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In order to love another you must be able to love thyself first. You must know what love is... know what you can deal with and know what your deal breakers are. Too many people jump from one relationship tot the next like jockeys on the Pony express. They never get to know themselves and what they need, want and desire from life. Everyone is too busy F@$king to learn anything. Sadly it seems that life is all about instant gratification. I'd rather be alone and happy than miserably in a relationship.
Hmmm... I liked the first part.
You got the wrong idea of loving yourself it seems.
I can't really explain it but you've been loving yourself the wrong way, like, it's bad to love yourself but it's not.
There's a reason why this phrase is being repeated because they work.
Loving yourself does not guarantee you a happy relationship, just like my fucking worthless college degree does not guarantee a workplace.
However it is always better to be alone than being with someone, who drags you down.
that was a wonderfully written article and really touched me. one thing however stood out was the part you said about the cheating. that you only your partner. Me too. its not the outside person that creates the rift. the rift was already there. people are so ready to blame others for their troubles but never look inside their own houses to find out the root.
great article and well written. Love yourself. HAHA. whatever
1. If any guy wrote this people would lose their shit how he is bitter - because that's what you are.
2. There is a fine line between self-love and self-centeredness.
3. If a pattern in your life repeats, then chances are YOU are the reason why that pattern repeats. There is no such coincidence.
not everyone cheats, not everyone will treat you like crap. you probably are just hanging around assholes. There are good people out there
I REALLY hope so lol
I just wonder if the future would have been mostly populated by women like for example there would be ratio of 7 women to 1 man, would that change a women behaviour and the roles to be reversed and females would start chasing males like crazy? I mean it's unreal but I just like to wonder around with my futuristic ideas.
Nah, I will keep loving myself. I also will continue to love someone who also love themselves.
lol you know I was totally joking about that part right? anyway *high five*
Odd take. Not everyone cheats. And I've had several boyfriends who never did and never would. It sounds like you have little faith that people can value their partner above their own pleasures. And that is an entirely different topic then self love. And one can easily love themselves and put someone elses needs before thier own. In fact it can be argued that is the only way to do that. Becauae with out true self worth it is impossible to see tje true worth in others.
It would almost aeem your argument is you arw better then others. I would imagine this borders on narcism more so then true love of self.
no not really.. it's more that everyone around me is a messed up relationship.. marrying people who cheated on them.. marrying people they cheated on. marrying people because they dn't think they deserve better or will find better (friends have actually admitted this). marrying people they tried to break up with but couldn't because that person went psycho every time. It's more that I'm surrounded by people making very wrong choices. And then there are the people who did marry for all the right reasons but then ended up divorced. Crazy world... also nice to know a lot of people didn't pick up on the sarcasm and chose instead to think I'm narcissist. Whatever...
"I've been single my entire life"
"My longest relationship was 3 years"
? ?
I'm confused too. I guess she means not married?
? ?
Was scoping on this as well!
oh yeah thought to address that. I've had mostly short-lived relationships. It was 1 year dating, and then 2 years just sex.. wasn't really much of a relationship. I just mean that I'm the opposite of a serial dater. I'm usually single for 2 to 3 years between relationsihps so I guess I should say "mostly single".. whatever.
it's simple... nobody wants to be lonely
it's our nature
Frodo got back from Mordor already by the time I got halfway through this. Could you summarise in 5 sentences?
1 - I own LOTR and the book is much longer than my article
2 - Yes:
A) If you want to be in a relationship you have two options: be a jerk, or date a jerk
B) If you don't care, then be a good person. Don't put up with anyone else.
C) My entire article might just be sarcasm but I don't really know right now
Yeah, i agree. i could say a lot but dont have time now, and basically i agree.
points for being perceptive and unique in your analysis. :)
completely agree and can relate with you. I guess relationship werent made for everyone...
and thats what you girls get for going for the "players" aka alpha males, bad boys, and jerks, instead of the nice guys, but whatever.
Hypergamy will never change in women but if men had parental rights, reproductive rights, didn't face such collosal hatred in the media and legal system women would find that they aren't all the cheating, childmolesting rapists that feminism paints them as. finding that women would find men with strength, power and real investment in strong relationships and wouldn't ever need to marry nor date the shy beta white knight because there would be far fewer of them around.
It goes both ways. I wasn't choosing genders in my article. If you're a nice female, guys treat you like shit. If you're a nice guy, girls treat you like shit.
I once dated a guy cus everyone knew him to be a nice guy... he wasn't so nice anymore when we dated...
yes but, obviously, he wasn't a nice guy, so dont label him one. and dont assume all guys treat nice girls like shit. and vise versa, but i'd lean more toward girls tho with treating nice guys bad.
@ClaudiusDecimus @ParamountArmada @aamina_m I just wonder if the future would have been mostly populated by women like for example there would be ratio of 7 women to 1 man, would that change a women behaviour and the roles to be reversed and females would start chasing males like crazy? I mean it's unreal but I just like to wonder around with my futuristic ideas.
@YellowCactus girls dont give a shit now they won't in the fictional world you described.
@YellowCactus This already happens. Many pundits on the subject have shown why 80% of women chase 20% of the men. Feminists have even suggested a partial male genocide (seriously) - I think it was Mary Daly and a few other prominent feminists.
The dynamics of sexual Market Value (SMV) have been talked about endlessly by people like Roosh V, Rollo Thomasei and many others but essentially women prefer to be chased and compete with each other. Unfortunately WHAT they chase is laughable. I've personally applied for jobs in the fire and police service and failed to get both despite passing the physical tests and role play interviews with flying colours. I'm 6ft'5, incredibly strong and in my mid thirties but they'd rather have women to make up the "Equality" numbers (they actually told us this AFTER we'd spent months preparing). My point in saying this is that women get attached to labels when it comes to themselves and men. I now earn far more in a science job, but am seen as a 'geek'.
Anything is possible though on the whole I don't agree. It's far easier for even a plain woman to go out and get laid, not so for guys - especially the "nice" ones. Guys like that can often be nasty because they assume attraction is based on the things they do for women and so expect reciprocation. They fail to understand that attraction isn't a choice and that you can't buy your way into love or sex with money or deeds. That said many men also buy into the Alpha/Beta routine which is just another pile of horsesh*t because women typically divide men into those two different types based on their social status and jobs. I've known plenty of guys who were policemen/firefighters who date a lot and aren't "bad boys" at all, they're complete pussies acting out a part. As I said before you can have the wild sex, intimacy, love and even kids but the law gets in the way for men BIG TIME. That's why so many are checking out nowadays.. it's just not worth it.
@YellowCactus Women are already chasing men. At least in my city and my circle of friends that's how it is.
@aamina_m Do guys put any effort at all in your environment when women chase them?
I'm sorry but you don't know anything about love at all.
I agree 100 % with you, I'm so sick of it , it's really aggravating
I feel like I just read something my mum wrote...
No, that is NOT a good thing.
Holy shit, I've never in my life expected a woman to understand this.
SHE"S A WITCH!
"already moved on to the next big thing"... sounds like AADD
y do people think they've cracked some code when they use exceptions to void generalizations?