I agree with everything except the part where you say that relationships should be easy. I think some relationships take work, and if you are not willing to put in the work then you should break it off.
I think what the author means is that she's writing this for women from the point of view of a girl. It's a checklist for women. However, if you swap the pronouns (he for she) then it would apply to men as well.
YES,he's always busy,1,2,4, I am not sure if he makes promise that can keep. He asked me to movie in with him, is that a commit? But he still haven't found the place.
All relationships require some maintenance work. The trick is to be able to take pride in the fruit of your labor. It only becomes a problem if your work proves fruitless time and again.
Hmmm, well I agree with everything you've said. IF and only if these are standards you've BOTH set. A lot of those issues can be settled simply by communicating both your wants and desires. If they don't match up, then maybe you're better off as friends or "friends" never settle. A normal relationship has enough problems without going into one thinking; "he/she will do" so many people place such importance on the act of being in a relationship. We lose sight of why they exist!
"It doesn't matter how busy he is, if you matter, he will do everything he can to get to you." Truth: I rode 30mi. through the mountains on a road bike just to hang out with my best friend and her family when they went camping; I was invited, of course, they just didn't know I'd ride my bike. haha
This is all common sense but you picking on bromance is a redflag of a ball buster and something I just disagree with completely friendships are good for both sexes
Also people defending Bromances. If your friends always come first, e. g. it's her birthday/graduation vs. football game/party with your friends, and your friends win, it is a problem.
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I agree with everything except the part where you say that relationships should be easy. I think some relationships take work, and if you are not willing to put in the work then you should break it off.
I think what the author means is that she's writing this for women from the point of view of a girl. It's a checklist for women. However, if you swap the pronouns (he for she) then it would apply to men as well.
"It doesn't matter how busy he is, if you matter, he will do everything he can to get to you."
Well I do love my girl, I love her to bits and I know she does too,
there are times I am tooo busy with my work that I forgot to call her,
but that doesn't mean our relationship was at the edge.
it just means respecting the space for each other...
YES,he's always busy,1,2,4, I am not sure if he makes promise that can keep. He asked me to movie in with him, is that a commit? But he still haven't found the place.
All relationships require some maintenance work. The trick is to be able to take pride in the fruit of your labor. It only becomes a problem if your work proves fruitless time and again.
Hmmm, well I agree with everything you've said. IF and only if these are standards you've BOTH set. A lot of those issues can be settled simply by communicating both your wants and desires. If they don't match up, then maybe you're better off as friends or "friends" never settle. A normal relationship has enough problems without going into one thinking; "he/she will do" so many people place such importance on the act of being in a relationship. We lose sight of why they exist!
"It doesn't matter how busy he is, if you matter, he will do everything he can to get to you." Truth: I rode 30mi. through the mountains on a road bike just to hang out with my best friend and her family when they went camping; I was invited, of course, they just didn't know I'd ride my bike. haha
I think You are pretty right :) and Yes we girls avoid all the flags poping all the time because we want it to work...
Very good article. Great advice, really. I wish more girls listened to this. (and a lot of it applies to guys too).
@yopyopyop I'm pretty sure you're right...except yes, I am generalizing. And just because you stay in a relationship doesn't mean you should.
I know a few examples of contrary results to every single "reason" you've invoked.
There is no generality when it comes to lasting relationships.
@Roidicus That's some devotion! Lol
@Serena18...as long as you aren't sharing needles...I say yes. Do everything with responsibility of course.
You are dead on. Good article. Number one and 2 are instant giveaways that women ignore the most often.
This is all common sense but you picking on bromance is a redflag of a ball buster and something I just disagree with completely friendships are good for both sexes
Thank goodness I don't fit any of these phew. or her
I really liked this article. You made some very good points. Five star rating for you.
Good article! I recognized a couple of them in previous relationships ^^
I have two out of ten,
hes controlling & we fight and argue alot.
is that enough reason to end it?
Also people defending Bromances. If your friends always come first, e. g. it's her birthday/graduation vs. football game/party with your friends, and your friends win, it is a problem.
so what are the 10 signs women give us in situations like these?