Heartbreak. Hard thing to get over, but it's possible. This is such a common topic that is everywhere in this world, not just on this site and pretty much everyone has experienced it but with different ways. This is getting over someone you love, not including anything about winning them back/hoping for it. Just making that part clear.
There’s No Time Limit
It's true, time is a healer but it also can create the pressure of getting over stuff quicker than you personally can. However, there isn't a set time limit to how long you should take to get over someone that you love. You only tend to feel weary about it once it's been months or even years and you know that you didn't move on yet. It's okay to feel like that, it's normal. There's no help beating yourself over the fact that it's taking time to heal, because there really is no time limit. It fully depends on how you as a person handle things personally, no one can know but you.
Let your emotions come through
None of us like those sad, hurt and angry emotions that just make everything in life feel negative. But in these cases, we do need to go through that process of grieving which grasps the denial, depression, blame, anger and even desperation with the mix of false hope. It's an ongoing feel that can leave you and then suddenly appear again. It would feel like the emotions are endless but try to go with it, it helps to accept the feelings for what they are being made out to be .. a means to an end.
Social media / phone
Safe to say, in this era, everything revolves around connecting with people through social media, so the use of your phone. It's the easiest way to keep in connection on seeing the person you're wanting to get over, keeping tabs on what they're up to and all. The problem with that is this is the obstacle that is keeping you from giving yourself the space to heal. To get over someone you need the consider taking them off all social media platforms. This could be the last thing you want to do but there's that saying ' the best things to do aren't always the most comfortable.' Seeing them is just going to open up another emotion and that wound would take ages to heal. After the pain of deleting them off those platforms, there should be a somewhat empowerment feeling which would be good for you. Taking things into your own hands.
Love yourself
The blame game. We are all so good at this individually. Blaming ourself is really easy and we straight away believe that we aren't good enough for them/ the relationship. Doesn't matter how confident of a person you are, there's that unworthiness feeling that you suddenly obtain. In saying this, the worth that you have, is not tied to them, you're your own person. The identity that you have is not tied to what you had with them. Loving yourself is one of the most important things that you can do in a situation like this.
There's more than one person in the world
You're probably thinking.. 'woaahh don't come at me with this cliché ,' but it's true.. this Earth has billions of people. I can assure you that you'd 110% be feeling that they are the only one for you but it's hard to believe that there is anyone else that could make you laugh like they could or have so much in common. But there is other ways to connect with people, bonds are made in unique and weird ways. There was a reason why it didn't work out, but you're growing as a person now and that will continue.
The light at the end of the tunnel
No. I'm not talking about heaven -.- You're not dying!
You will feel like you're in darkness and no one cares for awhile. It would be scary especially if it's your first time feeling it, or if you're hurt in a very bad way. But as much as you're going to hate me for saying this, there will come a day when you'll come out the other side. It'll be wonderful, you'll feel you again and you'd be that much strong and better of a person because of it.
You may feel alone but millions of people have been through the exact same process in their own unique way and have seen the light at the end of the tunnel
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I been going through heartbreak for almost one year coz that person was leading me on inspite of their knowledge about my feelings. It was yesterday I realised that the person I love ahs completely changed and is someone who I don't even know at all. Don't let live blind you from facing the facts of life. Heartbreak is hard but if u think about all your time together there are people out there who are going through the same situation be it your friends or someone in your family. Just know that it is their loss for not choosing you. Sooner or later they will regret it and by that time you will have moved on.
Honestly, I would meet a woman and think, she's the one, and then it wouldn't work and I'd be heart broken, but then someone else would come along and I'd be like, she's the one... you are right, there's so many people out there
I have done these steps a million times over, but nothing works. maybe something is wrong with me? i can say that these definitely work after a breakup, but not all type of breakups. some breakups leave you dead inside because of how much you loved and cared about that person, i hope moving on is possible, but it's doesn't seem like it for me
That's how I feel right now too. I gave so much of myself into the relationship, changed my life and myself as a person for nothing in the end. Only for her to have jumped into another relationship the moment we broke up 1 week before my birthday. Completely wrecked me and made me falsely believe we could be together when she had no intentions of fighting for us.
Sometimes I go to the gym and hang out with friends, I just can't see someone else atm.. it's too soon, I still feel extremely sad sometimes during night.
I think if we have no problems no more we make it easy on partners to do what they want. I think that is what they are after that. That is the reason this society does not want to see problems. In reality love is to support and help each other and deepens the relationsship. But our society makes it look as if something is wrong with having problems. Do we seek love or do we seek to be free. That is the question.
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