They were a friend. You wanted more. It never materialized. It hurts. But I agree that growing apart due to situations neither can control is far worse. You want something to blame. Yet, it's everyone and no one's fault.
Much harder than when you can point to a single act of betrayal, and blame the other. There, you at least feel vindication. Or, if you feel it's your own fault, you can at least rationalize some form of penance.
When it's simply time, money, distance, and cultural barriers that overcome you, there's no vindication not redemption. Nothing to satisfy that longing for meaningful closure.
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Every guy i ever liked and pursued didn't wanna be with me so its hard dealing with it. thanks for this take !
Good take.
@SuitAndTie I'm tagging you again because it's how I do.
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great mytake, insightful with sound advice
I've been through this myself so can empathize, pining for said girl caused me an incredible amount of angst.
I don’t get it. There’s nothing to “get over” you never had them...
They were a friend. You wanted more. It never materialized. It hurts. But I agree that growing apart due to situations neither can control is far worse. You want something to blame. Yet, it's everyone and no one's fault.
Much harder than when you can point to a single act of betrayal, and blame the other. There, you at least feel vindication. Or, if you feel it's your own fault, you can at least rationalize some form of penance.
When it's simply time, money, distance, and cultural barriers that overcome you, there's no vindication not redemption. Nothing to satisfy that longing for meaningful closure.
*nor redemption
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This is how I feel about a certain crush. I just feel like it's too late now.
This doesn't really help me get over Keira Metz because my idea of her is exactly how she is
The sorceress?
What?
I think about it all the time. Even though she was way out of my league, I couldn't help but wonder why the other guys had that I didn't.
AngelicSin, were you just listening to the 1970 Linda Ronstadt song "Long Long Time"?
I still think about girls I could have had but never made a move on from over 7 years ago...
I have to learn that too. Always make that same mistake
It's difficult but sleep and playing the games will sort out the best solution for me lol
You can't miss something you never had, only get obsessed by it.
Yes, I'm sure that people with delusions have a hard time letting go of them.
remove them from your life completely ignore them forever until you’re over it
Why would I need to get over someone if I've never had them
MOVE ON!
Exactly!
Take a vacation to clear your head.
great advice I've had to learn this for myself.
It's very difficult indeed. Very nice mytake.
Find someone who crushes on you