What Is A Toxic Relationship?

[cmdrop]

Relationships can be hard. Sorry, scratch that. Relationships are hard. But realistically, some can be to a certain extent.

We all argue, regardless if family, friend or even a lover. It doesn't matter, we all compare our values and beliefs and our own personal rights to one another and we fight because we believe that's for our own good.

But what happens if you're in a toxic relationship? How are you supposed to know that? It's pretty hard to realize, since love may be blocking the reality of your relationship with your partner.

So what are the main things to look out for to find out if you're in a toxic relationship?

1. Control

Control over somebody, especially when in love is extremely toxic. You may think that controlling your lover's actions is right, to "prevent" such things from happening. Well, let me to you that control is not the way to go.

If your partner is controlling, maybe he/she involve manipulation or perhaps blackmail, well let me tell you that you need to leave them.

No, seriously.

If you think you were under control of somebody, doing one's bidding and all that other crap, and if perhaps compromising is not the way to go for him/her, then you have to think for yourself at this point. This individual is taking away your rights and will's like you're a slave to them. A loving and trusty relationship is not about being one's slave, but being equal and happy and free. If there is an issue that bothers one of you, talking it out and coming up with a solution is healthy.

After all, your partner is not your parent.

2. Greed

Let's say it's your partners birthday. And you are there for their birthday and you give them a gift. They aren't pleased when you hand them it. They don't even appreciate that you're there. You can tell by the way they grab it and their facial expression. That kind of silence they give out.

But wait... it's a gift. What do they actually want? A golden house with 10 Lamborghini's from you?

A lot of toxic relationships involve people who are just with you for the kicks and fun of using you as their candy man.

If you can tell how they drain money from you, how much actual effort you put into buying them something that will make them happy, but they're still not satisfied with it, then that's another sign.

3. Communication

Right, so let's say you guys fight a lot. But why is that? You guys may not be greedy or controlive, as said above but perhaps you guys just keep talking over one another. Perhaps it is the way your partner delivers his/her points to you.

If your partner never lets you talk, keeps interrupting you and you aren't given the freedom of speech to say how you feel or what you're intending to do, in that case, that is very unhealthy for your relationship.

Yup, another sign of toxicity.

This clearly shows that your partner may be insecure about himself/herself, wants to just jump on you with every intention and thought he/she can handle but you can't, and that may hurt you additionally.

Both of you should have the right to say your part to come to an agreement.

4. Abuse

This may be the hardest one to handle for all of you out there that go through that.

Relationships that involve abuse can go all the way from verbal abuse to emotional abuse to even physical abuse.

If do you go through any of that, leave them right now.

Love is, in fact, a weakness for you to keep forgiving them and bringing them back into your life. But remember, this is about yourself now. Would you ever let a stranger or anybody else treat you the same way?

In that case, regardless if you are deeply in love with your partner and this keeps happening over and over in a vicious cycle, you are the responsible one to break it at this moment.

If you will keep letting your partner do that to you, this will hurt you more and more with time and this may even impact your own mental and emotional stability, even physical to that matter.

If things get really bad and threatening, call the local authorities right away.

We all love being in love, being happy, showing off to our friends that we are taken, love feeling loved and safe because of someone.

But sometimes, that stuff may be all in front of you and you're not even realizing it.

Take care of yourself for your own greater good and make sure to stay strong.

Good luck to all of you!

[AmericanMuscle]

Wanna know why modern relationships suck and are toxic? It's because girls just use guys in every situation. When girls are young and single, especially at college, they just open their legs to dozens and dozens of guys and then when they get bored of that they find some poor beta-male cuck to date. So girls use hot guys for sex and betas for relationships. So girls just have like 50 dicks go in them before they wanna settle. So relationships aren't special anymore, hence why they suck. My opinion of course.

[ACharp423]

I'm very loyal to my boyfriend of 3 years and he's the one that shits on me and uses me for my house, car, and money.

[AmericanMuscle]

@ACharp423 I didn't say guys weren't toxic. I just find girls are way more toxic.

[jellyroo]

My God, which extensive scientific study did you read to figure this out? I better read it.
Or... It's based on your feelings. Which would be uh, far less impressive.

[Audiofox]

Relationships aren’t special anymore because a woman had a lot of sex in college? Are relationships not special because of men doing precisely the same thing in college? How does a woman having sex with other people before hand have anything to do with her current relationship?

[AmericanMuscle]

@Audiofox it just maker her used up. It's why relationships rarely work. Girls are so used to fucking hundreds of guys that they find it hard to be loyal.

[Audiofox]

So it doesn’t work the same way with particularly good looking men in college? Sex doesn’t make them “used up”?

I’d say psychologically it has the same effect on either gender. So why are only women perceived as being potentially disloyal when statistics show that cheating is often split 50/50 for both men and women?

And if you think all women are getting laid like crazy you’d be wrong. It’s much harder for a woman with fewer charms than the current culture says is required to get laid. As a pale, very tall woman with an average face I can guarantee it’s not easy at all unless I felt like being rejected with “get out of here, you’re ugly” 70% of the time.

[AmericanMuscle]

@Audiofox girls sleep around more than guys. You could fuck a new guy every weekend if you wanted to. Sex is much easier to get for girls. The average woman probably fucks around 40 guys in her life. The typical attractive girls has hundreds. So yes girls sleep around much more than guys.

[Audiofox]

I really don’t think that’s provably true. I think young, good looking men and women are both equally involved in sex.

[cmdrop]

I respect your opinion as you've said above with your reason.

However, not all women are like this. True, there are women out there who are thirsty for men, but that doesn't prove any fact at all that men are perfectly innocent beings while women destroy men and themselves. We are all imperfect.

[Logorithim]

Very good, and useful Take. You know it when you see it or are suffering in one. How people can treat each other as badly as they do in toxic relationships is beyond me.

[cmdrop]

Precisely. Seeing people treat each other worthlessly without even a single thought about what they're doing is so careless and ruthless and it ends up causing a havoc on their own personal mindset.

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes - I would say a toxic relationship is a relationship where you hurt the other person either through abuse or neglect

[cmdrop]

You never know. It may be you or the other person. Either without realization or not. Hell, even with intentions possibly.

[Anonymous]

Toxic relationships can be found anywhere.
Between friends and co-workers too.

[cmdrop]

Very true. But it mainly, of course, depends on the person especially.

[Kaneki05]

I've been in a toxic realtionship and i think the hardest thing is once all this starts happeing i became addicted to it all and it just became normal and after that it effects everything.

[mishanw_1071]

personally, i think a toxic relationship is were you do more harm than good to each other, this can be a relationship or a friendship

[clampfan101]

Nicely said.

How do you type in different sizes, bold, and italic?

[cmdrop]

When you're typing in the box with your written text for your myTake, above in that box you get a bar that runs along with "B" sign and also an italic sign beside it as well.
To change the font, the only way is to add in a header which is in the same place as the Bold and the Italic signs, just to the top left.
Hope that helps! :D

[clampfan101]

So only in Takes? Oh, well. Thanks.

[cmdrop]

I think it only applies in Takes so far, but I'm not exactly sure about questions and poles.

[red_knight]

In order to say we have truly lived one must have at some point in life faced a toxic relationship...

[pizzalovershouse]

Being over cruel with mean words an be violent physically

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Good job. Manipulation is the worst. They will drain the life out of you.

[torken]

intoxicate me now, with your lovin' now.

[cmdrop]

Perfect! 😂

[Anonymous]

You forgot number 5: Disrespect.

I found that I"ve taken more shit than I should from some women over the years thinking that "since there a lady I'm supposed to tolerate it" but I won't.

[mvp78]

inflicting pain upon eachother we would normally inflict on our selfs

[Anonymous]

men never forget this women create toxic relationships
not men

[nerdy_girl]

Uhm, not all women. First of all, anyone of whatever gender can create a toxic relationship. Second of all, It all depends on the type of person that they're with.

[Opinion Owner]

@nerdy_girl

( PROOF that Women are Psychopaths - MGTOW ) youtube it

[Opinion Owner]

there is a reason girls like ass holes

[Anonymous]

those sound like the things girls look for in a man

[Kayla45]

Arguments first come to mind!

[Anonymous]

Control, Greed, Abuse...
SO essentially almost every relationship with a female?

[Queen-of-Hearts]

You've never met a real woman, have you? Cause real women are ladies, and they DON'T act like spoiled greedy bratts, or abusive feminazis. I'm sorry your experience with females has caused you to think otherwise. 😞

[Sweetmagee2]

Omg that’s so awful. I wish I was all those things. Maybe I’d get a man to be nicer to me

[Opinion Owner]

@Queen-of-Hearts My personal experience with women is irrelevant to the general standard of female actions.
Yes, of course, there are "some women" who don't act like this but generally speaking, most do.

Of all the men I know, all the females I know, and of all the relationships I have seen in the media... I have NEVER seen a female who doesn't try to "change a man", who doesn't try and stop a guy from doing something he loves, hanging with his friends, or being a certain way.
This is why there is an infamous concept in society that women always try and change a man after she gets with him. This is "controlling".

Society is based on the concept of males having to buy women gifts for everything. Dating, when they screw up, the entire premise behind the bullshit of "Happy wife, happy life". This is Greed.

There isn't a female on the planet who hasn't expected a male to read their mind and simply "Know" what is wrong. "I'm fine" is a female go to. *Communication

...

[Opinion Owner]

... it is expected that women can hit or slap a male she disagrees with. It is shown in media as a go-to reaction without issue.
71% of all non-reciprocated abuse is female to male.
A female has no issue calling a man stupid or berate him when she is angry or she disagrees. This is abuse.

[Queen-of-Hearts]

Again. These are actions of a whiney bratt or abusive diva. These are not women acting like women. They're acting stupid, immature, and yes, greedily.
But that doesn't mean that's how most women are. And it doesn't mean it is how women are supposed to be.

[cmdrop]

Even though you may have had personal experience with toxicity from as you've said, females, that doesn't prove a point that almost every female in the world is toxic.

My ex's best friend's boyfriend, he is EXTREMELY toxic to her. Whenever we've gone to parties, he'd freak out over everything, he'd control his girlfriend all over the place, he'd tell her what to do and because of him, she smokes weed now.

t hurts to see this happen, but if you truly think women are as bad, so are men.

[cmdrop]

@Queen-of-Hearts That is very well and realistically said.

[Opinion Owner]

At no point have I ever said ALL women. I said it's a general mentality which is truer than not. You can disagree but the basic observations of society and stats prove my point.

[Queen-of-Hearts]

I never said you said all. I said you said most.

[Opinion Owner]

@Queen-of-Hearts And that is a correct statement.
The majority of women will try and change a guy
The majority of women will try and stop a guy from doing something they don't like or agree with
The majority of women have no issue smacking a guy they disagree with somehow. Ie. the 71% of non-reciprocated abuse.

You may not like facts, but it doesn't stop them from being true.

www.dailymail.co.uk/.../...artners-appearance.html

www.telegraph.co.uk/.../...n-in-relationships.html

[Queen-of-Hearts]

Okay first up, the 2nd one you just changed. You used to say they stopped men from doing what they want. Now you say they just stop them from doing something bad? Well duh if he's doing something bad they SHOULD try to stop him! And if she's doing something bad he SHOULD try to stop her! Lol seriously, it's bad and wrong for a reason.

And for the 3rd one, I don't believe thats true. Especially with all the gender equality and #metoo going about, this is no longer very much the case. Yes there's plenty of slappers out there, but most women know that violence isn't okay, even if it doesn't "hurt," it's bad.

But the 1st one yes, that's kinda true. Women do have a habit of trying to "change" their man. But they don't have to force it, you know. Lots of times it won't work-- most of the time probably-- and they are trying to help, even if it's kinda stupid. They (typically) aren't trying to manipulate him, they're trying to help him be a better person. Like the 2nd one.

Seriously. Dude..

[Opinion Owner]

@Queen-of-Hearts Where did I say stop from doing something bad?

The #metoo garbage is a fuckin joke. There was one or two males who committed actual crimes and then a shit ton of males who were falsely accused of crimes based on bullshit like "unwanted advancements" which is also beside the point since physical abuse in this context obviously means hitting not sexual.

If a female is "trying to help" by stopping a guy from talking to certain friends, doing certain things they enjoy, dressing certain ways, etc. She is only helping HERSELF. She is assuming HER way is right and his is wrong.

I guarantee that even you yourself have tried to stop a partner from hanging out with someone simply because you didn't like them. This is so common it's cliche.

[Queen-of-Hearts]

Um, no. I haven't. I have tried to convince him to stop hanging out with a few of his friends because they push him to drink-- too much-- and he listens to them, and its not healthy. I should have done more, maybe then we wouldn't be in this situation now. But that was not just because I "didn't like" them-- it's because it was BAD.

I don't buy your shit about any of that. For him to wear certain outfits, stop perfectly fine activities, and stop hanging around fine friends-- why? Why the hell would women do that? That is obscenely controlling and not normal behavior-- by either gender!

Oh, wait. We DON'T. 🙄 Because that's STUPID.

[HereIbe]

My previous marriage.

[JellyDonutguy96]

when he or she uses poison fang

[VixenRach]

Okay

[LegateLanius]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

Right on point...

[Anonymous]

True points indeed