...Not in this life.
Which is fine too. It's not the end of the world but it is unfortunate enough. Some depend on the others too much or start seriously degrading when they're put for once entirely on their own for a prolonged time (break up, business trip, divorce, death of that beloved someone). All they had was put in that person and now that person is gone. The loss is by no means something we should suppress but to get up on your own when you're done.
When one never had it before and all this person ever had was either himself/herself/itself or money or both, this person - if that person is the survival type - adapts to the situation... Eventually. Thus, a lone wolf was created.
But who is that someone, that they keep being attached to? Girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, kids, parents, aunts, uncles, friends, mentors... the list is endless.
How is natural selection relevant here? Simple.
Naturally and unable and unwilling to blame anybody women tend to mate with whoever they want - as do we. We are generally looking for different things. Men look for healthy, beauty, youth, kindness and good spirited women. Women look for the healthy, strong, resourceful, protective and big men.
Fact is men are more dependent on their DNA for those desirable traits and not everyone is lucky to not land in a defective DNA group, that natural selection does not favor of. I happen to be part of that defective DNA group. More on that later.
Frankly speaking I did try dating for kind of a long time and no results were shown from dating. I am 25 years old at this time.
It's not like I am not confident, broke, unambitious, ugly, have no sense in fashion, rude, alcoholic, deceiver, abusive, greedy and so on...
But it surely feels like there is somebody out there, who I must have unknowingly pissed off so much, that this somebody bribes the women to ignore me or reject me and to strictly never talk about it.
For some reason women are more demanded in the dating world than we men are. I am still trying to understand why it was and is so.
People keep saying, that dating is a numbers game like gambling. Out of 100 only 2 and a half may say yes. It's all about repeating the same thing and improving the next attempts.
But there are factors to increase or decrease those odds. I am not aware what's the problem: Is it me, is it them, is it us all?
We live in an era, where money is the center of society. I have health defects since I was a schoolboy. I suffer from Myopia, have a serious chronic medical condition with my respiratory problems: my nose septum is constantly blocked and I have to breathe through the mouth and I am sensitive to particles in the air (I cough a lot in just slightly polluted space), my teeth are crooked and I am lethargic from my depression.
In a way I see those health problems as undesired properties by the opposite sex.
This is not Germany, where the insurance company covers a significant cost of your healthcare. Here and today the patients themselves fund the medical surgeries - which I will have to do anyway but until I save up for those surgeries very much time will be lost.
If only I could live with someone special to share the monthly price of housing I could kill 2 birds with one stone: solve these medical conditions twice as fast and hers too if she has any and not being outside of natural selection anymore. But it's not going to happen since it is a kind of a catch-22 problem.
On the last note, I understand natural selection and women's reasons to mate with somebody. Hypergamy is a thing after all.
Some things were not meant to happen. I'm not going to ask "but why me of all?". I am going with "That's unfortunate. Well then. So be it". Nevertheless I can still make something no matter how much devotion is required because I got little to lose either way. Natural selection doesn't like me and it is destined to be this way. In the meantime with my time I'll build a very close relationship with money and businesses and marry my job.
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