Can I say that you don't need to be excellent at Communication to actually communicate. Communication is the staple ingredient that builds a foundation for any type of relationship to successfully work. Communication is needed everywhere, it's essential to workplace relationships, essential for all romantic relationships, essential to family and friend relationships and essential to parent children relationships.
Communication enables us to sort out issues that come up in everyday life with other key parties as quickly and efficiently as possible. When you approach a person all you have to do and believe me it will take you less than a minute is to state what the issue is for you, how it's currently affecting you and what it is you need in that moment. Here is an example:
"Honey, the kids are pretty full on right now, they are driving me crazy, I really feel like I'm going to explode in a minute, I just need some breathing space, can you help me?"
Now because you have gone directly to another key person that you feel may be able to assist you have offloaded a huge weight in a matter of seconds. If my partner came to me and said exactly that, I would instantly become a team player in this relationship after all relationships are based on team members working as team players. My thinking cap would come straight on because I know that if it wasn't serious my man would not have come to me in the first place. I might in this example suggest myself taking the kids out to the park and giving him a chance to have a breather and relax in peace.
I think it's important to understand that communication allows others to understand what is happening for someone else. When we don't communicate we end up sitting around feeling hard done by and getting increasingly upset and angry and then we end up taking out our anger on poor innocent unsuspecting people around us. Sitting around brooding in a bad mood is way too toxic, it brings everyone down. No one has time to play a guessing game of why you might be angry, no one should have to. If we are grown adults we need to step forward and speak up.
Men don't like to communicate too much because it seems to make them feel emasculated and too feminine however in marriage/romantic relationships, believe me no one is thinking this way or keeping score.
Forget about feeling like less of a man because your asking your partner for help, don't look at it that way because no one else is, talk to your woman, be clear and to the point but be respectful. You will be amazed at how much you can fix if you just communicated.
Yes sometimes not everything can be fixed straight away depending on the issue at hand but certainly not even trying is a disaster waiting to happen, non communication is what complicates life in the end.
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