We all know men and women are naturally different in almost every way. Well, this take is about two factors that cause so many misunderstandings, and inevitably fights in a relationship. They are very simple, very basic, yet so many people are completely unaware of them. And the best part is - they are like a bump on the sidewalk - once you see it, and realize it exists - you can't trip over it ever again! The examples I use are very basic, I'm not a screenplay writer nor did I take enough time and energy for writing this in detail, so don't judge them too harshly. Finally, just note that these are general rules and guidelines, there are exceptions to the rule of course, but it does apply to the majority.
Without further ado, they are:
1. Difference in statements
Women's opinions and words are heavily based on the feelings they are currently experiencing. Not all of course, if a woman is/isn't a fan of a certain type of food, or if she is/isn't a slut or whatever, that is not going to change overnight because of her current feelings. But things they say in the moment and in a regular conversation are much less reliable than a man's are. Does that mean women are liars? Of course not. That is the way they naturally function. Men, on the other hand, throughout history always had to keep their word. A man who couldn't keep his word wasn't worth shit in the eyes of society. Therefore, men learned not to give statements quite as easily (I'm not counting lying to get into a girls pants, that's another category entirely), but when they do, they had to keep it. That's why men's statements are much more firm and based in the logical-mathematical way of thinking. Obviously, this can cause many misunderstandings
Example
Her: Hey, I had a nice time tonight, how about we repeat this again tomorrow, at 7 pm?
Him: Sure, looking forward to it!
*tomorrow*
Her: (I feel really sleepy and bored, I don't feel like going out again at all) Hey, just called to tell you that I'm busy tonight, we'll go out some other day!
Him: (Man, she stood me up, she doesn't like me at all, she was just lying to me!)
2. Difference in talking about problems
It's the 21st century, and we all know that men are not made of stone, that we can feel very weak, emotional and what not. However, there is a reason why men have always had both the role and the reputation of being emotionless - we are less emotional than women. So when we confess to a friend and talk about problems, it's more like a business briefing - we want concrete ideas and potential solutions to the problem. Women, on the other hand, usually only seek comfort. They want to be heard and understood, that's it. Clearly, this also causes oh so many issues
Example
Her: I had a fight with Janet today! We were best friends, I don't know what to do without her!
Him: Well why don't you try to reconcile with her?
Her: Are you crazy? I can't get over the things she said to me!
Him: Hmm...ok, then why don't you call up a few other friends, and go out with them?
Her: I don't feel like going out at all!
Him: Fuck, well, then try to take some time off just for yourself?
Her: Do you think I'm stupid, that I haven't thought of that myself?
Him: Look I don't know what the fuck do you want from me anymore?! Solve your problems by yourself!
Her: You are such a fucking dick, you are never there for me!
Thank you for reading. I hope this will help some of you avoid these mistakes and the unnecessary fights that go along with them. Leave your creative or interesting responses below.
Cheers.
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