raising their kids or they just don't raise kids right, we're in war with about 2-3 countries (active or not, it's still ongoing), schools are being fucking shot up a couple times every month or two, everything the United States stands for is falling apart slowly, everything is going to shit and the 13-17 year old kids that are going to school realize this, even if they don't talk about it, they realize it, and they are emotionally falling apart and just do whatever they want because their mentality because of all this that who cares? That's so fucking sad to me. Bringing kids into that kind of world is cruel an unusual punishment, don't you think?

[mattl338]

I think you need to open your damn eyes at parenting these days and how it's really not a good idea to have kids these days.

[midnightmoon05]

Get to know apple24 a little better... her reasons are justifiable at present.
I also agree... some might be better off without kids.

[mattl338]

@midnightmoon05 Oh no I understand her reasons and I'm completely on her side obviously and of course they are justified. I'm against @cth96190 for his asinine statement, as you've probably noticed.

[TripleAce]

Oh you still want one though 😁

[mattl338]

Maybe she doesn't? Why do you guys always say "Oh but you definitely still want one" like bro you can't read minds, fuck off.

[Xfitchick]

You made a lovely summary.

[douride2]

Some days I feel the same way.

[Dave20154]

this is obviously satire

[Nik1hil]

You don't need a boyfriend but you want one

[zombiebabe]

good take

[APRU5]

shouldn't this be a mytake not a question?

[JoyGirl]

Well done! 👏

[bubbletrouble]

Ok do you

[Keepcalm89]

you need no maine!

[Summer_Bunny]

OMG yes!

[Boomboomboom78]

Damn lady.😁☺